Note to Herself

In this last episode of Season 1 of Note to Herself, we’re ending on a high note: That 40s Glow Up. You know the confidence, clarity, and freedom that shows up while you’re still healing, still evolving, and finally choosing yourself. This is the era where you come home to yourself— and let go of who you thought you had to be to fully embrace who you are. In this episode, we talk about: ✨ Why you...

The world feels like a lot right now. So how do you stay informed without losing your peace? In this episode of Note to Herself, we’re having an honest conversation about news overload, outrage, and what it looks like to protect your peace in real time. It’s about figuring out how to stay aware, empathetic, and grounded—without becoming overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally drained. We talk about t...

Healing doesn’t always feel peaceful. In this episode of Note to Herself, we talk about emotional healing, trauma, church hurt, self-abandonment, boundaries, and what it really takes to reconnect with yourself. Sometimes healing looks like grief, accountability, discomfort, nervous system regulation, and finally telling yourself the truth. Listener Note / Trigger Warning: This episode includes con...

Nobody warns you that some of your hardest breakups won’t be romantic, they’ll be friendships. In this episode of Note to Herself, Kia and Krystel get honest about friendship breakups; the kind that don’t come with drama or betrayal, just distance, growth, and change. Losing friends as you get older doesn’t always look like a fight. It could look like unanswered calls that go longer and longer in...

Being a good mother, daughter, friend, or partner shouldn’t require disappearing from who you are and what you want from life. In Episode 4 of the Note to Herself podcast, Kia and Krystel get honest about something many women experience but rarely name: self-abandonment. This conversation explores what it looks like to slowly lose yourself in caregiving, expectations, and the pressure to be everyt...

Is modern dating actually broken — or are we approaching it the wrong way? In Episode 3 of the Note to Herself podcast, Kia and Krystel unpack the chaos of modern dating, the viral coffee date debate, and the role that attachment styles, social media narratives, and unrealistic expectations play in how people date today. In this episode, we discuss: ✨Modern dating culture and the pressure created...

Everyone online is talking about the “soft life.” But most of what we see is the aesthetic version—robes, candles, matcha lattes, and curated calm. In this episode of Note to Herself , Kia and Krystel talk about what a real soft life actually looks like in your 40s—and why it often costs more than people think. In our world, softness isn’t effortless, it’s intentional. We talk about what it takes...

Welcome to the very first episode of Note to Herself — the podcast for women 40+ who are done editing themselves. In Episode 1, “ She’s In Her Grown Woman Bag ,” hosts Kia and Krystel dive into identity, authenticity, midlife growth, and what it really means to stop over-explaining yourself. We’re talking about: ✨ The difference between finding yourself vs. truly knowing yourself ✨ Why women in...

The Note to Herself Podcast is for women 40+ who are done editing themselves. Hosted by Kia McCallister-Young and Krystel Spell — two longtime friends in their forties — this podcast is an honest, unfiltered space for women navigating identity, relationships, and the reclamation of personal power. Each episode explores three things: who you are now, what you’re ready to release, and what you’re st...