Non-naive Naiveness

You’re not broken. You’re just caught in a world that keeps asking you to prove you deserve love, rest, joy—anything. This episode is about that quiet, stubborn belief deep down: Am I really allowed to feel worthy? Even when I’m not perfect? Even when I mess up? I’ve often been seen as someone with high self-worth. But the truth is, worthiness isn’t something you “have” or “don’t have”—it’s someth...

"What if your calendar could tell the story of your life? I once flipped through a year’s worth of my planner—365 days of scribbles, meetings, and little notes to myself—and it hit me: how I spend my time is exactly how I’m living my life. Your relationship with time is really your relationship with yourself. The way you see your current life shapes how you use each day—and how much control you fe...

January 2025 is a really special month for me — I turned 40. As this milestone approached, I found myself facing again the anxiety I felt at 29. Back then, I was lost, knowing I’d be entering a new phase at 30 but unsure how to do it. Eventually, I decided to start a business. Now, at 40, that same anxiety has returned — but this time, it’s about who I really am. I realize I’m going through a kind...

In our journey of growth, we often hear familiar Chinese sayings like "Failure is the mother of success" and "The boat will straighten when it reaches the bridge." These age-old proverbs made sense in specific historical contexts, but today, such "social consensus" can sometimes suppress our individuality and limit how we express our views. In this episode, we explore...

In this episode, I dive into the “bugs” — those everyday glitches and challenges — that trip us up in work and life. Drawing from your questions and comments, we explore how to confront these bugs head-on, using a strong mindset to break through obstacles and grow. Here’s what you’ll hear: 00:10 — Bugs are just part of life; it’s how you fix them that creates the colorful moments you remember 01:2...

People often ask me, “How do you actually become someone who truly loves themselves?” For me, there are two keys: First, go out and see as much of the world as you can—open yourself up to all kinds of possibilities. Second, surround yourself with high-energy friends—immerse yourself in the kind of environment that lifts you up.   “Read thousands of books, travel thousands of miles”—that’s how I’ve...

A lot of people tell me, “You’re so emotionally intelligent.” I’ve taken a hard look at why they say that, and in this episode, I want to dive into what emotional intelligence really means. Unlike IQ, EQ is a mindset you can learn and improve. I’ll break down some common “stuck” scenarios, offer high-EQ solutions, and share the value system I’ve developed around EQ and personal energy.   I hope th...

You think you’re just being honest. You’re expressing how you feel. You’re trying to help. But what if… you’re actually being emotionally controlling? In this episode, I share how a four-month trip around the world led me to a Nonviolent Communication course that completely changed how I speak, lead, and relate to others. I talk about the “invisible violence” hidden in well-intentioned words, how...

Ever feel like you're just... stuck? I threw open the question box across all my platforms and got hit with almost 500 responses. Turns out, we're all wrestling with the same stuff. So I picked the questions that kept showing up and went deep—no surface-level advice, just honest conversations about the messy parts of being human. What We're Talking About: 00:27 – Why you're actuall...

In the last episode, I got a bit personal and shared stories from my childhood all the way to my first job. I talked about how I became who I am today—through years of learning and figuring myself out along the way. Today I want to dive into my career journey - from working at Fan Bingbing's studio who was the biggest celebrity in China at the time to starting my own company for the past decade. T...

For this episode, I’d like to record solo and see whether a conversation with myself could produce meaningful content. So I chose a topic I’m most familiar with: how I became who I am. In other words, it’s a personal growth story before the age of 22. I revisit some memorable moments and major life events, exploring how my core confidence was built and how my personality and abilities gradually to...