No 2 Gays About It

Queer representation in TV and film has played a pivotal role in shaping societal progress, from visibility to landmark victories like marriage equality. But Tom and Michael ask: where are today's stories showcasing older gay men in media? And is representation in media the only way to drive meaningful change in the world? Join us as we dive into this critical discussion for the final episode of N...

Join Tom and Michael for a post-Thanksgiving "dish" session! In this hilarious and heartfelt episode, they recount their favorite, worst, and most outrageous Thanksgiving memories. From culinary disasters to unforgettable moments, the duo serves up a feast of laughs. Plus, they share thoughtful tips on surviving the holiday season with friends and family who might not share your political views. W...

"Is this it?" That's the question Tom and Michael dive into this week as they reflect on where they are in life versus where they imagined they'd be. Are they living the dream they once pictured, or is there more to accomplish? As they look ahead to the next five years, it's clear they're not done yet—and they invite you to do the same. Join the conversation, reflect on your own journey, and ask y...

In this week's episode, Michael and Tom dive into the effects of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and how seasonal changes impact mental health. We discuss personal experiences, tips for managing those gloomy days, and share some light-hearted moments to lift your spirits. Whether the colder, darker months get you down or you're curious about how others cope, this episode has insights and advice...

In this episode, Tom and Michael take a deep dive into a topic many gay men, especially those over 50, often grapple with: regret. From personal, professional, and sexual regrets to those uniquely colored by LGBTQ+ experiences, they explore the nuances of "gay regret." What types of regret do we carry? And, more importantly, can regret be used to improve our lives rather than hold us back? Join th...

In this episode, Michael and Tom dive into the hot topic of hooking up vs. dating! They break down the differences, share the pros and cons of today's dating scene, and take a hard look at the common complaints within the over 50 Gay Community. Are we the reason we're bitter about dating, or is it really the people we're meeting? Tune in as we get real about the struggles, triumphs, and what it al...

After our eye-opening episode last season on financial readiness and planning for the future, we realized this conversation needed to go even deeper. We were thrilled when Kirk Bremer, AIF®, reached out after watching that episode to share his expert insights on the five essential plans everyone needs to have in place for a secure future. Some of these may surprise you! Join us as we address your...

In this episode, Michael and Tom tackle the complexities of voting, breaking down everything from the Electoral College to swing states and more. With Election Day just around the corner, they'll explain how the system works and, most importantly, share practical ways for you to get involved and make your vote count this election season. Whether you're a first-time voter or a seasoned pro, this ep...

In this episode, Tom and Michael revisit listener feedback from their recent discussion on PTSD, uncovering a common theme: as gay men, we've all endured multiple layers of trauma—often sharing similar experiences. While we can't solve this issue in a single episode, continuing the conversation is a crucial step toward healing. Join us as we delve deeper into the many facets of gay trauma and expl...

In this episode of No 2 Gays About It , Tom and Michael get real about ageism in the gay community —from experiences in the workplace to dealing with age-related bias in healthcare. They discuss how ageism creeps into different aspects of our lives, what we can do to push back, and when embracing our age is the most empowering choice we can make. Join us as we explore the impact of ageism and shar...

After a summer of fun, Michael is left wondering if Monogamy in Gay Relationships is going the way of the dinosaurs. In this video, we'll explore the pros and cons of the different types of relationships between gay men, what they're all saying about each other, and whether or not Monogamy is in fact dead. Welcome back to an all new season of No 2 Gays About It! 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but t...

It feels like all of our conversations have lead up to this; gay men and PTSD. To say that we've experienced trauma during our many years on this planet is an understatement. We'll take a look at all the reasons why we carry around so much baggage from childhood trauma to the AIDS crisis, as well as talk about ways we can lift ourselves, and others, out from under its effects. Join us for this ver...

Boundaries, I have 'em, you have 'em, we all have 'em or at least we should... because we all know that one guy who doesn't have them and doesn't respect yours... so today, we'll talk about the different types of boundaries there are, how they tend to be crossed, and how you can assert your need when they are crossed. Hope this helps! 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with dif...

You'd think by this age we'd have all our retirement and life stuff figured out, but a staggering number of gay men over 50 are behind. Why? What do we need to get in order, and what are the steps we can take to get there. Enjoy! 💙, Tom & Michael 🧼🧖🏻 Support Queer Businesses and look good while doing it! Alder NY makes clean, vegan skincare for all skin types, genders, & ethnicities. Viewers o...

Sexuality is a big part of our identification as gay men, but are we obsessed with it? We'll talk about how this obsession spills out into everyday life, why we're so one track minded, and if we should redefine our relationship with it at this age. Enjoy this honest conversation! 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead th...

The longer you've walked on this earth, the more likely you've experienced, in some way... ADDICTION. Today, we'll talk about why we as gay men over 50 are so susceptible to addiction, how you can seek help, or seek others. Join us for this important conversation. 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on...

Let's face it, whether you're the one being judged or the one judging, it's not coming from a good place... so why are we still doing it at this stage in our lives? Today, we'll discuss who is doing the judging, why they feel the need to judge, how to deal with someone in your life who is judgmental, and how you can stop yourself from being the judge. Enjoy! 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two g...

Whether you're no stranger to it or you're experiencing it for the first time, loss is something we all will come to experience... but is it something that we as gay men over 50 experience differently? What does loss and grief do to our lives, our body? And how can we overcome loss, especially when it keeps on coming? We'll explore all these topics as it pertains to loss, and more. -- Who else but...

After years of being labelled by others, Tom and Michael explore why we gay men over 50 still feel the needs to label ourselves... are labels good, bad, useless? We'll talk about it all, as well as the many different types of sexual labels that exist in the wild, aka Dating Apps. 💙, Tom & Michael -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead th...

***Trigger Warning*** SUICIDE & DEPRESSION Today we have an open and honest discussion about the Loneliness Epidemic; why and how it's affecting our aging gay community. This is an important conversation for us to have because at some some point, we have or will experience loneliness. You are not alone. We share ways you can cope and overcome loneliness, as well as how you can help others who migh...

The gay sex act after 50 is one that can be riddled with hardships and obstacles, especially if it's your main way of defining yourself. In this video, we'll unpack the different challenges we face with sex after 50, solutions to those challenges, and how to be intimate when sex is truly off the table.   If you've sworn off sex and relationships in your silver years, this episode is especially for...

Like it or not, friends and friendship are important aspect of life for the aging gay male, but at this point, it might feel too difficult to make friends, let alone keep them.   In this episode, Michael and Tom explore the many different kinds of friendships, the difficulties of making and keeping friends, and whether or not it's truly important for us gay men over 50 these kinds of companions. -...

Over 36 years of marriage has taught Tom some things, so let's do this. Let's get into the nitty gritty of gay marriage over 50. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to the over 50 gay community? When it comes to Tom Burke and Michael Foley, there's definitely  No 2 Gays About It! Season 2 is all a...

Michael's doing it. Tom never has. And even if you're somewhere in between, Hookups are part of our gay culture. In this episode, we explore what they are, how to do them, and if they're enough. -- Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussion on the topics important to the over 50 gay community? When it comes to Tom Burke and Michae...

In our Season 2 Finale, Tom and Michael discuss all the things they learned over the last 12 episodes. After exploring the many different relationships we as gay men over 50 have, there are four different ways we can apply these lessons that will help us have healthier and happier lives. - Who else but two gay guys over 50 with differing backgrounds lifestyles and viewpoints can lead the discussio...