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Caller Questions & More: Marc shares the fight, flight or freeze responses, and how these survival responses relate to our attachment styles.  How do I confront my angry adult son who is mesmerized by my toxic brother? My brother is latching onto my son to get back at me.  My wife ran away to another state and won’t talk to me because of my porn addiction.  How do I explain to my siblings tha...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice discusses disciplining children and how parents need to show a balance of warmth, truth, and consequences.  What do I do about someone lying about me and causing me to get fired? It’s been 6yrs and I still deal with it as a caregiver.  Is excessive tattooing and piercing considered to be self-harm?  Why does someone I see every day never say “Goo...

Caller Questions & More: Becky shares different cognitive distortions that can warp the stories we tell ourselves.  What do we do to help my 48yo sister who was diagnosed with bipolar schizophrenia? She has been in and out of the hospital and stopped working.  Do you have any strategies to overcome being frozen with fear? I have a 40yo child in recovery from alcoholism, and my mother is in a...

Caller Questions & More: Chris discusses the things that lead us to laziness.  How do I manage being a caregiver for my mom when she is abusive?  When I am mourning, I prefer to be alone; do you encounter this much?  Is there any help for me if I buy books but never get around to reading? I always forget what I read.  How do I become motivated when I always feel behind? I am a single mom and...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice shares the value of joining your kids in their favorite online games to help you bond with them.  Will EMDR help me again? My family turned their backs on me after I turned in my brother for sexually abusing me.  My mom went to hospice before Mother’s Day, and I think I need counseling to deal with it.  Can you give me legal help? My abusive ex has def...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill suggests when we feel powerless, reflect on what is our part and what is God’s part.  Is it appropriate to tell my 34yo son to leave my house? He had a heart attack 3mos ago and smokes meth.  The courts sent me to group therapy; how therapeutic is it to have to repeat what I was accused of to every new member of the group?  It has been more than 5yrs si...

Caller Questions & More: Becky addresses how to be in relationship with those with a “never complain, never explain” mentality.  I beat myself up mentally about turning to food instead of God; what is the root cause?  I just went to Every Man’s Battle Intensive; is it okay to masturbate? I have a girlfriend.  My adult adopted daughter has turned everyone against me, and I struggle...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Sheri discusses different types of lying.  How do I go about finding the right counselor for my 16yo grandson who doesn’t relate to any men in his life?  Any suggestions on how to handle Mother’s Day? I lost my mom recently and I tend to isolate.  I lost my mother 32yrs ago to cancer and wanted to share how God gave me the strength to work through the...

Caller Questions & More: JJ discusses why you should challenge yourself without letting the challenge define your worth.  What’s the next step for me if my husband had a 10yr affair, and I didn’t handle it the right way?  A man from church says he likes me, but we haven’t gone on a date; how do I wait confidently on God?  Having trouble finding a church because I only get vo...

Caller Questions & More: Marc talks about the number one thing couples bicker about and offers tips for when an argument occurs.  I get my kids every other weekend, but they treat my place like a hotel; how can I get them to take more ownership?  What do I do when my wife gets easily triggered and screams at me? I was shaking over the weekend after she got angry at me.  My sisters and I were...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice shares how forced downtime can be a blessing to a workaholic.  I lost a son to a suicide; how do I know what help is good for my 23yo son who struggles with ADHD and alcohol?  What is causing my chronic insomnia after losing my 94yo father? I also suffer with lyme disease.  Why do I have a hard time with intimacy as a married woman? Did something happen in m...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill discusses the overlap between addiction, trauma, and narcissism.  Our son dropped out of college to take care of his fiancée with terminal cancer. She had lied about the cancer.  Should I stay with my bipolar daughter to make sure she’s safe now that she is about to be released from the hospital?  My wife struggles with hoarding after having a miscarriage.  H...

Caller Questions & More: Becky discusses self-care for caregivers.  I go to my daughter’s grave, talk to her and pour coffee on her grave to remember her; am I doing anything wrong scripturally?  What do I say to my daughter who is married to a narcissist and often calls me crying?  Do you know of any support groups for satanic ritual abuse survivors?  What can I do if my husband is tur...

Caller Questions & More: JJ shares about the power of the Every Man’s Battle weekend that was held in Washington, DC.  Since I retired, why have I begun eating from the moment I wake until I go to bed? I’ve never had a food addiction.  My 31yo son has been diagnosed with mental illness, lives at home, hears voices, and is verbally abusive; what can I do?  I went to Every Man&#8217...

Caller Questions & More: Marc discusses why we often ignore good advice.  Do I walk away from my husband of 30yrs who has been on drugs most of the time and won’t help me with anything?  What are some good boundaries to set with the men in my Bible study who are addicted to fentanyl?  Our grandson in kindergarten has told his mother and me he wants to die; what do we do?  A 23yo family...

Caller Questions & More: Sheri explains the difference between “betrayal trauma induced control” and codependency.  My mom says I shouldn’t be a Young Life leader because I haven’t been through anything to qualify me as a leader.  I was sexually abused by my dad from a young age until I was 40yo and still have insomnia and hypervigilance; would cognitive behavioral the...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill discusses Easter gatherings with hurts, habits, and hangups, and encourages us to keep loving and keep moving forward.  My husband has terminal kidney disease and insists he leave his facility and have me care for him at home. I feel guilty saying no.  Which way do I turn if I am torn between having to choose my wife or caring for my dependent sister?  My you...

Caller Questions & More: Sheri explains the difference between “betrayal trauma induced control” and codependency.  My mom says I shouldn’t be a Young Life leader because I haven’t been through anything to qualify me as a leader.  I was sexually abused by my dad from a young age until I was 40yo and still have insomnia and hypervigilance; would cognitive behavioral the...

Caller Questions & More: Chris discusses our changing relationship with God and the state of reorientation.  My husband is unfaithful. I found a bottle of Viagra, but he denied it, and my pastors told me they don’t believe me.  My wife kicked me out of the house and changed the locks; what can I do to control my anger and save my marriage?  What is my obligation to our marriage covenant? My w...

Caller Questions & More: Marc explains the difference between hoping and wishing, and he shares ways to deal with discontentment in marriage.  How can my husband and I connect with our granddaughters? Our daughter-in-law has alienated us from them.  I was choked and beaten by my first wife and I am not in love with my second wife; how do I trust people?  How do I stop thinking about my husban...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jacqui discusses the need to lower your judgment and criticism of others and to humbly examine where you are missing the mark in your own life.  My husband is very controlling with money; do I move out to a new apartment that I’ve already negotiated?  How do I resolve challenges with my adult daughter who is an avoider?  How much help should we give my brother who...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jill shares her thoughts on Holy Week and long suffering.  My 34yo friend is a computer programmer and is anxious about AI and how it will impact him.  My husband and I will agree about something, but then he won’t do it; could there be some kind of childhood trauma holding him back?  When my wife pulls away from physical intimacy, I pull away emotionally. This is...

Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice demonstrates, though a personal story, the importance of building a support community well in advance of when you would need their help.  Where can I find a counselor or group that understands the pressure of living with my husband’s PTSD?  I feel guilty when I go on trips and my husband can’t because he is disabled from a prescription drug addiction. ...

Caller Questions & More: JJ shares steps on how to press on when you hit a roadblock during a project.  My wife feels like it’s crazy for her to stay married to me and is too embarrassed to go to counseling. How do I cope with the life I have now?  Should we say anything to our son about going to Salem on his honeymoon? He uses tarot cards and crystals, and his future mother-in-law is a...

Caller Questions & More: Chris discusses anger, sharing that outrage addiction leads to discontent.  I’ve had depression for weeks and can’t do anything while my husband has been in the hospital.  What type of therapy does my nephew need now that my brother wants to be more involved? I adopted my nephew 7yrs ago when he was removed from my brother’s home.  Is my anxiety and...