Not Perfect But Thriving

This is a small SOS for anyone who becomes the emotional peacekeeper in their family at Christmas. If you absorb the tension in the room, manage everyone’s moods or feel responsible for the atmosphere, this episode offers a few gentle anchors to help you stay more centred. In this episode, we explore: Why peacekeeping often feels like “safety” to our nervous system Choosing one thing you’re not re...

If you love Christmas in theory – the lights, the cosy moments, the magic – but find yourself completely burnt out trying to make it perfect for everyone else, this episode is for you. We’ll explore how to gently scale back, choose what really matters, and let some things go. In this episode, we explore: How “creating magic” quietly becomes a full-time invisible job Choosing your “Magic Big Three”...

You’ve thought ahead, bought thoughtful gifts, carried the mental load and made the moments… and then the effort doesn’t seem to come back to you. In this episode, we talk about the quiet sting of feeling unappreciated at Christmas and how to tend to yourself when the emotional labour feels very one-sided. In this episode, we explore: Why it hurts so much when your effort isn’t reciprocated How Ch...

If your December is packed with events, gatherings, school things, work drinks and favours – and you feel guilty even thinking about saying no – this episode is a soft invitation to breathe. We’ll explore how to gently reclaim a bit of space, even if you’re not ready for big boundaries yet. In this episode, we explore: Why December is “peak people-pleasing season” How to gently sort your commitmen...

If hosting turns you into a frazzled, snappy, over-tidying version of yourself, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. We’ll talk about why hosting can be so activating for recovering people-pleasers, how childhood messages about “a good home” show up, and how to create warmth and welcome without sacrificing your well-being. In this episode, we explore: Why hosting so often triggers perfection...

If your bank account is already feeling the strain and it’s only early December (but you just CAN'T scale it back), this episode is for you. We’ll unpack why overspending at Christmas is often less about money and more about people-pleasing, perfectionism and wanting everyone to feel loved - and how to gently start shifting that, without shame. In this episode, we explore: Why overspending at...

In this episode, I chat about what to do when you repeatedly find people around you disrespecting your time. ⁠⁠For more 👇🏻 To book your FREE 30 minute discovery call: https://calendly.com/helenbryer Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about how going inward when we have a strong reaction to something is key, and why these situations are such a gift in our people-pleasing recovery. DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING HERE ⁠⁠For more 👇🏻 To book your FREE 30 minute discovery call: https://calendly.com/helenbryer Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www....

In this episode, I chat about how we're entitled to feel disappointed or frustrated when we're not feeling seen, appreciated and loved... but about how it's also an opportunity to get curious about what's going on and how we might be contributing to the situation! ⁠⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen...

In this episode, I chat all about how I moved from being aware but unable to stop the automated patterns, to a place of (more often) having a choice of how to respond. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emails...

In this episode, I chat all about how people-pleasing has affected my relationship (now marriage), including the shifts that have occurred since I've started to release people-pleasing. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.hel...

In this episode, I chat about how the idea that people-pleasing is inherently linked with our personality is a myth, as well as how this can hold us back from releasing it. ⁠ DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/...

In this episode, I chat all about the five things I would do for the next 4 weeks if I wanted to start finally releasing people-pleasing. ⁠DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE!⁠ For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com...

In this episode, I chat all about tapping (EFT), how it’s changed my life, how I use it (and use it with clients), as well as talking about an exciting announcement: DOWNLOAD YOUR FREE TAPPING FOR PEOPLE-PLEASING VIDEO HERE! For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignu...

In this episode, I chat all about personal power versus victim mentality and why it's important to move from being 'at effect' of a problem to being 'at cause'. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about why people-pleasing can cause resentment and is linked with defensiveness (as well as my experiences of both), before sharing how I would start working on those things. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/...

In this episode I chat about overthinking and how it shows up. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about three ways my mindset has shifted from having a minor surgery. Youtube Channel mentioned coming soon! For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about my approach to new years resolutions and goal setting for those feeling conflicted or under pressure to set goals at this time of year. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

This episode is for if you’re had a rough Christmas. I talk about some of the ways people-pleasing habits can affect us during the holidays and cause us to struggle, as well as where to go from here. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.co...

In this episode, I cover some of the ways in which people-pleasing might be affecting your relationship with money and spending habits. Is people-pleasing making you overspend? For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about the 5 key signs I see in my clients (and myself!) that tell me we’re READY to receive support and make some changes. I also talk about some of the reasons why we might not want to ask for help. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup...

In this episode, I chat about the last 4 weeks and how I’ve navigated a rough patch without falling back into past “all or nothing” patterns. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode, I chat about what embodiment means and how to finally start implementing what you’re learning to make those tangible shifts in your life. For more 👇🏻 Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Blog: www.helenbryer.com/blog

In this episode I chat about my thoughts about managing the run up to Christmas and Christmas itself when you're struggling with people-pleasing, as well as the one question I use to guide me throughout the holidays. For more 👇🏻 Sign up to my e-mails: www.helenbryer.com/emailsignup Follow or message me on Instagram: www.instagram.com/helen.bryer 1:1 Coaching: www.helenbryer.com/services-1 Bl...