Not so Secret Trauma

Join Carrie and Christina for a week of discussing things we thought were normal but are possibly trauma responses. We will be with you every day this week with a short episode to kick off the fall. https://www.buzzfeed.com/victoriavouloumanos/regular-behaviors-that-are-trauma-responses

Relationships are hard. Any time we are interacting with other people there is a variety of factors to consider. Carrie and Christina talk about codependent relationships, personal, professional and family. Join us to learn some characteristics of co-dependent people and strategies to navigate our relationships.

There are different ways to show people that they are important to us, that we love them. There are also ways that we feel loved and appreciated by others. Learning your love language, giving and receiving, can help to deepen any relationship in your life. Whether it is a romantic, friend or work relationship. Carrie and Christina talk about their experiences with learning about love languages and...

There are so many strategies for making it through each day, some healthy, some not so much. When we take a look at our patterns of self preservation we can begin to see opportunities to grow and strengthen our relationships in all areas of our lives. Carrie and Christina share their self preservation patterns, and discuss other ways to navigate through our day to day. References The Love Prescrip...

We are all unique individuals, we have our own personalities and traits, we all look different. It can be easy to take these differences and hold them up to other people and think theirs are better. When we spend time comparing ourselves to others we are giving up the chance to be comfortable in who we are. Carrie and Christina talk about comparison, the dangers of comparing ourselves to others, a...

Family, friendships, marriage, work - there are so many types of relationships we engage in. No relationship is perfect so there are things that can carry through to other relationships. Carrie and Christina talk about strategies to help us not carry past trauma into present or future relationships. Resources: Stopping Old Wounds from Stealing New Relationships - https://www.heysigmund.com/how-to-...

Grief and loss are usually connected to a death of someone close to you. Not often is it considered in other major life transitions like changing jobs, moving cities or further, and the end of friendships or romantic relationships. Carrie and Christina talk about how grief and loss have impacted their lives and discuss strategies to move through the process. Hospice society: https://bchpca.org/ Wh...

Imagine you have come to a place where you just want to give up, you feel done. You wake up the next morning and things have shifted and you are on a positive upswing. Sometimes we think there is no hope left, but that is just the place we need to reach to start moving forward again. Join Carrie and Christina as they share some breakdown/breakthroughs that they have been through, and share strateg...

There are many areas of our lives where we need to find the place we feel like we belong and are comfortable. It could be at work, socially or even within your own family. Carrie and Christina talk about strategies to support us in finding the place that we feel like we belong. Atomic Habits - James Clear Burnout; The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle - Amelia Nagoski, Emily Nagoski The Love Pr...

We don’t always feel comfortable showing people in our lives who we are, there are varying levels of safety in relationships. Do you find yourself wearing different masks for different people in your life? Carrie and Christina talk about how to combat hiding our authentic selves and taking of the mask. What is your superpower? Jay Shetty and Lewis Howes - ⁠https://jayshetty.me/podcast/⁠ The Gifts...

Life can become overwhelming from time to time, we can end up feeling like we are spinning our wheels in the mud. This can happen in all areas of our lives and cause us to lose hope or motivation. There are a lot of strategies to move through the times. Carrie and Christina share some of their own experiences of being stuck and how they have navigated through. Question of the Week - What are your...

People in our lives don’t always want the best for us, or they take pleasure in watching us struggle. Sometimes these are people close to us - friends, family, coworkers. It can be hard to work against this negativity and move towards success. Carrie and Christina talk about Upside Down Helpers and how to navigate through these situations.  Question of the Week - What area of your life have upside...

We often have to fight against the negativity, the shame… that committee. Carrie and Christina take a journey through the topic of forgiveness. Forgiving others and forgiving ourselves, and when is the right time. We look forward to hearing more from you, please don’t forget to answer the question of the week, even by email, What things have you challenged yourself to do? You can also follow us on...

It is often said that we are our own worst enemy, that can be seen in this week’s topic. Carrie and Christina explore the darkness surrounding self/body image in order to bring some light. Join in and hear some thoughts and stories surrounding a very difficult topic. The question for this week is: Which challenge at the end of the episode would you like to try? You can now find us on Instagram! -...

There are times when we can feel that our trauma, or what we are going through is not important because other people have it worse, or that we should know better. There is a great freedom in giving ourselves permission to face things head on and process them as we need to. Carrie and Christina share strategies in processing our own trauma, from our own perspective. This week’s question: What will...

It comes every year, but is it always happy? Carrie and Christina discuss the reality of Mother’s Day and the expectations and feelings that can come with it. Come along for the journey through this hard topic. We hope you did enjoy your mother’s day, in whatever way that looked like for you. Don’t forget to scroll down and answer the question for the week! What was the best part of the day for yo...

Sometimes we find it hard to share our thoughts, speak up or have a difference of opinion, all of these are how we take up space in our world. Carrie and Christina talk about the challenges we face when we are trying to find our space, emotionally, physically and even vocally. Don’t forget to scroll down and answer the question of the week, and leave us a voice memo. We truly appreciate all the fe...

This week Carrie and Christina talk about Boundaries. Do you struggle with saying no? Do you have trouble knowing where you end and others begin? Join us in discussing why they are important and some strategies to strengthen what you already have in place. https://www.terricole.com/trauma-boundaries/https://www.lifeworkspsychotherapy.com/interpersonal-boundaries-trauma-keeps-us-silent/https://heal...

Do you sometimes feel like your life is not measuring up to the people around you? Carrie and Christina talk about expectations, how they are impacting our lives and how to have more realistic expectations for our lives. References: https://compassionresiliencetoolkit.org/media/Schools_Section5_Intro.pdfhttps://www.weinspirewe.com/post/expectations https://www.oprah.com/inspiration/bren-brown-sett...

This week Carrie and Christina talk about Imposter Syndrome. Do you ever feel like you are afraid of being found out? Join the conversation and hear about some strategies to overcome these intrusive thoughts. notsosecrettraumapodcast@gmail.com. Atlas of the Heart - Brene Brown The Craft of Wellness - https://www.instagram.com/p/Cq4Wc_5pCan/ http://www.youtube.com/@thecraftofwellness https://www.fo...

Join Carrie and Christina’s discussion about the difference between trauma and drama. As our awareness of trauma in our lives increases, the lines between a trauma response and drama can sometimes become blurred. Is it trauma or is it drama? Let’s find out! References: https://vantagepointrecovery.com/trauma-and-drama-difference/ https://www.pacesconnection.com/blog/breaking-the-cycle-of-trauma-dr...

Carrie and Christina dive deeper into the childhood experiences conversation to talk about some of the trauma that was missed in the original ACEs study References: https://www.traumainformedcare.chcs.org/resource/original-ace-questionnaire/ https://nhttac.acf.hhs.gov/soar/eguide/stop/adverse_childhood_experiences#:~:text=The%20foundational%20ACE%20Study%20was,may%20negatively%20affect%20adult%20h...

Have you ever wondered how your childhood experiences impact your adult life? Carrie and Christina take you through the original ACEs questionnaire and talk about the impact a high score can have. References The original ACEs study - Felitti, V. J., Anda, R. F., Nordenberg, D., Williamson, D. F., Spitz, A. M., Edwards, V., & Marks, J. S. (1998). Relationship of childhood abuse and household dysfun...

Carrie and Christina share information about an exciting new podcast coming April 3!