NIGERIAN DYKE REALNESS

You a rockstar, baby! Shine shine shine on!  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ  

I looked at procrastination different when I realized it can sometimes be self-sabotage in disguise. As an artist, sometimes we stay in the researching, planning and strategizing phase rather than diving in and embodying our work.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com...

You are a garden, a field, a farm. Compost their trash energy. Sew that compost and energy into the soil of your life and reap the harvest of your dreams. And that's on ALCHEMY, BABY!!!  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify...

The only way to beat a narcissist is to not engage in their BS. You cannot outsmart them and they don't react logically. Never underestimate how far a narc will take it. Remove their access to you. Your physical, emotional and mental safety are more important than confronting the person who abused you. Topics: mental health, spirituality, abuse, being a survivor Wanna share your thoughts? Tex...

When people want to constantly pick at things that make you feel small, they have found a wound to exploit. Any wound is a portal to remain there bleeding in pain or evolve and heal. Vibrate higher than the wound so it no longer controls you. Topics include: Spirituality and mental health.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More s...

Your win is guaranteed. This episode discusses the power of language as it relates to spirituality and mental health.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ  

If you extended compassion to someone who did not deserve it, forgive yourself. Apply discernment moving forward. Not everyone deserves your sweetness.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si...

Intuition is intelligence. Intuition is information. Intuition is communication. Your intuition is evidence enough.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ  

Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ  

If you minding your business and they keep talking about you...they a hater AND a fan. they feel threatened and intimidated by you. Keep shining baby. Other people's jealousy of you is their burden to carry, not yours!  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixta...

Take care of yourself and protect your peace of mind. If an abuser calls you a villain just because you stood up for yourself, fuck them. xo!  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsT...

Talent is important. And: it is how you use and embody that talent that determines whether you bring your artistic ideas to life or not. This episode provides artist development tips and strategies to complete creative projects and explores the distinctions between talent and discipline. This episode also touches on not letting perfectionism turn into procrastination or stagnation. Dive in and lis...

Remembering the times when they hurt you is your right. Don't forget to remember the times you stood up for yourself, the times you walked away from spaces, places and people not good for you. You didn't give up on you, don't forget that part.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: w...

Locate and embody your audacity, channel that towards facing your fears and being your best self. Whenever you want make a pivot in your life, make your pivot. You don't have to wait for New Year's.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: ht...

What motivates my healing like nothing else? Knowing that the only path to freedom is through healing, is through facing what I am scared of, is by facing myself, embracing who I am, what I feel, what I want, what I deserve. Part diary entry, party personal essay, this episode is vulnerable, honest and inspiring.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www....

Sometimes being a people pleaser prevents you from understanding that the person or people acting entitled to your energy, resources and labor are a danger to you and you need to remove yourself. In this episode I reflect on differentiating between being generous and wanting to help others (emotionally, financially, etc) and having people make you feel obligated to be (overly) generous with them. ...

A relationship may not have progressed as you would have liked or envisioned, but that doesn't mean that relationship did not serve a purpose in your life. In fact, the true purpose of that relationship was to teach you some wisdom you need to live a more fulfilled life. You may have wanted an eternity but that relationship was only meant to be a lesson.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me bo...

Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically about the podcast: www.nigeriandykerealness.com   Mixtape/Playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6R1SFz2YLwQM1WtnwFlCL3?si=bgQdNUGsTVaGk2lrzF7rpQ  

In this episode I talk about how sometimes a desire to perfect our art projects masks our fear of judgment or criticism. I also celebrate the 10 year anniversary edition of my African Queer novel, For Sizakele (!!!) which you can learn more about on nigeriandykerealness.com or myloveisaverb.com. Our art is meant to be created and shared. Don't hide your brilliance from the world, darling ones...

A little abuse once in awhile? Or no abuse at all? Which do you prefer? When you tolerate a little disrespect, a little shade, a rude comment here or there, you are accepting a little poison. A little poison is still poison. All that little adds up over time. Choose wisely.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisaverb.com More specifically abou...

You. Yes, You. You are someone's favorite artist. Favorite nail tech. Favorite painter. Favorite writer. Favorite dancer. What you are working on right now will change someone's life--starting with you. Something you wrote, painted or created is something that someone goes to again and again and loves in new ways. You are someone's favorite. Also: be your own favorite. P/S: Shout ou...

What if as a writer you were considered an athlete and your writing was your sport--how would you approach your art differently? Would your writing practice change? Do you wait for inspiration? Or do you create regardless of whether you are inspired? These are some question this podcast episode explores.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More about me: https://www.myloveisa...

When you try to force yourself to be happy all the time, you stifle the valleys, the peaks, the flatlands, the mountains, the diverse emotional topography of the land that is you. Allow yourself to be who you are and feel how you feel. Allow yourself to breathe. You don't owe anyone your happiness, you owe yourself to be yourself.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo! Support the show More...

filter out of your life people who don't deserve you, trust me, you your & peace increases. seeking answers from someone who hurt you is pointless, in my opinion, because even if they tell you the precise genesis of why they harmed you--you were still harmed and still have to heal from your pain. a huge part of your power is not in chasing the people who harmed you to answer the WHY/HOW C...

When people are being nosy, leave their questions unanswered. Especially when living an unconventional life, taking a unique path in life or choosing to be child-free--you will be questioned by the nosy and the presumptuous. Don't entertain them. You don't have to answer, explain or justify your choices. It's YOUR life, baby. Live it YOUR way.  Wanna share your thoughts? Text me boo...