Not Allowed

She fell in love with her best friend, flatmate, and confidant over three years and he likes her too, just not in the same way... In this episode, I'm answering an AudaciTea submission from a listener going through one of the most quietly devastating situations: loving someone deeply, having that love somewhat reciprocated, and still having to say goodbye, maybe forever. If you've ever lov...

We are the first generation of women who might actually stay single, not because we can't find love, but because we’re done settling. In this episode, I get into why modern women are choosing themselves over outdated gender roles, and how men still benefit from a version of patriarchy they’ve never had to question. From emotional unavailability to weaponized incompetence, I talk about how so m...

Ever heard the phrase "You can do so much better than him" from your girlfriends? Yeah...maybe that's not really nice to tell someone. I know this might not seem like the best thing to hear, it might even feel like I'm betraying my girls who make dating in today's world, so much more bearable. I know that I rely on my female friendships to get me through this crazy time. But...

No one can dumb-b*tch harder than this bish. In my journey of dating in a more healthy way, I kinda sorta self sabotaged myself. Luckily I made it out with a slightly bruised ego but learn from my mistakes. If you like a guy, probably don't tell him at a SINGLES MIXER event that was CURATED for both of you to find other potential mates. It's like bringing sand to the beach. Dating is a mea...

Happy New Year! It's time to get focused and get ready for a new chapter for the podcast. Join me in my journey to disassemble the patriarchy, get educated, get less hostile and more communicative through this podcast. This year I want to not just talk about the topics we should be talking about but also build resources, have important takeaways and solutions or at the least, cultivate a support s...

It's time to detox from toxic dating cycles. I really can't deal with the dating app culture anymore, it just leaves me feeling so empty and worthless. An endless cycle of situationships, half-getting to know someone, silently stalking them on social media for years just to avoid the feeling that you'll never find love - I am sick of it. There is so much more I want to do with my time and energy a...

This is the story of a boy, a girl, goatees and really hard nipples. What better way to start Virgo season than spilling the tea on a Virgo boy and my cougar crush. I just had to get this story out there because this is the only way I turn lemons into juicy content. I do wanna say though, who's not an idiot at 24? I know I was. Fair warning however, don't date people who's prefrontal c...

I am back after a looong break and boy have I missed recording my ramblings. It has been a crazy two years filled with failure, heartbreak, loss of jobs, an ADHD diagnosis and turning 30 - basically still having no idea where my life is headed and no plan for it either. But I can't help but think of this as an opportunity to get back to the things I love and sharing my stories to make someone...

I hate to admit it, but it's good. Like indulging in a snack that's definitely not good for you, sex with toxic guys is like Mcdonalds at midnight. But it goes deeper than that. Wanting connection is in our nature as human beings, but insecurities are the tricky part of the equation that our animal instincts don't know how to configure. We are taught how to love and be loved, that plays a pivotal...

I love New Years because it feels like we all collectively hit the refresh button. And if there's anything I want, it's hitting refresh on the last few months of 2022. Entering this new year wasn't the most exciting time for some of us going through rougher parts of life. Getting fired, being dumped, losing someone - you feel like you're drowning and suddenly it's a new year and you have to figure...

Welcome to SEASON 3 BABY!! With more real and (hopefully) relatable stories and experiences - in conversation with friends, family and the real people experiencing the world that celebrities aren't. We're kicking off this season with my Leo, bad bitch, 26F friend Veena. We talk all about our dating stories -matching with the same guy, lets call him Mr Pringles, sending 'thank you' messages after s...

Is it worth risking a friendship to pursue something more? I never really got the people that say that their partner is their best friend. On paper it seems like a good idea to date a friend but to me friendships have a different dynamic. Conversely, could we remain friends with an ex? It's hard to switch relationship dynamics back and forth because feelings are complicated and things get messy. T...

Why do we feel like a failure when we aren't in a relationship or haven't found the 'one'. We have put traditional monogamous relationship structures on a pedestal and failed to give credit to new relationship structures that might actually work for us and our modern lives. Entering the dating world, expecting to find the ONE just sends us on a spiral of constant disappointments and slowly shatter...

Quitting a job is not always easy, the mental exhaustion of the decision, taking the step that's right for you and disrupting a cushy stable routine. It's not easy but it is something we all have done or will do at some point. Our jobs and careers can be strongly tied to our self worth and sense of purpose in this world. Quitting can therefore feel like a failure, when in reality it is an opportun...

Honestly, “taking it slow” can mean “this is never happening”. Some of us have been benched, waiting on guys to finally be ready to commit, finally be ready to be in a relationship if we just hold out long enough. But the truth is that no one has the f*cking time. If its not a hell yes then its a hell no. We got shit to do, dreams to make come true and careers to build. No one is worth the wait, a...

There are definitely a few "post-seeing-each-other-naked" manners and texting rules that we should follow, but don't. Communication post coitus tells you a lot about what the relationship will look like going forward. Is he suddenly really busy or just blowing you off because he got what he wanted? Should you text him first after hooking up or should he? Is talking about your ex after sex a red fl...

Janani turns 28 and is now on to the organic lifestyle. Moving on from the dating apps and into meeting people "organically" out in the wild. Janani tells you the juicy organic details about two dates (kinda) and the fun in fucking funny guys. Text banter, communication styles and expectations from the Y chromosomes all leads into a new chapter of Not Allowed.  NEW WEBSITE - https://www.notal...

I have a crush on someone...or is he just one of the few single people around me? As a hopeless romantic who wants to so desperately be in love, sometimes I just construct a crush around a cute guy who's giving me attention. If we have some cute negging banter, his hand touches my hand, he looks at me 3 seconds longer than normal - that's it. I'm in LOVE. kinda. Inevitably though, when the lack of...

2022 for us is all about coming into your own and discovering yourself and your truest desires. On this new year and new episode we’ll be talking about casual dating! What is casual dating? We're really defining the term and boundaries and how it's not the same thing as a situationship. Also why I recommend casual dating to anyone that's like me and on the look out for a long term relationship. I...

#RELATABLE is a sub series of the podcast where I sit across the table and interview REAL women and talk about their REAL-ATABLE experiences. With the first ever guest and my oldest friend Tanya Malik - a psychologist by trade. On this episode we talk about triggering fatphobic Indian mothers and Indian doctors, does organic dating exist anymore?, being in a relationship that doesn't require a lab...

A bitch is an assertive woman who makes no apologies for what she wants, isn't afraid to challenge authority and is an overall badass going after the life she envisions. But this world isn't ready for a bitch. We tear down women who possess the same traits we uplift in a man. Any woman who stands up for herself is met with a toxic society that wants to "put her in her place" aka back in the misogy...

We're back on this Diwali special episode with a special announcement!! Keeping in the theme of Diwali on this episode we're talking about feeling the initial sparks fly when you're crushing on someone new and if it's stopping you from spotting the red flags. NOT ALLOWED THE BRAND IS HERE! Check us out for more content HERE:  ☼ My Blog site - https://www.notallowed.in/ ☼ Instagram - https://w...

a raw and unedited episode (and video episode) of the podcast triggered by a personal shit week. This past week I learnt some hard realities, realities about speaking up. When you're at the receiving end of any kind of injustice, especially women, and stand up against it, you're met with tone policing and the expectation to present your case in a palatable manner. If you dare challenge the status...

Today we're talking about Limp Dicks - not erectile dysfunction in the physical sense but we're talking about weak men who constantly find themselves in situationships or lure women into them. PLUS a storytime about my situationship trying to get my vagina to become probitic.  What is SO appealing about having sex (or at least trying to) with multiple women and not enjoying intimate, safe sex...

The moment any girl learns about sex in India, the first thing she learns about is not that sex is a pleasurable act but that she has this thin(-ly veiled in misogyny) tissue inside her pussy that, all of a sudden, the world has ownership on and that she must protect this tissue at the risk of dishonoring her family. Apart from an antiquated cultural expectation, the reality is this discussion sti...