New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast

We are back with the second episode of Shifting Perspectives! This week we are exploring the topic of divorce. Tamar is joined for this conversation by Olivia Howell. Olivia is the CEO and co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry -- recognized by Forbes as "the first divorce registry of its kind," and by New. York Magazine for "destigmatizing divorce." A clinical hypnotherapist, certified divorce and l...

Welcome to the inaugural episode of Shifting Perspectives! Brought to you by Tamar Queen Barbash and New Beginnings Breakup and Divorce Coaching, this series explores the way our cultural perspectives often don't align with the our lived experiences.  In this episode, Tamar and Dr. Elana Hoffman look at the ways that we talk about marriage, the messages we send to our children, the expectations we...

Today, I am joined by Tracey Bee, owner of the The Divorce Solutionist. Tracey specializes in guiding self-represented litigants through divorce and custody cases as a Family Court Strategist™. Tracey studied psychology at Fairleigh Dickinson University and got her legal training at Seton Hall University School of Law, and she leverages both of those areas of expertise to provide actionable strate...

In today's episode, Tamar is joined by family law attorney Nicole Sodoma.  Nicole is a nationally recognized family law attorney, author and thought leader, who is redefining divorce, co-parenting and modern family dynamics. She is the founder and managing principal of Sodoma Law, the largest family law firm in North and South Carolina. A former litigator, certified parenting coordinator and colla...

And we're back with a new episosde of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast!  This episode probably should have been the first one I ever did. I realized that often when I'm meeting with potential new clients or talking to people online, they aren't really sure what a divorce coach is.  In this episode I break down that question and I address some of the most common other ones I receive....

In this episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast, Tamar is joined by attorney and author Renee Bauer.  Renee has been a divorce attorney for 20 years. She is the founder and managing attorney of Happy Even After Family Law in Connecticut.  Renee is also an international speaker, author of 4 books – Divorce in Connecticut, The Ultimate Guide to Solo and Small Firm Success, the chil...

Welcome back to New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast! I am thrilled to welcome Jill Kaufman to the show for this episode.  Jill is a divorce coach, therapist, mediator, and co-parenting expert. After going through her own difficult divorce, Jill made it her life's mission to help others not have it so tough.  Her book, online course, and her transformational coaching program  help parent...

A few weeks ago, Tamar came across an instagram post in which a woman sent a Venmo request to the woman who had an affair with her husband. In the memo, she explained that since this woman played a role in her divorce, the other woman should at least contribute to it financially. She hashtagged the memo with "homewrecker"  Click here for IG post. This got Tamar thinking about accountability and wh...

I am so excited to welcome Joelle Perez to the podcast to discuss mediation and why it's such a great option for people looking to end their marriages. Joelle Perez is a compassionate and experienced divorce mediation attorney who serves as a neutral third party, helping clients reach mutually agreeable settlements with dignity and respect. Her mediation style is rooted in creating a safe, support...

On this week's installment of the New Beginning's podcast, Tamar welcomes Nanette Murphy to talk about Netflix's new show,  Four Seasons.  A remake of a 1981 film of the same name,  Four Seasons follows three couples in their 50s, all best friends since college, through one year of their lives -- as one of them decides he's ready to end his marriage and start a new chapter.  Tamar is thrilled to b...

It was an absolute pleasure to welcome Leah Hadley onto the podcast! Leah Hadley will tell you she's no stranger to financial challenges. She became an adoptive parent to three overnight, got divorced, and built her business from the ground up, to name a few. These were times when careful financial planning was critical to her peace of mind. Now an award-winning financial planner, sought-after spe...

Hi all,  Welcome back! In this episode, I'm exploring the question of whether marriages can survive after there's been infidelity.  I'm not simply answering the question, because the answer is easy. We *can* do anything. But looking at the why of it all is far more interesting and important if you're considering staying married to a person who has betrayed you in this way.  Have a listen and let m...

We're back! After a summer hiatus that lasted through much of the fall, I'm thrilled to be back with a new episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast.  In this episode, I am looking at the natural trajectory of relationships and exploring how the commitment to a marriage impacts that natural course.  I'd love to hear your thoughts after you listen. Please come find me on Instagram o...

This week, I am so excited to welcome Victoria Kirilloff to the podcast. Victoria is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Family Financial Mediator who helps clients get clear on their financial facts in order to make their divorces as financially successful as possible.  After a decade in a marriage that wasn't working, Victoria found herself at a crossroads. Wanting to leave her partner, bu...

Oof!! This week we were treated to video footage of Kansas City Chief's kicker Harrison Butker speaking to the graduating class of Benedictine College in Kansas. He throws out some wildly archaic ideas about marriage and the role of women in the home that I felt needed to be immediately addressed. Always curious to hear your thoughts! Come share them with me on instagram or threads @nbdivorcecoach...

Months ago, my therapist and I, prompted by an answer in the NYT crossword had a long conversation about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Though it is a concept that refers to business investments, it is incredible how well it relates to relationships. There is so much insight to be gained from the Sunk Cost Fallacy in terms of undesrstanding the motivations behind our decisions. Can't wait to hear what you...

Hi all! We're back! In today's episdoe I am looking at the power of ego - how our need to be liked, chosen, or to feel like we've won leads us to make all kinds of bad decisions for ourselves.  Have a listen and then let me know what you think.  By email: tamar@nbdivorcecoaching.com On instagram: nbdivorcecoaching instagram On threads: nbdivorcecoaching threads

Welcome back to New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast. This week I have the opportunity to share with you a perspective different from my own. I welcome Cass Morrow onto the show to talk with me about what he sees as society's impact on our decisions to leave relationships.  Cass Morrow is a relationship coach who, along with his wife, helps couples disrupt divorce and create a new kind o...

Hi everyone and welcome to episode 3: The a**hole conundrum!  This episode is very special to me. It is a concept I use for understanding human behavior that I coined several years ago. I have been waiting for the right opportunity to share it, and it's finally here.  The a**hole conundrum looks at how we behave in certain situations in order to avoid  feeling  like bad people, when actually these...

In this episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast, Tamar looks at the concept of forever. Does it make sense as a construct for relationships? Are there other ways to structure marriage that are more in line with people's lived experiences? How does commitment affect the way we assess our relationships? 

Hello! And welcome to the first episode of New Beginnings: A Marriage and Divorce Podcast. In this week's inaugural episode we take a look at the metrics of marriage. How do we judge the success of a marriage? Are we accurate in our assessments or are we using a measuring stick that doesn't quite work? Join me for this discussion and come share your thoughts with me @nbdivorcecoaching on Instagram...