No More Desire ™ Porn Addiction Recovery

Is it possible to quit porn by changing your beliefs? Can you overcome porn addiction—not through willpower or positive thinking—but by going deeper into the painful emotions and unconscious beliefs that actually drive the habit? In this episode, I challenge the popular idea that you can “just believe differently” or manifest your way out of porn addiction. While mindset does matter, most advice a...

Most men think porn addiction is about lust, lack of discipline, or not wanting freedom badly enough. It’s not. In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast , I sit down with Jordan Castille , a coach who works with men navigating pornography addiction, shame, and same-sex attraction, to have a conversation most recovery spaces still avoid. We talk about how bullying, rejection, and emotional tra...

If you’ve ever said to yourself, “Porn ruined my life” — but still find yourself going back to it — this episode is for you. For years, I believed quitting porn was about discipline, willpower, and avoiding temptation. But what I eventually discovered — both in my own recovery and in my work with men — is that porn addiction isn’t just about pleasure. It’s about attachment. And often, it’s an atta...

"Why can’t I stay hard?" It’s one of the most painful, confusing, and silent questions men carry — and one that too many men are afraid to ask out loud. If you’ve ever lost your erection during sex, if you’ve ever felt performance anxiety take over your body, if you can get aroused with porn but struggle with a real partner, or if you’ve wondered whether porn addiction has rewired your b...

Most men don’t struggle with porn addiction because they lack discipline. They struggle because they were never taught how to understand, regulate, or work with their emotions. In this episode, I sit down with Rich Savoy —a coach, leader with Husband Material, and longtime mentor to men—to have one of the most honest conversations I’ve ever had about men, emotions, masculinity, and porn addiction...

When I first started building a real recovery lifestyle, I believed the answer to breaking porn addiction was more control — more discipline, more structure, more “push harder.” But the truth is, that mindset only kept me trapped in dopamine overload, emotional numbness, and a constant battle against myself. In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jeremy Lipkowitz — former Buddhist monk, mindfu...

If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t “just stop” watching porn—why you cycle through cravings, shame, self-promises, and relapse—this episode will change the way you see your struggle forever. Because the truth is, porn addiction is not a willpower problem. It’s a nervous system problem. In this episode, I’m joined by my friend and colleague Chris Chandler , a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (C...

If you’ve ever wondered why you feel numb, disconnected, or unable to access the full depth of your emotions—this episode may hit closer to home than anything you’ve heard before. In today’s episode, I dig into one of the most overlooked factors in porn addiction recovery: your relationship with your physical body. We talk about why so many men feel emotionally flat, why empathy feels harder than...

Most men battling porn addiction think their problem is “lust,” “self-control,” or “not being disciplined enough.” But for millions of men, the real issue is something far deeper—and far more common—than they realize. In this powerful and eye-opening episode, I sit down with Dr. Doug Carpenter , licensed psychologist and author of the groundbreaking book Secret Shame , to uncover the hidden link b...

Do you ever feel like your mind just won’t stop racing? Like you’re constantly doing —working, scrolling, thinking, striving—but rarely being present? If you’ve ever felt trapped in busyness, anxiety, or mental chaos, this episode might be one of the most important you’ll ever hear. In this solo episode, I explore one of the most overlooked truths about porn addiction recovery: your addiction isn’...

What if the real reason you can’t stop watching porn… isn’t porn itself? In this episode of the No More Desire Podcast, I dive deep into the hidden connection between tech addiction, dopamine, and porn addiction recovery — and why constant distraction may be the true enemy of your freedom. We live in a world built to hijack your attention. From smartphones and social media to the endless scroll of...

When I first began my recovery journey, I believed the answer to ending porn addiction was more control — more willpower, more discipline, more “try harder.” But the truth is, that mindset only deepened my shame and made me fight harder against myself. In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Lipkowitz — a former Buddhist monk, mindfulness teacher, and founder of The Unhooked Academy — to explore a...

When you love someone who’s caught in addiction—whether it’s porn, alcohol, or anything else that numbs pain—the chaos doesn’t just stay with them. It spills into your relationship, your emotions, and even your identity. In this episode of The No More Desire Podcast , I sit down with Holly Thornton , author of The Hardest Help , who’s lived through the agony of betrayal trauma, manipulation, and l...

Recovering from porn isn’t just a mental game—it’s an emotional one. In this episode, I’m breaking down the powerful connection between emotional intelligence and porn addiction recovery, and showing you how learning to master your emotions can transform your marriage, your communication, and your ability to stay sober for good. Most men try to “think” their way out of porn addiction, but relapse...

As a parent, one of the hardest questions you’ll ever face is this: How do I teach my kids about sex in a porn-filled world—without using fear, shame, or silence? In this episode, I sit down with Taylor Chambers , a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of The Good and The Free , to talk about what it really means to raise porn-resilient kids and model fearless sexuality —not just...

If you’ve ever felt powerless in the face of porn cravings, you’re not alone. For years, I thought my urges were proof that I was broken—that I didn’t have the self-control or strength to stay sober. The truth is, cravings are not your enemy. They’re signals from your brain and body that point to deeper emotions like fear, shame, grief, or loneliness. And when you learn how to respond to them with...

When I first started my journey to overcome porn addiction, I thought it was all about willpower, accountability, and prayer. But what I didn’t realize was that what I was putting into my body was fueling my cravings, my anxiety, and even my relapses. In this episode, I open up about the surprising connection between nutrition and porn addiction recovery—how the foods you eat shape your mood, your...

Why is it that so many high-achieving men—men who value discipline, morality, and service—secretly struggle with porn addiction? On the surface, it doesn’t make sense. How can a man who leads, provides, and sacrifices also be the same man sneaking away to watch porn in the dark? In this episode, I uncover the paradox of the high-achiever and porn addiction. I’ll show you why high-achieving men are...

What if your sexual fantasies weren’t the enemy, but the key to your healing? In this powerful episode of the No More Desire Podcast , I sit down with my friend and fellow recovery leader Drew Boa , author of Outgrow Porn , to uncover what your sexual fantasies are really trying to tell you—and how to use them as a surprising pathway to heal porn addiction. Most men believe that the way to stop po...

Most men try to quit porn by relying on sheer willpower, white-knuckling it, or living in constant fear of relapse. I know, because I tried that too. The problem is, a fear-based recovery mindset only fuels more cravings and keeps you stuck in the shame cycle. In this episode of No More Desire , I reveal the 2 recovery mindset elements that almost every man overlooks—but that can completely transf...

When I was stuck in porn addiction, I kept hearing the same advice: “Just be more positive. Believe in yourself. Visualize your freedom.” But here’s the problem— positive thinking alone doesn’t heal porn addiction . In fact, it often makes things worse. In this episode, I dive deep into the psychology, neuroscience, and spirituality of why forcing yourself to “just think positive” can actually inc...

When I was deep in my porn addiction, I thought the biggest problem I had was desire. But over time, I discovered the real enemy was the constant storm of negative thinking in my own head—shame, self-doubt, anxiety, and a relentless inner critic that kept me trapped in the habit loop. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on how negative thinking actively fuels porn addiction, why it’s mor...

When you’re stuck in porn addiction, it often feels like there’s a war going on inside your own mind. One part of you wants to be strong, productive, loving, and aligned with your values. The other part just wants comfort, ease, and escape. Most recovery programs tell you to kill off the "bad" part. To deny it, starve it, or fight it. But what if that approach is actually fueling your ad...

If you’ve ever felt like your porn addiction makes no sense—like you’re a good man, doing your best, yet you keep falling into the same cycle—this episode will hit home. In today’s conversation, I sit down with Chandler Rogers , founder of the Relay app , to unpack why it’s not actually pleasure that keeps you stuck in the addiction cycle… it’s pain . Specifically, it’s the pain you haven’t been t...

This is Part 3 of this series—and today, we’re getting into the best part : How to actually heal and transform sex in marriage from a painful trigger for porn cravings into a sacred, joyful connection. If you’ve listened to Parts 1 and 2, you know we’ve covered: Why sex in marriage can sometimes feel like a relapse How porn rewires your brain’s sexual pathways The neuroscience and psychology behin...