NOT THE NARRATIVE with Abi

Episode 21 marks the beginning of a brand-new chapter of Not The Narrative With Abi: The Family Court Survival Series. If you're entering family court, dealing with a high-conflict co-parent, overwhelmed by legal fees, or wondering how you're going to survive another court date, this episode is for you. In this deeply personal episode, Abi shares the lessons that cost her emotionally, fina...

This is the final episode of the Walking Through the Valley of the Storm series. For years, I walked through uncertainty, financial pressure, family court battles, fear, grief, and seasons where I genuinely didn't know how things would work out. I thought the goal was simply to survive. What I learned is that the valley wasn't sent to destroy me. It was shaping me. Teaching me. Refining me. In thi...

What happens when a man grows up but never truly leaves home? In this episode, Abi explores the painful reality many women experience when unhealthy mother-son dynamics begin affecting a romantic relationship. From blurred boundaries and loyalty conflicts to emotional enmeshment and control, she unpacks why some women feel like they're competing for a place that should already belong to them....

Nobody tells you this part. The mask doesn't slip while you're still there. It slips the moment they realize you're really leaving. Not threatening to leave. Not taking space. Gone. In this episode I'm talking about what actually happens when you stop reacting. When you choose silence over chaos. When peace becomes more important than being understood. Because the chaos was the con...

They called you dramatic. Emotional. Difficult. Crazy. But the truth is — you weren't crazy. You were being systematically destabilized by someone who needed to control you because they had no power over themselves. In this episode we are talking about the silent warfare of coercive control — the kind that leaves no bruises but strips away your dignity, your autonomy, and your sense of self. W...

There’s a song by Dax called Pain Made Me Pay Attention. When I heard it, I didn’t just listen. I sat in it. Because it wasn’t just music — it felt like a mirror. In this episode I’m getting real with you. Not from the other side of the storm. From the middle of it. I talk about the old version of me that used to sit in meditation and visualize future Abi — strong, stable, unbothered. And how I’m...

After a week and a half of silence, Abi returns with a powerful reflection on what it means to move through hardship with faith, obedience, and resilience. In this episode, she shares how one of her most challenging seasons led to unexpected breakthroughs—from financial relief to answered prayers—and how choosing to follow God’s calling shifted everything. This is a conversation about growth, emot...

I didn’t post last week… and there was a reason. I recorded an episode from a place of pain—but after a conversation, an apology, and therapy, something shifted. I needed time to process before sharing. If I’m being honest, this has been one of the most exhausting seasons of my life. Feeling like it’s just storm after storm… with no break in between. But even in the middle of that… God still showe...

Last Saturday… she had 12 hours to move her entire life. No plan. No time to process. Just survival. Packing. Calling. Coordinating. Finding a truck. Finding safety. Finding a way forward. Calm on the outside… but only because she had to be. And then—days later— An invitation. To a room filled with power, influence, and opportunity. Two completely different realities. Same woman. In this episode,...

There comes a moment when everything gets quiet… and suddenly, it all makes sense. Not because anything changed overnight… but because you did. In this episode, I talk about what it feels like to come out of survival mode and step into clarity. When the confusion fades, the patterns become undeniable, and you’re forced to face the truth about people, situations, and even yourself. This isn’t about...

What if the place you’re in right now isn’t where you’re meant to stay—but where you’re meant to see? In this episode, I open up about navigating one of the most uncomfortable and uncertain seasons of my life—while still showing up as a mother, a business owner, and a woman of faith. Nothing feels settled. Nothing feels clear. But something inside of me still says… I’m going to be okay. This is ab...

You tried to do it the right way. You stayed calm. You communicated clearly. You agreed. And somehow… it still turned into chaos. In this episode, I’m breaking down what happens when conflict isn’t actually about resolution — and why, even when you do everything right, it still escalates. Because sometimes, it’s not about the outcome. It’s about control. It’s about patterns. It’s about what feels...

Sometimes the greatest strength isn’t reacting. Sometimes it’s restraint. In this deeply personal episode, Abi reflects on the emotional weight of having to regulate herself in moments where reacting would have been easier — but would have come at a cost to her child and her peace. As a mother, business owner, and Black woman navigating conflict and bias, Abi speaks candidly about the double stand...

In this deeply personal episode, Abi shares her journey through what she came to understand as narcissistic abuse and high-conflict control dynamics. Through therapy, faith, and lived experience, she reflects on recognizing destructive patterns, navigating systemic pressure, and choosing peace over chaos. Abi opens up about the emotional weight of leaving, the resistance she faced, and the clarity...

In this episode, Abi unpacks the real meaning of resilience — and challenges the idea that surviving pressure is the same as being strong. When life keeps moving, responsibilities don’t pause, and people depend on your stability, resilience isn’t a personality trait — it’s often the only option left. But what happens when strength becomes expected? When systems, environments, and even people begin...

In this episode, Abi opens up about a truth many high-functioning women quietly carry — survival mode doesn’t end just because the crisis does. She shares her personal journey from hyper-awareness and perfectionism to choosing peace, vulnerability, and support. As a Black woman navigating systemic pressures, Abi reflects on the mental toll of constantly performing strength and the quiet exhaustion...

In this episode, Abi explores what it really means to be in “the middle” — the part of life that feels stuck, delayed, and exhausting, yet quietly transformative. Through deeply personal reflections and the story of a close friend navigating trial, Abi unpacks how growth often happens in the most uncomfortable seasons. She speaks about pushing forward while feeling blocked, adapting to forced chan...

There are seasons where you pray — not for comfort, but for survival. In Episode 4 of Not the Narrative with Abi , Abi shares the moment she realized God was answering her prayers with no , even as she desperately needed provision to protect her child, sustain her business, and endure an unrelenting season of pressure. This episode is about: praying for help and waking up to nothing changed holdin...

In this episode, Abi explores what emotional regulation looks like in real life — especially within the complexities of co-parenting and ongoing personal challenges. Through personal reflection, she shares how regulation is not about emotional suppression or perfection, but about self-awareness, restraint, and choosing intentional responses over reactive ones. Abi highlights the importance of resi...

In this episode, Abi speaks honestly from the in-between — the space where survival is still active, responsibilities don’t stop, and yet moments of joy quietly begin to appear. She explores what it means to live with pressure while allowing joy to exist alongside it, even when life feels unresolved. Abi reflects on emotional regulation, self-acceptance, and the reality that healing doesn’t always...

In this first episode, Abi introduces Not the Narrative , a space for calm truth in a world that rewards reaction. She reflects on how women, mothers, and business owners are often reduced to labels, moments, and assumptions, especially in high-conflict environments and why choosing emotional regulation is not weakness, but power. This episode isn’t about defending a story. It’s about stepping out...