Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

Erika's husband was delightfully charming, quickly sweeping her off her feet. However, within the first three months, Erika realized he was two different people. The first was the person she met, a lovely caring spirit. But the second person was the opposite, calm, calculated, and with a penchant for doing terrible things. It's a story of financial abuse, coercive control, animal abuse, language,...

Brandon talks with Kaytee Gillis (LCSW) about recognizing smear campaigns, common tactics of smear campaigns, what smear campaigns look like to the outside world, smear campaign rules of engagement, and communication techniques. Kaytee's website can be found by, clicking here . Kaytee's book 'Invisible Bruises' can be purchased by, clicking here . Kaytee's book 'It's Not High Conflict, It's Post S...

Jill's husband had the reputation of being the sweetest guy in the world. Every one of their mutual colleagues vouched for him. He was good-looking, intelligent, charismatic, and came from a good family. But everything changed once behind closed doors. It's a story of enmeshment, sexual coercion, physically intimidation, gaslighting, addiction, toxic in-laws, protecting children, infidelity, famil...

Brandon discusses the short and long term effects of emotional abuse. Some of the effects discussed on this episode are shame, self doubt, isolation, low self esteem, confusion, hyper vigilance, compliance, dissociation, chronic stress, apathy, attachment issues, depression, dependence, social anxiety, PTSD, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - Suicidal Ideation, Self Harm, & Sexual Coercion are d...

Amelia & Reya lived in fear of their parent's constant emotional and verbal abuse. They lived in fear of their mom's suicide threats. They lived in fear of their mom leaving. They lived in fear of the physical abuse. They lived in fear. It's a story of parentification, fear, obligation, guilt, perfection, appearances, mental health issues, protection, generational trauma, CPTSD, victim playing, au...

Brandon talks with Erika Hull (Author) about the tactics of financial abuse, how to protect yourself, financial literacy, re-establishing your financial future, and Erika's personal story of financial torment. To buy Erika Hull's and Dr. Cheryl Jackson's book, click here. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.co...

Agarcia survived her childhood abandonment/abuse by becoming an independent force. However, once Agarcia was a late teen, she started finding herself in multiple abusive relationships that spanned over 20 years, including extreme financial abuse and attempted homicide. It's a story of generational trauma, neglect, abandonment, trust, coping skills, victim playing, stalking, infidelity, deflecting,...

On this episode on Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses the 5 archetypes of people pleasing and fawning in abusive relationships. Plus he talks about, 3 origins of people pleasing, codependency, systemic oppression, stigma, and much more. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor...

Danielle was 32 years old when she met Matt on an online dating site. Matt had chiseled cheekbones and shockingly vulnerable green eyes. He took rare and alarming ownership for his mistakes, which included drug addiction and some resulting misbehavior. Matt was through that now and regretted the past. To Danielle, Matt was the most beautiful human she had ever seen. And that's the exact facade thi...

During the global Covid-19 Pandemic, Heather was introduced to a live streaming platform called Ego Live where she found comfort, solace, and a social life outside of herself. It was there where she met Kyrie, a streamer who instantly swept her off of her feet and cured her pandemic blues. He was a dream come true or so Heather thought. It's a story of love bombing, boundaries, trust, influence, s...

To the outside world, Allison had a perfect life. A big house, a husband making multiple six figures, and two healthy children. No one would have guessed the emotional torment going on inside the walls of her beautiful prison. It's a story of isolation, financial abuse, control, nitpicking, competency, dependency, fear, the silent treatment, sowing the seeds of doubt, the in-law cult, escape plans...

In 2019, I received an email from a survivor named Rebecca. She was struggling to make sense of her abusive relationship and wanted to speak with a former guest named Elizabeth. I was hesitant, but I put them in touch with each other. This episode is about the importance of being understood, despair, hope, healing, and the blossoming of a beautiful friendship. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode di...

Julia fell for her husband immediately. He was charismatic, a protector, great with children, and had aspirations to be a fireman. Julia's husband checked all of her boxes. He was the man of her dreams. But unfortunately for Julia, her husband slowly morphed from someone she trusted to someone she feared. It's a story of caretaking, fear , feeling alien, being good enough, rage, double standards,...

Brandon talks with Mercedes (survivor story guest from August 1st, 2022) about the events and realizations that transpired after we recorded her episode. We discuss post separation abuse, shifting abuse, smear campaigns, protecting/empowering your kids, shame, despair, boundaries, support, acceptance, being the villain, and much more. To listen to Mercedes' original episode, click here. If you wan...

When Amanda met her charming and intelligent husband, she felt complete. Amanda was living her childhood dream. But unfortunately for Amanda, she soon encountered her husband's explosive anger. Amanda began to walk on eggshells to survive. And from empty promises to gaslighting, Amanda's husband kept her trapped in the relationship until he tried to take her life. It's a story of physical abuse, s...

Brandon discusses the tools a coercive narcissistic abuser uses to gain power and control over their victims. He digs deep into isolation, monitoring, manipulation tactics, deprivation, freedom, micromanaging, rule setting, financial abuse, regulating sex, fear, threats, intimidation, physical aggression, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - This episode discusses sexual and physical abuse. *** If...

All Shannon ever wanted was the security of a whole intact family, and for three years, Shannon lived that dream. But unfortunately, once Shannon was diagnosed with cancer, her husband's mask slipped, and Shannon's lifelong dream became an absolute nightmare. It's a story of addiction, mirroring, generational trauma, victim playing, compassion, surviving, shame, cognitive dissonance, gaslighting,...

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses the 5 different types of lies, compulsive lying versus pathological lying, and the most common lies narcissistic abusers tell. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor NOBODY SHOULD BELIEVE ME PODCAST. I loved this podcast....

Almost two years ago, Uma was a guest on our show after fleeing to another state to escape her abuser. Things began to look for a while. It looked like custody of their child may have been uncontested, but unfortunately, Uma's abusive ex came out of the woodwork with a vengeance. It's a story of custody, fear, toxic parents, single moms, invisible abuse, and the broken system. Plus they discuss, I...

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's early warning signs of an abuser and is the way you're being treated abuse. Plus he discusses the cycle of abuse, patterns of abuse, gaslighting, triangulation, jealousy, intimidation, control, sexual coercion, hypocrisy, blame shifting, devaluation, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - Physical Abuse, Sexual Coercion, & Sexual Assault is mentioned in this episod...

Brandon talks with Elizabeth about her abusive relationship with a wolf in sheep's clothing and the devastating effects it had on her psyche. They discuss the difficulty of suffering in silence, shame, validation, financial abuse, PTSD, and the pain of a hard discard. It's a visceral episode. - This is also a classic episode that helped shape our podcast and Brandon discusses the importance of Eli...

Brandon talks with former guests, Jean & Vanessa, about the hazards of the holiday season with narcissistic abusers. We discuss feelings, tactics, boundaries, safety, managing expectations, children, hoovering, families, relationships, loneliness, fear, guilt, obligation, wins, grey rock, support, doubt, ptsd, healing, and much more. To listen to Jean's story, click here. To listen to Vanessa's st...

It only took six weeks for Caroline's partner to begin his devaluation. As the years went on, the things Caroline's partner claimed to love about her, were the very things he started to use against her. From Caroline's appearance to her laugh to her jobs, Caroline's partner picked fights about everything and then blamed her for getting upset. However, this all came to a head just weeks before Caro...

Brandon talks with Andrea Dunlop ( Author & Podcast Host) about her podcast 'Nobody Should Believe Me' and her personal experience with Munchausen by Proxy. We discuss the different types of factitious disorder, the comorbidity of narcissism, validating survivors of abuse, kernels of truth, lies, blame, gaslighting, family dynamics, cognitive dissonance, mourning the living, and much more. ***TRIG...

Tessa grew up in a state of fear. She became a voiceless child that walked on eggshells to avoid her mother's abuse. To Tessa, this was normal. She didn't know what abuse was. To her, this is how families worked. It's a story of generational trauma, fear, surviving, being good enough, gaslighting, silent treatment, neglect, racism, enemies, control, trust, physical abuse, demands, rage, parental a...