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Many of us who struggle with self-doubt feel alone and the feelings of self-doubt, uncertainty, and anxiety can be debilitating and all-consuming . The truth is everyone experiences self-doubt at one point or another. In this episode, I discuss what self-doubt is, where self-doubt comes from, and 4 tips for overcoming and healing self-doubt. TIMESTAMPS Introduction 0:00 What is Self-Doubt? 2:30 Ti...

Unrequited love occurs when one person “loves” someone who does not love them back. Unrequited love feels difficult so difficult to heal because there are real feelings of rejection and heartbreak. In this episode, I explore the underlying root causes of unrequited love and explain how to heal these hard feelings so that you can embrace the potential for real love in the future. I also answer a li...

Healing from infidelity involves learning how to process hard feelings. This is true for people who have cheated and been cheated on in a relationship. In today’s episode, I answer a question from someone who is processing guilt after cheating in a relationship and another question from someone looking for advice on how to handle conflict after infidelity. Timestamps: Intr...

Healing from a broken heart is challenging and many people struggle with moving on after a breakup because they feel depressed and alone. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who is searching for healing after the end of a relationship and another question from someone who is looking for advice on how to heal after a breakup with no closure. Timestamps: Introduction - 0:00 Listener...

Disassociation can sound scary and overwhelming, but is actually much more common than we think. Disassociation is a trauma response and can become a patterned response to stress and overwhelm, and often looks like disengaging and disconnecting from the present moment. In this episode I talk about what disassociation is, why it’s nothing to be afraid of, and how to begin healing. I discuss my own...

Healing from sexual assault and rape takes time, patience, and a lot of support. In this episode, I answer a listener question from someone who is deciding whether or not to press charges in regards to their sexual assault. I also answer a question from someone who was recently raped and is having many feelings and does not know where to start. This is the third episode I have done on healing from...

Self-compassion is an important tool for not only healing trauma and heartbreak, but also for living a happy life. In my own life, I have found self-compassion to be crucial when I am feeling sad, lost, upset, and self-critical. In today’s episode, I define self-compassion, share self-compassion practices, and discuss acclaimed author Kri...

Workplace anxiety occurs when we feel anxious or stressed because of demanding jobs or confrontational coworkers and bosses. The symptoms of workplace anxiety can also have negative impacts on our family and personal lives. In this episode, I explain what work anxiety is, discuss the process for identifying the causes/triggers, and provide tools to help ease and heal work anxiety. I also answer a...

Is it possible for a relationship to work when both people have cheated on each other? In this episode, I answer two questions from listeners who want to make their relationships work, but are both struggling with feelings of guilt, resentment, and mistrust.  I also explain why it's okay for you to have all your feelings, why it's okay to be lonely, and how to start your healing journey to mo...

Everyone has negative thoughts, and sometimes these thoughts can even spiral and create negative thought cycles that we have trouble getting out of. In this episode, I outline my 4 step process (The 4 Cs) to help you stop a negative thought cycle in its tracks. Timestamps: 0:00: Intro 1:37: Step 1 - Catch It 3:30: Step 2 - Cue Breathing 5:08: Step 3 - Curious 6:36: Step 4 - Compassion For episode...

The wounds created from bullying and being bullied can impact our lives long after the instances of bullying have occurred. In this episode, I discuss the long term effects bullying has had in my own life, specifically low self-esteem and self-doubt. I also discuss more long-term effects of bullying and how to heal. I also answer a listener question about healing from the fear of abandonment from...

Oftentimes when we discuss porn addiction, we only discuss it from the view point of the person dealing with porn addiction, but the truth is that porn addiction impacts the people in the relationships with those suffering from the addiction as well. In today's episode, I talk about what porn addiction is, how porn addiction impacts relationships, and I answer two questions: one from someone angry...

PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder) is a common side-effect of experiencing trauma. In this episode I discuss my own journey with PTSD, my post traumatic stress disorder symptoms, and three things that helped me to heal from PTSD. Timestamps: 0:00: Introduction 00:32: What is PTSD? 5:21: 1st thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD  12:11: 2nd thing that Helped Me to Heal PTSD 17:17: 3rd thing tha...

Anger and rage are natural feelings and are important to feel for your healing journey and your mental health. Many people try to numb their triggers, bottle up their rage, and manage their angry feelings inside from a young age. In this episode, I’m going to define anger and rage and talk about the importance of feeling your anger and rage, why you shouldn't fear your anger and rage, why so many...

This week I have a special guest Andrea Giles, Infidelity Coach and host of the Heal from Infidelity podcast on how to heal from cheating in relationships. Andrea and I discuss what to do when you’re at the beginning of your healing journey, how to heal emotionally, and why so many people can feel impatient and frustrated. We also answer two listener questions - one about how to heal resentment an...

Self-care is a popular “buzz word” and is often quoted in lyrics and on social media, but what does it actually mean? You may think it is treating yourself to fun activities and gifts, but in reality that is only one small aspect of self-care. I believe self-care has a broad definition and will look different for everyone. Self-care is one of the most important foundational blocks for the healing...

Body image issues negatively impact so many people in today’s world. Healing your relationship with your body and learning to love and accept your body often takes time and patience. In today’s episode, I discuss my own healing journey with body image issues, three ways I recommend for beginning to heal and love your body, and I answer a listener question about how to stop the negative thought spi...

Setting unrealistic expectations for yourself and others can lead to a repeating cycle of disappointment and frustration. In this episode, I outline my four-step process to help you release the pattern of unrealistic expectations so you can come back to the present moment and objectively re-evaluate your situation. Focusing on goal setting and setting realistic and attainable goals for yourself is...

The mother wound is the pain caused by your relationship with your mother. This can happen through your relationship or through witnessing how your mother interacts with the world. In this episode, I discuss the mother wound, what it is, and how we can begin to heal. I also answer a question from someone who feels town between their mother and a new relationship and doesn’t know if they can contin...

Healing sexual trauma takes time. Many people wish to rush the process, but unfortunately it’s a journey that takes time, patience, and a lot of self-compassion. In this episode, I dive into my own healing journey and story of being raped in my teens. I also answer a question from someone looking for closure after being raped, and someone who feels read to begin looking at the layers of their sexu...

Many adults today are living with the wounding, trauma, and effects of their parents' divorce. Divorce affects all those involved, not just the two getting divorced. In today's episode, I discuss how divorce affects people of all ages.  I answer one question from a listener who was a child when their parents got divorced and wants to know how to heal from it. I also answer a question fro...

Depression is a common problem for many, including those who have experienced trauma during their lives. In this episode, I discuss my own journey with depression and how the symptoms can manifest differently for everyone. I answer one question from someone with pandemic depression and doesn’t know what to do, and another from someone who has been depressed since being injured. I offer advice on h...

The holidays are filled with joy, but also can bring up triggers and family dynamics that want to be healed. In this episode, I discuss family dynamics and the different roles we can play in our family structures. I also answer a question about how to set boundaries around the holidays and how to prioritize yourself when you feel stressed this holiday season. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 6:40 What are f...

In today’s episode, I discuss how difficult family dynamics and triggering relationships are a beautiful opportunity for growth and healing. I answer one question from a listener looking for advice on how to communicate with their family that they are back with an ex who cheated on them, and another question from someone asking what to do if you don’t like your partner’s family. Timestamps: 0:00:...

In this episode, I discuss 10 lessons I learned over the past year on my own healing journey. These lessons and learnings include that new things will always be new and scary, I’m grateful to be sober, I am enough exactly as I am, and many more. Timestamps: 0:00: Intro 4:29: Lesson 1 10:11: Lesson 2 13:33: Lesson 3 19:18: Lesson 4  21:49: Lesson 5 25:07: Lesson 6 30:03: Lesson 7 31:56: Lesson...