Not That Girl by Zara

In this episode of Not That Girl, we dive into the power and importance of enjoying your own company. Learn why taking yourself out — whether it’s to a restaurant, coffee shop, or even just a quiet walk — can build confidence, self-love, and presence. I share personal stories from my journey of embracing solo experiences, from savoring breakfast at my favorite café to appreciating the art of getti...

In this episode of Not That Girl, we unpack the idea that joy isn’t something we have to earn after hustling, shrinking, or proving ourselves—it’s something we’re already worthy of. Let’s talk about unlearning the belief that happiness is a finish line, and start embracing joy as a daily right, not a distant prize. Whether you’re in the middle of healing, growing, or just surviving, this one’s for...

Somewhere along the way, we stopped being ourselves and started becoming what others needed—what family expected, what culture applauded, what social media praised. In this episode, we’re peeling back those layers. I’m asking you to pause… and really think about who you were before the world gave you a label, before you were someone’s mom, partner, employee, or fixer. Together, we’ll talk about: •...

This episode is raw, honest, and from the heart. What if healing doesn’t look like journaling in the sun or going to therapy every week—but instead looks like crying in the car, surviving on toast, and still showing up for your kids when your world feels like it’s falling apart? In this very personal episode, I open up about a two-year season where everything felt heavy. My son had just been diagn...

If you’ve been calling yourself lazy because the house is a mess or you can’t find the energy to do “one more thing”—pause. You’re not lazy. You’re overwhelmed. In this episode, Zahra opens up about the weight of invisible labor, survival mode, and why burnout doesn’t make you broken. You’ll feel seen, understood, and less alone. We’ll talk about: • Why “lazy” is a lie we tell ourselves • What ove...

Episode 2: “Discipline Isn’t the Problem — You’re Just Tired” In this episode of Not That Girl, we’re tearing down the lie that discipline is the answer to everything. Because truthfully? Most of us aren’t undisciplined — we’re just exhausted. We’re navigating real life with real pressure, and sometimes “get up and grind” is the last thing our nervous system needs. This episode is a breath of fres...

Welcome to the very first episode of Not That Girl — the unfiltered space for real women doing real life. Today, we’re talking about the pressure to become “That Girl” — the internet’s version of perfect — and why chasing that aesthetic can leave us exhausted, insecure, and disconnected from what actually matters. If you’ve ever tried (and failed) to copy the Pinterest-perfect routines or felt lik...