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Many women experience feeling naive throughout their life and one way this happens is through dating abusive and harmful men. In this episode, we are going to explore how and why women can end up in a pattern of dating “bad” men and not even know why it is happening. Today I am answering a question from a listener who grew up without a male role model and now finds herself in a pattern of dat...

Generational trauma can feel like a heavy burden, but so many people, myself included, feel guilty and shameful for feeling anything other than positive feelings and gratitude towards their family and cultures. Today I will be discussing generational trauma and how to heal from the impact of our parents and family’s unresolved trauma. We will focus on trauma that is passed down from our parents to...

So many of us struggle to feel confident in who we are, and often feel insecure. In this episode, I answer a question from a listener who wants to know why they have low self-esteem and how can they begin to build confidence. In this episode, I will share learnings from my own experiences healing my self-esteem, insecurities, and self-worth. I share four areas where I think many people’s insecurit...

Today I will be discussing why vulnerability can be so challenging men (and all people). In this episode, I answer a question from a man who is struggling to be vulnerable with his wife and feels defeated and angry by her criticisms of him. In this episode, we will learn about how society and culture impacts male vulnerability and how women can often have unrealistic expectations of men. This...

Do you ever find yourself feeling triggered by feeling like a third wheel? Do you struggle to hang out with your couple friends? Or do you even end up fighting with friends because you don’t want to be a third wheel? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who has been single for awhile and enjoys time alone, but struggles with feeling like a third wheel. In this episode I...

Perseverance is important on the healing journey because it reminds us of our strength when life feels challenging. In this episode, I explain perseverance and how resilience and delayed gratification can help you to continue to move forward. I also discuss my own healing journey and how I have learned to persevere over time, and that perseverance and hard work were not qualities that came natural...

Welcome to Season 4! In honor of this new season, I wanted to share a love letter I wrote to the New View Advice Community. New View Advice would not be possible without all your love and support, so today I wanted to take a moment to thank you from my heart to yours. I hope you enjoy. Sending you all my love. Timestamps ⏱️ Introduction: 00:15 Love Letter: 01:00 Outro:  4:24 For episode show...

Do you feel insecure in female friendships? Do you sometimes find it easier to be alone or with men than with other women? Do you find yourself feeling jealous, competitive, or mistrusting of women? If so, you may have a female friendship wound. In this episode, we discuss how to heal the female friendship wound. I’ll be answering a question from a listener looking for advice on unhealthy female f...

Do you find yourself having fearful thoughts and living life in fear? Do you struggle with anxiety or always fear that bad things are going to happen and you have no control? In this episode, I’ll be discussing what to do when we are living life with fear, general anxiety, or anticipatory anxiety over things that we can’t predict or control. I’ll be answering a question from a listener who is stru...

Do you find the holidays overwhelming and stressful? Do you have a hard time setting boundaries? Do you find yourself hoping that the holidays will just get over with rather than finding ways to enjoy this time of year? In this episode, I will be answering a question from a listener who struggles with the holidays because of people pleasing tendencies and being an empath. I talk about what it mean...

In this episode, we discuss how to make a relationship work when you love your partner, but their parents disapprove because you are from a different religion or culture. I answer a question from a listener who is struggling after a break up. Her and her ex broke up because his family did not approve of her because she is from a different culture. They have struggled to communicate about the probl...

In this episode, I discuss why disappointment hurts so much and why it can feel like failure or a punishment. I answer a question from a listener who is having difficulty navigating a disappointing year that has them feeling down and defeated. We will learn how disappointment is often our psyche’s way of telling us that we have unrealistic expectations or that we are attached to a future outcome r...

It is so common for wounds and beliefs from your teen years to continue negatively impacting your adult life and relationships. In this episode, we learn about your inner teenager, the types of false beliefs that we create in our teenage years, and why the root of many of our adult problems are actually based on those untrue beliefs about life that we developed in our teen years. My intention for...

This episode is about healing from sexual assault and rape, and specifically focused on the question, “How do you rebuild your sense of self-worth after experiencing sexual assault or rape?” After sexual trauma, many survivors continue to suffer from lingering feelings of low self-worth, fear, anxiety, depression, and feeling stuck or lost.  In this episode, I am going to dive into self-...

Denial is a common defense mechanism, especially after being cheated on by a romantic partner. Many of us are often left wondering whether we are being honest with ourselves. In this episode, I answer two listener questions, one from a listener who is conflicted after finding out that their partner cheated again, and one from a listener who wants to know why she keeps making excuses for her partne...

Have you ever felt like you aren’t enough? Have your parents ever asked why aren’t you smarter, more athletic, or more like your siblings? Or have you ever felt like you aren’t good for your partner or to be in a relationship? Or maybe you feel like you just can’t ever get it right at work? In this episode, we will discuss why so many of us struggle with not feeling like we are enough. We wil...

Rejection can feel as painful as physical pain and not only impact your self-esteem, but also can lead to feelings of loneliness, disappointment, embarrassment, or shame. The fear of rejection can be overwhelming and can have other impacts on your life as well.  In this episode, I discuss rejection, what rejection is, why it is so painful, and how to heal from feeling rejected in relatio...

Grieving the death of loved ones is always difficult, but it presents the opportunity to learn more about life and ourselves. In this episode, I talk about my experiences with grief and three lessons grief has taught me in my own life. I also answer two listener questions. One question from a listener who wants to know if it’s normal for grief to cause a person to rethink many aspects of their lif...

How do we forgive ourselves when we betray someone else's trust? How do we heal the feelings of anger, resentment, and self-judgement? How do we learn to trust ourselves again? In this episode, I answer two questions about how to rebuild trust in relationships and also with ourselves. I also discuss the importance of self-care when we are healing from hurting loved ones and why it is important to...

When it comes to religious and spiritual trauma, religious institutions, spiritual leaders, and family dynamics can lead to hurtful or abusive experiences that can leave lasting impacts. In this episode, we are going to discuss how to start healing from religious/spiritual trauma and empower yourself to develop your own relationship with a higher power (if you choose to do so). I will also talk ab...

Following the Covid-19 pandemic, many people still struggle with pandemic hangover, the lingering emotional and mental health side effects from pandemic. In this episode, you are going to learn that healing from a pandemic hangover is similar to healing grief and you will also learn the steps necessary to heal from the anxiety and depression that you likely felt during those uncertain times. My mi...

Cheater’s guilt and shame are common feelings after infidelity, but are often misunderstood by social media and the movies. In this episode, my intention is to explore why the feelings of guilt and shame arise after someone cheats on their husband/wife/partner and my approach to processing the hard feelings so that you can focus on self-forgiveness and compassion. The first listener question is fr...

Emotional abuse in romantic partnerships, families, and friendships can be scary and confusing because many forms of emotional abuse are subtle and committed by people we love. In this episode, my intention is to bring awareness to emotional abuse by discussing what it is, common warning signs, discuss what gaslighting is and why some people gaslight, and how it can look different in eve...

Trust in a relationship is built over time, but can be lost in a moment. When trust is broken, for example with infidelity/cheating, the feelings of betrayal can be intense and people often develop trust issues. But how do you re-learn how to trust yourself and your intuition? In this episode, you will learn how to start healing from the betrayal so that you can begin rebuilding trust in your...

The Father wound consists of unresolved feelings, pain, and wounding caused by your relationship with your father or a fatherly caregiver. Informally known as “Daddy Issues”, people downplay its impact on mental health for sons and daughters. In this episode, I explore the father wound, identify the root causes and symptoms of the father wound, and how it can impact your adult relationships. My mi...