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Episode Title: Live Like You Mean It: The Test Hosts: Robert Burton & Gary Hults Podcast: Living by Oak Values Presented by: Northman Coaching Description: In this raw and revealing episode, the tables turn. Rob puts Gary in the hot seat — testing his growth, pressing into his mindset, and searching for any cracks in the foundation. What happens when the teacher becomes the student? This isn’t...

When trust gets broken, most men want a quick fix. This conversation slows it down and builds it right. Gary, Rob, and guest Eric Wood unpack what it actually takes to rebuild: truth before tactics, humble ownership over blame, and daily consistency that proves change—without theatrics. In this episode: The first non-negotiable after a breach: truth stands before forgiveness Why apologies don’t la...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert, Gary, and special guest Garrett Prettyman unpack one of the toughest moments a man can face — when the woman he loves asks for space. Together, they explore how to honor her autonomy without slipping into fear, control, or emotional collapse. The conversation digs into what it truly means to “keep your frame”: staying grounded in purpose, calm in pr...

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In this episode, Robert and Gary unpack what it really means to lead without leaning. They explore how true leadership in a relationship isn’t about control or dependence—it’s about standing rooted in your own sovereignty. When a man leads from fullness instead of fear, he stops trying to prove himself and starts creating safety and direction through presence. This conversation dives into the diff...

For the past two years, we’ve walked through the core values that form a man’s foundation. This week, we close out the series on building the inner foundation by showing how to put those values into practice. In this episode, we explore the balance of grounded strength and gentle presence, and how the value of equanimity—steadiness under pressure, calm in the storm—unlocks both. We’ll dive into wh...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary and Rob dive into the paradox of masculinity in Dangerous but Good: The Fire of a Lion, the Heart of a Lamb. Together, they explore what it means for a man to carry raw strength and fire—the kind of danger that could destroy—yet choose to wield it with restraint, courage, and purpose, some might call it temperance. From the lion’s courage to the lamb’s...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values: From Roots to Legacy, Gary and Rob dive into the power of choosing action without waiting for external approval. Too many men get stuck asking for permission—from bosses, partners, parents, or even society—before stepping into who they’re meant to be. We explore: The hidden cost of living for approval How to tell the difference between ego-driven choices an...

Inside every man lives the gap between who we are today and who we’re capable of becoming. In this episode, we dive into the value of becoming—not as a distant dream, but as a daily practice. We’ll talk about what holds us back, the small choices that move us forward, and how to lean into growth with purpose and grit. If you’ve ever felt that tug that says there’s more in me than I’m living right...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary and Rob sit down with special guest AJ Bolduk to explore the final two values of the Oak Values deck—Transparency and Unity. Together, they reveal how these values work hand in hand as the foundation for authentic self-growth and the starting point of any true healing journey. From breaking down walls of fear and secrecy to embracing connectio...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Rob and Gary dive into the art of staying calm and steady when life’s waves start crashing. Using the analogy of surfing, they explore how tranquility isn’t about avoiding the storm, but learning to ride it with presence and peace. At the same time, they break down the importance of trust—trusting the process, trusting yourself, and trusting that you’re cap...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary and Rob explore the powerful connection between thoughtfulness and understanding—two values that, when combined, can transform the way we show up in life. From raising children who feel truly seen, to building and maintaining strong adult relationships, these values work hand in hand to create trust, empathy, and lasting bonds. Tune in as we share real...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary and Rob dive deep into the value of strength—what it really means when life tests you in ways you never saw coming. Rob shares a raw, personal story of his daughter’s recent health scare and the inner fortitude it took to stay grounded through uncertainty. From the battles you fight in silence to the courage it takes to keep moving forward, we explore...

In this episode of *Living by Oak Values*, Robert and Gary dive deep into the underrated superpower of **stability**. In a world that celebrates hustle, chaos, and constant reinvention, they explore why being **steady, consistent, and grounded** is the real flex. From emotional regulation to financial responsibility to being the rock for your family—stability is what builds trust, leadership, and...

You can fake charm. You can fake interest. But you can’t fake real. In this episode, Robert and Gary strip away the masks and dive deep into the power of sincerity—why it’s rare, why it matters, and how living with an honest heart changes everything. They’ll explore how sincerity isn’t just about telling the truth—it’s about being the truth. From relationships to leadership, we break down how peop...

𝙸𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚎𝚙𝚒𝚜𝚘𝚍𝚎, 𝚁𝚘𝚋𝚎𝚛𝚝 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝙶𝚊𝚛𝚢 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚕𝚘𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚟𝚊𝚕𝚞𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚜𝚎𝚗𝚜𝚒𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚒𝚝𝚢—not as weakness, but as strength. They discuss how parents and loved ones can remain grounded, express disappointment when necessary, and still communicate love in a way that strengthens relationships. Using a real-life example of a father and teenage daughter navigating a tough disagreement, they show how sensitivity helps us separ...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Rob and Gary sit down with Cliff Shuffler—a man who’s walked through fire and came out forged in purpose. From the brink of destruction as a firefighter and EMT battling alcoholism, Cliff didn’t just survive—he rose. One demon at a time, he reclaimed his life, found his purpose, and stepped into self-mastery. Now 13 years sober, Cliff is a devoted...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Rob and Gary dive deep into the value of self-respect—what it looks like, why it matters, and how to hold onto it even when life throws you a curveball. We were honored to welcome special guest Stephanie, who began sharing her powerful perspective… until tech issues took her offline for good. With our guest unexpectedly gone, we had to shift gears and finis...

In this deeply personal episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary opens up about a life-changing spiritual experience at Redemption Rock—and how it’s still unfolding even after returning home. He shares his journey of walking away from the Catholic Church, living as a “half-believer,” and what it took to finally go all in on faith again. From doubt to conviction, from wandering to awakening, Gary expl...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert and Gary sit down with Edward—TikTok creator and voice in the self-development space—for a real conversation about what it really means to bet on yourself. We unpack the self-development journey—the messy middle, the moments of doubt, and the defining difference between giving up and giving it your all. Together, we explore the cost of commi...

In this episode, Rob and Gary dive into the power of restraint—how it’s not weakness, but strength under control. They explore how restraint is like a muscle that needs training, what happens when it goes unused, and how mastering it can shape better men, fathers, and leaders. Check us out at NorthmanCoaching.com Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments You're welcome to join our community...

Ever feel like teaching your kids responsibility is harder than folding a fitted sheet? You’re not alone. In this fun, insightful, and slightly rebellious episode, we break down creative tips, real-life dad hacks, and Mission Responsibility adventures to help your kids step up — without you losing your sanity (or your car keys). Expect laughs, some clever tricks, and even a few dad jokes darker th...

In this powerful episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults dive into one of the most essential—and often misunderstood—values: respect. From the lessons we learned as kids, to how we’re now teaching the next generation, we explore what real respect looks like in action. We break down the difference between commanding respect through presence and character versus demanding it th...

In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Robert Burton and Gary Hults break down the core components of emotional intelligence—self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills—and show how they form the backbone of personal leadership and meaningful relationships. But we’re not stopping with theory. We tie it all together with one legendary country song: The Gambler by Kenny...

🎙️ Living by Oak Values. In this episode, Robert Burton and Gary Hults dive into one of the most misunderstood yet essential values in life and relationships: boundaries. They unpack why setting clear, healthy boundaries is not about control or rejection—but about self-respect, emotional safety, and sustainable connection. Robert and Gary share personal insights, common struggles men face when ass...