Note 2 Self

Nobody Wants This Season 3 makes community look effortless, but real life takes work. This week Saskia goes from marathon Grinch to the 4 ways she’s learning to nurture adult friendships. This week on Note 2 Self: Why Saskia becomes the Grinch of the New York City Marathon New segment: NYC obsessions! Starting with her favourite affordable massage in Brooklyn Nobody Wants This Season 3 breakdown:...

This week on Note 2 Self, Saskia went to an AI film festival fuelled purely by her curiosity. What she got was more than she expected… images that resembled art without containing the human life behind them. As someone who uses AI to support this podcast and has experience acting on major television sets, she explores the difference between technology helping artists and technology attempting to r...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia returns from a wedding in Atlanta feeling more excited than ever for her own, but also increasingly aware of how much invisible work a bride can carry while everyone else gets to experience the celebration. It raises a bigger question about wedding planning: how do you create a day that feels like you and your partner without taking responsibility for every d...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is moving through a chaotic week with her face peeling off after a chemical peel, bridal fittings underway and a house-music festival she cannot stop watching… from her apartment. Then Shane Gillis’s SNL monologue brings up a much bigger frustration: the tired idea that the way women dress and the way their bodies exist are available for male commentary. Sask...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is thinking about the people and practices that keep us connected. After dancing with 35,000 people at Dom Dolla and turning a night out with her sister and cousins into a family bonding moment, she reflects on why time with family feels so different once the relationships we inherited become relationships we actively choose to maintain. She then pivots into...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia returns from Europe after a trip that began as wedding planning and became a question about the life she wants to build around marriage. After a sleep-deprived, slightly sick start in Paris, she and Jeffrey head to Bordeaux to tour wedding venues, where one ceremony space leaves them both in tears and makes the wedding feel real for the first time. From there...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is leaving for Europe, running on hay fever and a million unfinished tasks, and laughing at the timing of a very human spiral. Just two days after recording an episode about coming through a hard period, she found herself turning every uncertainty in her life into one enormous snowball. Then a friend stopped her with a simple reminder: not every problem belon...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is reintroducing herself in this get to know me episode. But getting to know someone is never just a list of facts. It is the contradictions, detours, and dreams that keep changing shape. Saskia shares what it was like growing up in Australia, from being born near the Daintree rainforest next to a crocodile-infested river to watching Sex and the City at fourt...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia wonders whether the “rut” she has spent much of this year trying to escape was actually a season of stillness she needed to move through. After months of questioning her future, unpacking old emotions in therapy, and trying to think her way out of survival mode, she reflects on what began to change when she stopped demanding an answer. But first, she has thou...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia watches Netflix’s Let’s Marry Harry, a show that packages marriage as the prize at the end of a notorious fuckboy’s redemption arc. But by the reunion, that redemption looks far more like a television storyline than meaningful change. The wedding is over, the cameras are off, and the question becomes much more interesting: what actually makes a marriage work?...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is thinking about connection: how we find it, how we grieve it and how we let it change us without disappearing inside it. After an emotional week, an SG Lewis set that takes her straight back to being 18 and the realisation that Burning Man will have to wait until 2028, she turns to Furious , the Emmy Rossum thriller exploring female anger, silenced voices a...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is trying to understand why every choice a woman makes has to become evidence of who she is. Hustle in your career and you are a girlboss. Get married and you are a wife. Sleep with too many people and you are a slut. That question follows Saskia from wedding planning into something much bigger. She shares why she and Jeffrey are spending as much time designi...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia shares her personal experience with a medical intuitive reading that brought her face to face with her eight-year-old self and the words she did not realise she needed to hear: “You’ve abandoned the dream.” What begins with a sudden pain in her stomach opens into a deeply emotional exploration of inner-child work, creativity, home and the dreams we carry from...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia returns from a restorative week in the Northern Catskills, where rainy days at The Henson, a ceramic cow from an overwhelming antique store, and an intimate Four Tet set created the reset she did not realise she needed. Dancing barefoot beneath the trees with three of the people she loves most becomes a reminder that the experiences that bring us back to ours...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia looks at three seemingly separate parts of pop culture: celebrity weddings, the dark comedy The Drama, and Sophie Gilbert’s Girl on Girl. Beneath all three is the same uncomfortable question. How much of what we call personal choice comes from seeing the same script so many times that we begin to mistake it for what we actually wanted? As she and Jeffrey begi...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is mourning the end of Love Island and asking a bigger question: is reality television harmless catharsis, or is it quietly shaping what we consider normal? Before diving in, she shares a truly absurd full-circle update involving the man who ghosted her twice a decade ago, a LinkedIn DM, and the most corporate fuckboy greeting imaginable. What begins as a Lov...

In this episode of Note 2 Self , Saskia shares what happened after one of the happiest weekends of her life. Following the engagement high came an emotional crash, five days of falling into old patterns with Jeffrey, and a conversation with her therapist about why major commitments can become nervous-system events. Because engagements are joyful, but they can also activate the fears hiding underne...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is engaged and very much still processing it in real time. What begins as the story of how Jeffrey proposed becomes something much bigger than the proposal itself. Saskia shares the little details that made the moment feel so deeply personal: the ring they designed intentionally, the women-led New York jeweller behind it, the oak tree in Fort Greene Park, the...

In this episode of Note 2 Self , Saskia is doing things a little differently. Her sister Liliana is visiting from LA, and naturally, they are using their precious sister time to unpack one of their favourite shared obsessions: Love Island. This week is all about Casa Amor, the most chaotic and revealing week in reality TV. Saskia and Liliana break down where the couples stood going in, who explore...

In this episode of Note 2 Self , Saskia is still thinking about New York. After last week’s conversation about J.Lo, Subway Takes, and what makes someone a New Yorker, the city decided to answer in the most New York way possible: the Knicks won, the streets erupted, and for one night the whole city felt like one living, breathing nervous system. What starts as a story about a Knicks watch party on...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is thinking about New York. After J.Lo’s Subway Takes claim that you have to be born in New York to be a New Yorker, Saskia reflects on moving to the city in 2015 with one suitcase, no job, and no idea what life here would become. What starts as a New York take turns into something much bigger: belonging, identity, and who gets to decide where we are allowed...

⚠️ Content note: This episode includes discussion of sexual assault (roughly 17:00–25:00 — skip to 25:00 if you need to). This is also discussed in the second half of the episode. Please take care of yourself, and skip ahead or come back another time if you need to. Support resources are listed below. In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia opens with a story from a chaotic New York rave, the retur...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia maps a dating pattern most people recognize but rarely name: the people who feel chemically intense and exciting, while quietly leaving her anxious, confused, and spinning. She uncovers a decade of patterns starting in New York with the first wave of ghosting that trained her to chase intensity, then moves into Sydney, where a second cycle confirmed she was r...

Some connections feel different from the moment they arrive... like you've known this person before, like they were always supposed to show up. But there's a really important question worth asking: is this a karmic connection, or is it anxious attachment masked as chemistry? In this episode, Saskia unpacks the difference, and shares the story she's never fully told on the podcast befor...

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia's cup is full, and not by accident. Her best friend flew back to New York for the weekend to honour their annual tradition of seeing their favourite DJ, Blondish, play live. It was, as it often is with the people who truly know you, exactly what she needed. The show didn't go quite as planned, with a hysterical "VIP" experience, but the musi...