No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

Today we’re heading into the deep end of a conversation most men never get to have—but desperately need. Why does sex with your wife sometimes feel like a porn relapse instead of the healing, intimate connection you long for? If you’ve ever felt: Triggered by sex with your spouse Overwhelmed by cravings for porn after marital intimacy Disconnected and guilty about sex even though you’re married Sp...

Today, we’re diving into a topic that might just feel like the elephant in the room for countless men trying to stay free from porn: Why does sex in marriage sometimes trigger porn cravings… instead of satisfying them? If you’ve ever thought: “Shouldn’t sex with my wife help me fight porn cravings—not make them worse?” “Why do I feel guilty, disconnected, or even triggered after marital sex?” “Am...

A raw, redemptive conversation with Tina Huggins about healing religious sexual shame, restoring trust in marriage, and breaking the real roots of porn addiction.  What if your deepest struggle with porn addiction isn’t about lust—but about unhealed shame? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, host Jake Kastleman sits down with Tina Huggins , a restorative family mediator and certified di...

We often think of a rock bottom story as the moment someone relapses, destroys their marriage, or hits crisis during active addiction. But what if rock bottom doesn’t come at the start of recovery? What if it shows up years after sobriety , long after you’ve quit porn? In this raw and deeply personal episode, I share the story of my real rock bottom—a collapse that came after I had overcome porn,...

Do you feel sexually broken from years of porn addiction and compulsive masturbation? Like you've damaged your body, your mind, and your marriage—and there’s no way back? In this episode of the No More Desire podcast, Jake Kastleman explores the reality of self-inflicted sexual trauma and what it truly takes to overcome porn addiction. You’ll learn how to stop watching porn, confront your sha...

Is your gaming habit quietly fueling your porn addiction? In this episode of No More Desire , Jake Kastleman explores the surprising neurological and psychological overlap between video games and porn use.  Drawing from real neuroscience, addiction psychology, and philosophical insight, this solo episode breaks down why so many men stuck in compulsive porn cycles also spend hours gaming—and how bo...

If your wife seems pissed off and turned off—constantly irritated, emotionally distant, and disinterested in sex—you’re not alone. For many men, this emotional tension fuels the desire to escape into porn. But what if the real issue isn’t her moods... but your missing leadership? In this episode, Jake Kastleman is joined by men’s coach and author GS Youngblood to help you fix your relationship, ov...

Why do you keep relapsing with porn—even when you want to quit? In this episode of the No More Desire addiction recovery podcast, I uncover the hidden mental traps and false beliefs that sabotage your efforts to quit porn and stay sober for good. We’ll dig into the inner critic and inner escapist—two misunderstood parts of your psyche that actually think they’re helping you, but are keeping you st...

In today’s powerful conversation, I welcome psychotherapist and Infinite Recovery Project founder Jason Shiers . Jason shares his deeply personal story of addiction, trauma, and his 20+ year journey through recovery — before a radical spiritual awakening changed everything. Together, Jason and I dive into: Why trauma is often the hidden root of addiction. How traditional recovery models pathologiz...

Can a marriage truly heal after porn addiction and betrayal trauma? In this powerful episode of The No More Desire Podcast , host Jake Kastleman sits down with Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith—coaches, authors, and a couple who’ve walked the road from addiction and deception to deep connection and true intimacy. 👉 Grab your FREE DOWNLOAD of The 8 Tools to Heal from Porn Addiction & Betrayal Traum...

Struggling to quit porn, control your cravings, or stay sober long-term? In this episode, I share one of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools for porn addiction recovery : gratitude . Learn how daily gratitude can: Rewire your brain using neuroplasticity Reduce porn cravings by activating your prefrontal cortex Replace the shame cycle with emotional clarity and purpose Build a lasting reco...

What happens when you're stuck at home, in pain, and totally alone? For most men recovering from porn addiction, that’s the ultimate relapse setup. But for Steve, a client in my recovery program, this moment of isolation became the most spiritually grounded, mentally focused, and connected time of his life. In this episode, I share the story of how Steve stayed sober after surgery while his w...

How can you replace porn addiction? The answer is not a mystery. Essentially, it requires you to build the skills of a porn addiction recovery mindset and lifestyle. It also requires consistency. If recovery were a car, these recovery skills would be the engine, and consistency would be the fuel. You can rewire your brain and stop watching porn using these skills and this consistency. You may have...

My conversation today is with George Haymaker. We discuss the neuroscience of quitting porn and other addictions, and how to change habit patterns and rewire your brain.  George is an inspiring man with an incredible story. He’s helped many people heal their brains and change their habits for the better. He is a certified neuroscience coach & consultant, and an impressive entrepreneur with a l...

It can be very hard for many men to stay sober from porn on vacations - both during and after. We are thrown out of our structure and norm, and many of us can feel far more impulsive and prone towards porn addiction.  This can seem counterintuitive, as you'd think that vacation and travel would make it easier to stay sober. I talk about why this is not the case for many people, why post-vacat...

When your husband is addicted to porn, you can feel powerless to stop it. You may ask: How do I stop my husband from watching porn? Is there something I can say or do that will convince him? If only I could find the right words, maybe he would finally feel motivated and stop hurting me and our family like this.   Anger and feeling the impulse to control him is normal. Feeling judgmental, hateful,...

There are a lot of voices out there telling you that all you need to quit porn addiction is more discipline. They say you just have to want it bad enough, fight hard enough, and exert enough self-control. But if you’ve ever tried to stop watching porn using willpower alone, you already know—it doesn’t work. In fact, relying on willpower actually fuels porn addiction. Today, I’m going to show you w...

Why doesn’t God take away your porn addiction? People tell you to give your addiction to Christ, and it doesn’t seem to work for you. Why?  I remember how frustrated I used to be by this concept of giving my addiction over to Christ. People advised me to simply surrender to Christ and that was the answer to get sober. But it didn’t work for me. I thought this might be because God didn’t love me, d...

Do you feel like your wife is ignoring your progress with porn addiction? That she doesn’t understand how difficult it is for you to quit porn? Do you feel like you can get sober for a few weeks, or even a few months, but when you relapse with porn it is devastating for her, and you have to start over from square one?  Do you feel like you can’t do anything right in her eyes because of your pornog...

Do you believe that you are genetically prone to addiction? What if you could alter these genetics?  Today, I speak with Dr. Evelyn Higgins with Wired for Addiction about the science behind porn addiction, specifically the impact of epigenetics on addiction.  According to Dr. Higgins, we can alter our genetic expression, developing a completely different way of life, and rewiring our brain to over...

Today, I’m joined by Owen Marcus, an expert in somatic and emotional healing for men across the world. His company is called MELD. He is highly knowledgeable, with 30+ years of experience, and it was a real pleasure speaking with him. Many of us men struggle to express our emotions. It’s classic! What we may not know, though, is that unprocessed hard emotions can easily evolve into porn cravings a...

I had an excellent conversation with Tony Smith from The Walk Family Podcast - a Christian podcast for parents. It was a huge privilege talking with Tony about the true struggle of pornography addiction in this country and around the world.  As many of you guys know, porn addiction is rampant. This is no longer the 90’s where the internet was new - porn is now recognized as a legitimate addiction...

As a porn addiction recovery coach, I see clients of all backgrounds - religious and irreligious. Christianity and porn addiction often go hand-in-hand in my experience. I know that they did for me. I love my faith, but the reality is that many Christians carry burdensome shame about their sexuality, and others about their porn habit. This sexual shame is part of what drives their addiction.  Many...

Today's episode is from the New Paths podcast . Dan Johnson and I tag-team it again and talk porn addiction recovery, touching heavily on my personal porn addiction story. In today's episode, I'm going to dig in some to my childhood trauma, as well as sexual trauma, getting a bit vulnerable with you. I want to say from the get-go, I didn't experience severe trauma. My heart goe...

Every man or woman who struggles with porn addiction carries trauma and emotional struggles.  In my own personal porn addiction recovery journey, I’ve come to understand many things about the emotional pain that I carry. And by understanding it, I’ve been able to release much of it, and I continue to after a decade of sobriety from porn.  In my professional work with clients, I’ve come to see many...