Narcissists in Divorce: The Narcissist Trap

In this podcast episode, Dr Supriya speaks with family lawyer Matthew Taylor about Final Hearings in UK Family Law proceedings. In these hearings, both parties are cross-examined, under oath, on the witness stand. Matt gives tips on how best to prepare for these hearings, and we discuss the particular issues that may arise when a narcissistic spouse or ex is involved.  Matthew is a solicitor and P...

In this episode, Dr Supriya teaches victim-survivors about fear and how to manage fear reactions in response to a narcissist's bad behaviour.  Narcissists rely on evoking fear in others to maintain control and gain their all-important 'narcissistic supply'. Being able to terminate fear responses is essential when it comes to the clear thinking that is required when divorcing a narci...

In this episode Narcissism expert Dr Supriya McKenna explains how crucial it is for a spouse separating from a narcissistic individual to find a divorce lawyer who understands the specifics of narcissistic personality disorder. She also gives specific tips to help you to find the right lawyer for your divorce.  Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most...

In this episode, leading consultant clinical forensic psychologists Professor Cooke and Dr Logan speak with Dr Supriya about the importance of the expert witness psychologist (who is being asked to look for personality disorders for the court)  being provided with evidence relevant to the case.  They talk about how they triangulate evidence from different people, the importance of speaking with pe...

In this episode, top forensic psychologists Professor David Cooke and Dr Caroline Logan discuss with Dr Supriya what to look for on a resumé if looking for a competent psychologist to assess your narcissistic ex for the family court. They discuss the common error made by the courts in instructing psychiatrists to carry out personality assessments, and the potential issues that result. They also de...

This podcast was brought to you in association with Stowe Family Law , the largest family law firm in the UK,  as part of their Stowe talks series.  The Stowe talks podcast and video series are designed to help people go through a relationship breakdown and all the challenges this brings, covering topics including narcissism, domestic abuse, supporting children, finances and navigating the family...

In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna gives some pointers to help you prepare for leaving a narcissist, with family lawyers Liza Gatrell and Matthew Taylor. This is the first episode of two on this subject. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books  Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-...

In this episode Narcissism expert, Dr Supriya McKenna describes the difficult to spot Closet Narcissist, using a character from her book.  Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism. Her most up-to-date books are:  Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The T...

In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna gives some pointers to help you identify whether you are in a relationship with a narcissist, with family lawyers Liza Gatrell and Matthew Taylor. They discuss the reasons why it is so important to know whether your partner is a narcissist  before you consider divorcing them, and highlight some interesting legal...

In this episode Dr Supriya describes a lesser known outward presentation of narcissism – that of the Communal (or 'altruistic') Narcissist.  Support the show If you've found the podcast helpful please do consider supporting the show with a small monthly donation here . Narcissists in Divorce: The Co-Parenting Myth - How to Protect your Children and  Stamp Out Post Separation Abuse i...

In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna  explains how to communicate with a narcissistic co-parent to reduce the narcissistic supply. She explains the concept of parallel parenting, and how to deal with being  triggered by communications from the narcissist. She also gives her top tips for building evidence for court in your communication with the narc...

In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna  explains the underlying drivers which lead to Narcissists being unable to cooperatively coparent with you. She explains what behaviours you can expect from the narcissist, and how they use the children as weapons of post separation abuse. She continues in Part Two.  Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling autho...

Bill Buckley interviews Dr Supriya McKenna about narcissistic personality disorder, live on BBC Radio Berkshire.  Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving  Narcissists in Divorce: From Leaving to Liberty – The Truth, The Whole Truth and Nothing But The Truth and  The Narcissist...

In this episode, in which she was interviewed by Stowe Family Law, Dr Supriya McKenna  gives some strategies to help you to rebuild your life after a relationship with a narcissist. Dr Supriya is an Amazon no 1 bestselling author in the subject of narcissism, and the author of the new books Narcissists in Divorce: From Love-Locked to Leaving and The Narcissist Trap :The Mind-Bending Pull of the Gr...

In this episode personality disorder psychologist and psychotherapist,  Dr Elinor Greenberg, chats with  Dr Supriya McKenna (author of 'The Narcissist Trap - The Mind-Bending Pull of the Great Pretenders) about easy ways to spot a toxic date. Dr Greenberg's tips are particularly useful for anyone worried about being back in the dating arena after a narcissistic relationship. She describe...

In this episode internationally renowned clinical psychologist Dr Elinor Greenberg talks with  Dr Supriya McKenna about the various ways that Narcissists can convincingly present as being genuine when dating.  She gives the tip offs for each of her archetypes - the Detective, the Hunter, the Narcissistic Love Script, The Romantic, The Casanova and the Recycler. They talk about the idea of 'I-...

In this episode Dr Craig Malkin discusses his role in the NY times bestselling book "The Dangerous Case of Donald Trump", in which he broke down the behaviours  of pathological narcissism as exhibited by Mr Trump. We discuss how it is actually simpler for the spouse of a narcissist to recognise narcissism in their partner than for a clinician (who has very limited information). We also t...

In this episode Harvard psychologist and narcissism expert and author Dr Craig Malkin talks with Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker about how one can protect their children from becoming narcissistic, even when they have a narcissistic parent. They also discuss the difficulties encountered in dating when one has had a previous narcissistic relationship, to do with attraction, chemistry, trust and...

In this episode Dr Craig Malkin, psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert and psychologist explains the concept of the 'spectrum of narcissism', which he describes in his book, Rethinking Narcissism. He talks about 'healthy narcissism', and about those people who do not have enough of it (the 'Echoists'). We talk about the overlaps of this t...

In this episode, Dr Craig Malkin, Psychology lecturer at Harvard Medical School and narcissism expert, discusses with us how ageing can affect narcissists. We talk about narcissistic collapses, and how  in older narcissists whose relationships have broken down they use projection (blaming others of what they themselves are thinking, feeling or doing) as a defence. Dr Malkin talks about the concept...

In the final episode of this mini series with Dr Elinor Greenburg, we ask Elinor whether it is possible to 'cure' a narcissist. Elinor explains how previously therapy would take 5-10 years to have an effect on a minority of narcissists, but how she has recently been working on a new therapy, which has much faster effects. She explains which specific type of narcissist is able to respond...

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker continue their conversation with  world renowned psychotherapist and educator Dr Elinor Greenberg.  Elinor explains how to manage a narcissist using her 'narcissistic sandwich' technique. Karin describes how she uses this technique herself in her role as a family lawyer and a mediator, and highlights why it is so important for family la...

In this episode Dr Supriya McKenna and Karin Walker talk to internationally renowned Narcissism expert and psychotherapist Dr Elinor Greenberg. They delve into what 'healthy narcissism' is, how people become narcissists, and what determines whether a child will become a narcissist. Elinor differentiates narcissists from psychopaths and gives her view on the idea that narcissists are &apo...

In this fascinating episode , the first of a small series, Dr Supriya and Karin are joined by internationally recognised NPD expert and psychologist Dr Elinor Greenberg, who is famed for her work in explaining NPD to the general public and working directly with narcissists and those who have been affected by them. Elinor discusses the essential concept of 'whole object relations' to expl...

Barrister Nicholas Wilkinson, from leading London chambers One Hare Court, shares his thoughts in part two of this episode. Nick has a wealth of experience in dealing with cases involving narcissists, and has been the instructed barrister in a number of high profile cases. He recently successfully represented Princess Haya of Jordan in the High Court during her divorce from the Ruler of Dubai. In...