Narcissists, Gaslighters, and Cheaters, Oh My!

A lesbian, a gay guy, and a witch walk into a podcast. Yes, really. In this episode, Behk & LAH welcome one of their oldest and dearest friends — John — for a conversation that is equal parts hilarious, heartfelt, and genuinely eye-opening. John opens up about his toxic relationship with who he calls "the greatest showman" — a successful, influential partner in the theater world whose charm ca...

Two podcasts. One very illuminating conversation. In this special collaboration episode, Behk & LAH sit down with Amanda Arnier — host of The Dichotomy Diaries — and things get deep fast. Together they unpack the emotional architecture of toxic relationships: how trust works, why we attach the way we do, what narcissism actually looks like up close, and why telling our stories out loud is one...

Eight years. One man. So many secrets. Shirley thought she had found her person. Turns out her person had found quite a few other people too — including, somehow, his first cousin. As the layers of his infidelity peeled back one by one, what emerged wasn't just cheating. It was a carefully maintained double life that Shirley never saw coming. This one is about betrayal in its most audacious form —...

Jodi had known John for five years. She thought that meant she knew him. She didn't. When John moved in, everything unraveled — fast. Within ten months, he had manipulated her into addiction, turned her home into a place police visited regularly, ignored every protective order, and drained her of everything she had. Ten months. Her sons knew something was wrong before she could even name it. Jodi...

Sarah has already survived her father, her ex-husband, and state custody. In part three, we get to her mother. In this episode, Sarah opens up about the parent who was supposed to be her safe place — and wasn't. A mother who withheld love, a racist stepfather, and the very specific pain of watching that hatred directed at Sarah's own partners and children. This isn't just generational trauma. This...

After everything Sarah survived in part one, she found William. He seemed stable. He was not. In part two, Sarah takes us into her 14-year marriage to a man who used religion as a weapon and control as a love language. Every aspect of her life — who she was, what she did, how she thought — was slowly absorbed into what William needed her to be. It took 14 years to find the door. She walked through...

Sarah's father made her feel unwanted. Her mother made her someone else's problem. And that was just the beginning. In part one of Sarah's story, she takes us back to a childhood defined by neglect, rejection, and the kind of instability no child should ever have to navigate. From an unloving father to a mother who ultimately chose herself, Sarah ended up in state custody — and things didn't get s...

Amanda went to the doctors for help. They looked at her past, her weight, and her insurance status — and decided she wasn't worth the trouble. In this episode, Amanda opens up about years of being dismissed, minimized, and told her condition was simply too expensive to treat. As someone who has also worked inside the healthcare system, she knows exactly how it works — and exactly how it fails the...

He was the hot guy from high school. Heather slid into his DMs. It went badly. In this episode, Heather opens up about the relationship that started with excitement and ended with her in therapy — not to fix him, but to figure out why she kept questioning her own sanity instead of his behavior. What looked like a second-chance romance revealed itself to be a masterclass in control, belittlement, a...

Melanie had a good heart, a good home, and a man named James who saw both as an opportunity. In this episode, Melanie takes us through the relationship that started on a dating app and ended with her finally — finally — going no contact. James moved in within a year, brought his kids, and proceeded to contribute absolutely nothing. No money. No help. No accountability. Just alcoholism, narcissism,...

Jena escaped a cult. And then she married Dick. In part two of Jena's story, we pick up where we left off — with a woman who had already survived the unsurvivable, finally feeling like she'd found something safe. Dick seemed like everything she needed: comforting, strong, gentle. It took time for the mask to slip. It always does. What followed was a different kind of control — quieter than the cul...

Jena didn't just survive a toxic relationship. She survived an entire world built around one. In this episode, Jena takes us inside the cult she grew up in — a rigid, controlling religious community that started in Southern California and convinced over 400 members to pack up their lives and relocate to White House, Tennessee. Behind the doctrine of perfection and blind obedience was something far...

Some cycles don't break on their own. Stephanie decided she would be the one to break hers. In this episode, Stephanie opens up about growing up in the shadow of her parents' own unhealed trauma — and how that pain trickled down into her relationship with her sister, her sense of self, and everything she swore she'd do differently. This is a story about what it looks like to consciously choose a d...

Seven years. One man who would. not. leave. In this episode, Cheryle introduces us to Xanax Chad — a man who showed up in her life, made himself completely at home, and treated every attempt she made to get him out like a personal challenge. What started as a situationship turned into seven years of emotional drain, unkindness, and the slow, exhausting work of trying to reclaim her own life from s...

Hey NGC family — it's Behk & LAH, and we have some news. We're taking a little holiday hiatus to recharge, eat too much, hug our people, and collect even more unhinged stories to bring back to you in January. Because trust us — what's coming in the new year is going to make you gasp, cackle, and question everything. We cannot say thank you enough. Your messages, your reviews, your own stories...

Nancy grew up with a toxic mother and lost her father to suicide. She built a beautiful life anyway. In this episode, Nancy takes us through the kind of childhood that leaves marks — and the long, nonlinear journey of deciding those marks don't get to be the whole story. She talks about setting boundaries with her mother, finding unexpected light in unexpected places, and the moments of validation...

Brandy grew up with a narcissistic, abusive father. She hit rock bottom. She went to prison. And then — somehow — that's where her healing began. In this episode, Brandy sits down with us to talk about the upbringing that shaped her, the breaking point that changed everything, and what she discovered about herself behind bars that she couldn't find anywhere else. What could have been the end of he...

Aleah served her country. Then she spent six years begging doctors to believe her. In this episode, Aleah opens up about her battle with alpha-gal — a condition that was living inside her body long before anyone in a white coat would take her seriously. Dismissed, minimized, and sent home with explanations that never quite fit, she kept pushing anyway. What she went through is a story about medica...

Bethany went on a date. She had to escape from his house. In this episode, Bethany sits down with us to talk about the night a potential romantic interest revealed himself to be something far darker — and how she got out. What followed wasn't just recovery from one terrifying night. It was years of rebuilding trust, navigating the lasting impact of trauma, and finding her way back to herself throu...

Kate was a stunning, brilliant, and magnetic Sheila from Australia. She was also a narcissist — and Jessica didn't find that out until it was almost too late. In this episode, Jessica opens up about the whirlwind romance that felt like fate and the marriage that slowly revealed itself to be something else entirely. When the COVID lockdown stripped away every distraction, there was nowhere left to...

Maya spent decades living in the shadow of her narcissistic mother. It wasn't until her 40s that she finally stepped out of it. In this episode, Maya opens up about growing up with a mother whose narcissism quietly dismantled her self-worth, and what it took to finally seek therapy and start putting herself back together. But this isn't just a story about what broke her — it's about everything she...

Nicole and A built something beautiful — a community for women to connect, support each other, and live a little healthier in the deep-fried south. Good intentions, good people, good vibes. And then one person decided to burn it down. In this episode, the two of them sit down with us to talk about what happens when a toxic individual infiltrates a space built entirely on trust — the warning signs...

Lydia asked for help. Nobody came. In this episode, Lydia shares what it was like to grow up in a home where verbal, physical, and sexual abuse lived behind closed doors — and where the faith community that was supposed to protect her looked the other way instead. This is a story about survival in the most literal sense, and what it takes to carry something that heavy before you finally find a way...

Amanda isn't here to play the victim. She's here to tell the whole truth — including the parts that don't make her look good. In this episode, Amanda opens up about navigating polyamorous relationships, three very different situations with three very different men, and the patterns she didn't see in herself until the damage was already done. What makes Amanda's story stand out isn't just what happ...

Sheena's back — and this time it's not funny. In this episode, she opens up about Matt. The on-again, off-again relationship that kept pulling her back in, the toxicity that escalated with every cycle, and the moment she realized that if she didn't get out, it was only going to be a matter of time before it turned physical. Sheena got out. This is how she did it. If you're in a relationship that k...