Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse

After years of battling alcohol addiction, Dakota was finally sober. She was living in a women's home, going to meetings, and taking long bus rides to see her beautiful child. Then one day, the abuser who pretended to be her hero, showed up to her meeting, swept her off her feet, and almost took her life. It's a story of guilt, reverse psychology, minimization, invalidation, isolation, addiction,...

Rhea was raised and betrayed by her narcissistic father. It's a story of dark family secrets, conditional affection, witnessing abuse, perfectionism, infidelity, and survival mode. Plus they discuss, people pleasing, anxiety, vanity, neglect, child sexual abuse, intimidation, internalized rage, physical abuse, divorce, infidelity, panic attacks, minimization, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - G...

Brandon discusses Lundy Bancroft's 10 types of abusers & the role of narcissistic personality disorder. Plus they discuss, minimization, gaslighting, physical abuse, control, power, triangulation, threats, intimidation, guilt, invalidation, kernels of truth, and much more. *** TRIGGER WARNING - We discuss physical abuse and suicide in this episode. *** Lundy Bancroft's book 'Why Does He Do That?'...

Brandon discusses the top 5 signs of isolation, how isolation is used to abuse you, common phrases used to isolate you, creating dependency, manipulation tactics, isolation as a form of punishment, identity erosion, and the difficulty in leaving. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor...

Mia met her husband as a teenager. Their relationship was a dream come true. But after the birth of their first child, everything about her husband changed. Mia was relegated to secondary supply and became the scapegoat of the family. Children as 'proxies' began to run rampant behind the scenes, as Mia's abusive husband was sowing the seeds of doubt amongst everyone. And as time went on, the psych...

Brandon talks with a recovering love addict named Eunice about love addiction, fantasies, toxic shame, codependency, narcissists, and unhealthy relationships. Plus they also discuss, attachment styles, support, intimacy, and family dynamics. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com Thank you to our sponsor BETT...

Lennon met her future husband at a rooftop bar. He was intelligent, driven, strong, and seemingly steady. However, as soon as their relationship became romantic, controlling behavior emerged. And once they were married, the coercive control ramped up, leaving Lennon and her kids in a financially abusive prison. It's a story of sexual coercion, people pleasing, trust building, guilt trips, nitpicki...

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses validation, the different types of verbal/non-verbal invalidation used by narcissistic abusers, and the different types of invalidating families. Plus, we discuss the silent treatment, gaslighting, stonewalling, feeling small, dehumanization, love bombing, trust building, and the idealization stage of narcissistic abuse. If you want t...

Dasha's family was controlled by her emotionally invalidating narcissistic dad. It was the cult of her father. And unfortunately for Dasha, she cracked under the pressure of mixed messages, expectations, and keeping herself small. However, a funny thing happened to Dasha while she battled depression, a light burst through those cracks. And Dasha finally began to take the necessary steps to live a...

Brandon talks with Michael Lander (MSW & Psychotherapist) about his use of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy with families of abuse, 3rd party objectivity, collaborative problem solving with kids, counter parenting, knowing a child's process, manipulation, sharing language, generational trauma, the broken system, and much more. Michael Lander's website can be found by clicking here. To buy the book...

Caroline thought she met her Christian Prince Charming, and for 3.5 years, their dating life was near perfect. However, once they were married, Caroline's Christian Prince Charming quickly turned into a sexually coercive boundary pusher who couldn't bare the thought of Caroline loving their child more than him. It's a story of caretaking, isolation, guilt trips, sexual coercion, self gaslighting,...

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon talks with Dr. Christine Marie Cocchiola (DSW, LCSW, Coercive Control Advocate, Educator, Researcher & Survivor) about coercive control, authoritarian parents, Disney, dad's, the Neurosequential Model, the psychological maltreatment of children, helping children regulate emotions, protective parenting, building ego resiliency, and much more. Dr...

From the moment Leighton was born, her dad used her as either a pawn or a prop for his nefarious needs. Leighton's dad was part grifter, part abuser, part predator, and because of that, Leighton lived her life in constant chaos. Leighton lived a lonely life, shuffling around from state to state, being abused, but also having front row seats to the abuse of others. A guilt prop for an endless sea o...

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses Dr. Karyl McBride's '6 types of maternal narcissists', the 3 childhood experience types of daughters of narcissistic mothers, and the common phrases narcissistic mothers use and why? This episode touches on power, control, gaslighting, physical abuse, shame, fear, obligation, guilt, dehumanization, minimization, justification, manipul...

Olia fell in love with a charismatic individual who transitioned to a woman during their relationship. Knowing the transition for her partner would be very difficult, Olia bent over backward to be emotionally/physically available, but it was never enough. And before she knew it, Olia was under the complete control of her extremely calculated abuser. Her one person cult. Plus Olia discusses, gaslig...

On this episode of Narcissist Apocalypse Q&A, Brandon discusses all things empathy. How the narcissist uses cognitive empathy and your own empathy against you. Plus he helps you see under the narcissists cognitive empathy mask during the love bombing stage. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissistapocalypse@gmail.com To take a fre...

Lemon thought she found 'acceptance' when she got into a relationship with the man of her dreams. But unfortunately for Lemon, there was a power imbalance right from the start and Lemon endured 10 years of emotional abuse. It's a story of a future faking, scapegoats, self love, button pushing, self defense, isolation, believing the lies you're told, coping mechanisms, gaslighting, put downs, movin...

On this episode, Brandon discusses Narcissist Apocalypse's Top 20 Relationship Green Flags List of what to look for in a healthy partner and a little bit of what not to look for too. He discerns Green Flags from Red Flags, especially during the confusing narcissist abuse love bombing stage. If you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please click here or send us an email at narcissist...

Riley grew up feeling that she was hard to love. Riley's ex made her feel like loving her was easy. He was the perfect predator and Riley was sold. Who wouldn't be in this case? But unfortunately, the physical abuse and rage showed itself early on, and Riley was too trauma bonded to get out. Brandon talks with Riley about her controlling relationship with a triangulating physical abuser. It's a st...

Brandon discusses Narcissist Apocalypse's 25 Basic Relationship Human Rights to help empower abuse victims/survivors. A big thank you to Dr, Evan Stark (Coercive Control Expert, Forensic Psychologist, Author) for encouraging Narcissist Apocalypse to grow in a direction that's not just validating the victim/survivor experience, but to create empowerment and movement for them to leave. If you want t...

July thought she met the perfect man, but he turned out to be the perfect wolf in sheep's clothing. By exploiting July's biggest strength, July's ex turned it into her biggest weakness, which almost cost July her life. Brandon talks with July about her controlling relationship with a physical abuser. It's a story of anxious attachment, communication manipulation, avoiding confrontation, toxic masc...

Brandon discusses the top 10 ways a narcissistic abuser will confuse you into thinking you're the narcissist. This episode isn't just about the crazy making, but also about discerning the truth from the lies you've been told. The silent treatment vs. taking time to yourself. The hero/saviour conundrum. Everyone loves them, it must be me. Abuse vs. self defense. Snooping. Accusations. Shame. Guilt....

Brandon talks with Elle about her toxic relationship with a paranoid controlling abuser. It's a story of insecurities, conforming, sexual coercion, responsibility deficit disorder, recognizing patterns, and post separation abuse. Elle fell hard for her partner, quickly became pregnant, and that's when his controlling behavior ramped up for good. Plus they discuss, believing the lies you're told, d...

Brandon talks with Clementine about her abusive relationship with an altruistic narcissist. It's a story of neurodivergency, sexual assault, infidelity, making yourself small, hoovering, and financial abuse. Clementine was a cancer survivor who fell in love with a cancer organization leader, only to find out that he was nothing like the altruistic person he portrayed in public. Plus they discuss,...

Brandon talks with Nina about surviving abuse at the hands of her narcissistic mother and new abusive husband. It's a story of kidnapping, conditional love, sexual abuse, physical abuse, sibling roles, trauma, guilt, shame, and healing. After being kidnapped by her mother, Nina took on the role of the golden child at an early age, as to not be vilified like her older sister. It's a heartbreaking s...