Mythbusting Neurodiverse Relationships

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode, we joined Jodi Carlton and a panel of experts on her YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast. In this Part 2 of the discussion, the panel share insights and strategies for change when only one partner works on it. If you’re trying to decide whether to stay, leave, or redefine what being together looks like, this conversation offers real-life strategies, hop...

www.lovingdifference.net Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 💙  In this episode, we joined Jodi Carlton and a panel of experts on her YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast. In this Part 1 of the discussion, the panel share real insights and proven strategies to help neurodiverse couples thrive. What You’ll Learn: 👉 Success stories from neurodiverse couples 👉 How nervous system regulation impa...

www.lovingdifference.net ♟️Are you playing an invisible game of chess in your neurodiverse relationship? Are you open to the possibility that you may be unintentionally controlling yourself, situations, issues, outcomes, other people? As I took a different path to resolve the hamster wheel of issues in my neurodiverse relationship/family I realised I was. Initially I was shocked and ashamed. I did...

www.lovingdifference.net If you're here, you're likely experiencing Trigger Dominoes in your neurodiverse relationship, a catalogue of triggers on a daily basis for many years, resulting in unhappiness, disconnection and exhaustion. In today's episode, Natalie is flying solo and sharing some more on this relationship game we're often playing and how we can change the rules and the outcomes of the...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode we're in conversation with Dr Stephanie Holmes from Neurodiverse Christian Marriages, answering questions from her listeners. Natalie and I share our perspectives and, of course, try to bust some myths that we think are stereotypical, unhelpful and untrue! We cover why it's highly problematic to tell another person that they may be neurodivergent and we als...

www.lovingdifference.net Celebrating 10 years of friendship, recovery, career change and the creation of the Loving Difference programme, Heather shares how difficult it was back then to prioritise herself enough to seek support. The myth we're busting in this episode is that you have to figure it out alone. The new truth we want members to hear is that there is hope and a way forward. There is a...

www.lovingdifference.net Today’s episode is Heather’s presentation at the online Neurodiverse Love conference in February 2023. Heather’s busting the myth that things will only get better if your partner changes or if you change even more than you have already. We want you to know the new truth, that it takes two to create a pattern and only one to change it.. You can change your experience of the...

www.lovingdifference.net A different episode of the podcast for you today.. In this episode and the next one, we’re sharing our presentations from the Neurodiverse Love conference that happened online in February 2023. We loved the opportunity to share our experience with others there and now we’re bringing them to a wider audience via the podcast too. In Natalie's presentation today she's busting...

www.lovingdifference.net 🌟 We're here with Festive Hope and a Way Forward! Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, Diwali, New Year's, Parties, Family Gatherings... We used to dread the festive season. With festive myths busted and new ways to navigate challenges WITHOUT compromising what matters most to us, we now sparkle our way through the season! A special edition episode ... we're here to bust th...

www.lovingdifference.net It's been a while!!!.... it felt really good to get back to recording our conversations! If you're feeling lost, stuck and hopeless in your neurodiverse relationship and your partner can't or doesn't want to work on the issues that you think need sorting out, we're here with hope and a way forward! Here's some of the things we hear from people... &#...

www.lovingdifference.netRecently we got together to celebrate being friends for nine years and a special AUA (Ask Us Anything!) answering questions from Loving Difference members. In 2014, we both felt like we were suffocating and trapped in lives we couldn't change. It was as if life had drained the life out of us. We hoped that discovering neurodiversity would sort out the daily nightmare that o...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode we're busting the myth that 'I can't be happy at all whilst everything is so terrible in my Neurodiverse relationship'. Many of our members arrive in Loving Difference hoping to resolve the challenges in their neurodiverse relationships, so that they can be happy again. We don't want our members to wait until they've resolved all the...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode, we’re busting the myth it's too dangerous to hope in my neurodiverse relationship. A member recently shared the following:-'It's so encouraging to read also from people with similar first-hand experience, about the fears and doubts and then about the hope. Hope is something I had tried to let go of in recent years, because i experienced so many...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode, we’re busting the myth that others need to change so that our experience is different. We used to think our experience was dependent on what others did or didn't do... and we've realised that's not true. Our waiting on others to change or hoping they'll change or expecting or believing they should change or trying to get them to change cost...

www.lovingdifference.net Caution: please look after yourself for today's episode. There is discussion of suicide and the very desperate situations our young people experience and that we as parents can experience in our efforts to support them. If you need to, skip this one. We welcome your comments and questions about what we're sharing today. Get in touch via www.lovingdifference.net or...

www.lovingdifference.net Caution: please look after yourself for today's episode. We realise this is a big topic we're bringing attention to today. We hope you're open to hearing some new thoughts that challenge narratives which, from our own experience, are based on outdated assumptions and stereotypes. Most important is knowing that we're here to validate ALL experiences and find...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode we're busting the myth that everything that's said is personal and we're all getting it wrong! It was prompted by a conversation we were having just before we started recording about how differently we receive and perceive information from others these days. it all started with Natalie's husband buying a new lasagne dish of all things!! For...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode we're busting the myth that we were conned when we were dating and our partner isn't really who we fell in love with. This was a really pervasive myth that we discovered in the early days of neurodiversity arriving into our awareness and we know that many still see it that way. We realised it really affected the way we thought about our partner and...

www.lovingdifference.net A lighter episode today, riffing on the trials and tribulations of countless misunderstandings that we've encountered in our neurodiverse relationships, with partners and children, and the truth of who and what we realised was showing up that we hadn't realised before! Why dinner could have became a meaning making disaster for Natalie last week. Why misunderstandin...

www.lovingdifference.net Let’s quickly recap Part 1! We shared that we’ve discovered lots of reasons why our needs weren't being met:Neurodiversity narrativesCultural narratives and unconscious expectationsExperience of how how needs have been met in the pastPlus lots of other contributing factors. The point is that there were lots of things and it wasn't as simple as ‘you can’t or you’re...

www.lovingdifference.net What do you do ‘like breathing’? What gifts of yours have you lost touch with, rejected or tried to correct or fix? Natalie’s solo in this episode from March a couple of years ago with reflections and words of encouragement on our uniqueness and gifts. Not knowing our gifts, forgetting them or perhaps worst of all, judging them harshly, is detrimental to our sense of self,...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode, we're sharing our thoughts and perspectives on a question from a Loving Difference member who wonders if really all relationships are neurodiverse and whether mental health is actually the main issue. We thought this would be relevant for those who watch or listen outside of Loving Difference so we thought we'd share it here too. ***** Want to lear...

www.lovingdifference.net In this episode, which is Part 1 because we realised we have a lot to say on it (!), we’re busting the myth that your partner can’t meet your needs so you’ll need to leave the relationship to recover yourself and thrive. It takes us back to the very beginning of our journey together in 2014 when we were reading and learning lots about the new land of neurodiversity we hadn...

www.lovingdifference.net We’re back and it’s time for a refresh and reinvention! Welcome to the Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships Podcast. In this first episode of a new season we’re joined by Mona from Neurodiverse Love. We’re going to bust as many myths about neurodiverse relationship as we can together in about 45 minutes!!! These are all myths that we had when we started this journey tha...

www.lovingdifference.net Another collaborative episode with Mona from the Neurodiverse Love podcast. Many of us would love to turn our interests and passions into paid employment, however that isn’t always possible. In this episode, we’re sharing challenges we’ve experienced in school and employment and how we’ve worked to create ways to use our gifts and talents through paid employment, volunteer...