My Therapist Said

This week, Stef showed up with… zero plan (let’s be real, it was unintentional—because, you know, life). But that didn’t stop her from diving into something big: taking risks. Stef gets real about what it looked like to start this podcast with nothing but a mic and a little bit of courage. She breaks down how even the tiniest bit of leftover energy in your tank can help you expand your world. Feel...

Feeling overwhelmed by mental health content online? SAME. If you're drowning in a sea of Anxiety TikToks, OCD Instagram reels, and the pressure to read your 100th self-help book, this episode is for you. Stef is back this week, and we're diving into the idea of hyperfocus in mental health — how it shows up in therapy, in our personal lives, and all over your feed. As a therapist, Stef sees how an...

In this episode, Stef dives into the importance of appreciating each other’s differences. If we expect everyone to fully understand our unique experiences, we’ll keep running into feelings of being unheard and invalidated. So how do we navigate that? Spoiler alert: the answers you’re searching for—and the validation you crave from shared experiences—aren’t found in others. They’ve been within you...

In this week's episode, Stef dives into the theme of getting uncomfortable. She shares personal experiences of pushing past her comfort zone and the invaluable lessons she’s learned along the way. She also unpacks the unfair expectations around mental health treatment and reminds us that, at the end of the day, we're all just humans having a human experience. I mean… isn’t that the whole point?!

For this week's episode, we have a guest! Justin and and Stef sit down for some real talk about life, mental health, and how to invoke long-term change. They share the powerful impact that comes from owning your story, and share insight about how to use this as a tool in supporting others.

This week on My Therapist Said, Stef talks about being a “rigid bitch” (shoutout to Khloé Kardashian), pushing herself to break routine—like going to yoga at a different time—and unlearning the childhood belief that rest is bad. Because knowing why we struggle, is the first step to taking our power back.

In this episode, Stef pulls from Love is Blind season 8 as inspiration to dive into societal expectations of men and women. She talks about how women increasing their standards could not only change the dynamics of dating, but could lead the change the world we are all hoping to see. It can be a lonely journey to set a new standard for yourself, so she shares how to feel powerful while you are alo...

In this episode, Stef breaks down the importance of self-love and why real transformation isn’t about becoming "unrecognizable." Inspired by the TikTok trend, she explores why bringing every version of yourself along for the journey is essential for lasting growth. Through personal therapy reflections, Stef highlights the importance of feeling deserving of good things—because not everything has to...

When Stef started My Therapist Said, many people shared they felt it was unprofessional for a therapist to have a podcast—but here we are at Episode 20, and only 1% of podcasts make it this far (!!). It’s time to push back, and if there’s one thing about Stef—when she’s got an opinion, she will be heard. Buckle up!

In this episode, Stefanie encourages listeners to embrace curiosity and start asking more questions. Lately, it seems like no one wants to admit when they don’t know something—and that fear is holding us back. Stefanie reminds us that it’s okay to say, 'I don’t know!' Wondering why your partner is always on their phone? Why your boss is such a jerk? Maybe it’s time to just ask!

You are not a burden. In episode 18, Stefanie breaks down the pressures of friendships. We need community and connection to survive, but what happens when we lose ourselves in this process? Stef talks about the importance of pouring from a full cup, and the harmful ways that come with overextending ourselves for our friends. Struggling to find this balance? Listen in!

So what is trauma bonding, really? In this episode, Stef breaks down what trauma bonding is and what it looks like in relationships. If this is something you feel you have experienced now, or in the past... listen in!

Welcome to Episode 16! In this episode, Stef talks about falling for people's "potential" and how things can get tricky when we start nitpicking our partners. With her background in addiction treatment, Stef brings some therapist wisdom to the conversation, diving into what it’s like to only hear one side of a relationship story. She also explores the struggle of wanting the best for others while...

Some days we're sad.. Some days we're comedians! In Episode 15, Stef shares her thoughts on how trauma and humor can be related. She talks about the pain that lives so closely to our laughter and how this connection can be incredibly healing. Ever heard that trauma makes us funnier? Here's why!

In this episode, Stefanie takes a very clear stance on phone use and speaks to the larger issue... the negative impact on your mental health. Stef shares her own story of her relationship with her phone and her phone left her feeling drained and exhausted. Our phones are meant to connect us, yet we are more disconnected than ever from ourselves. Is this speaking to you? Listen in!

You killed it, yesterday!! You worked hard to make it to today. Give yourself credit. Episode 13 is all about this. As we move into 2025 and all start setting goals around how to be the 'new you', Stef reminds us the importance of yesterday's version, or the version of you last year. That version of you needs love too. You created the you that is ready to take on 2025. So grab your goals, bring yo...

Too "emotionally attuned" for therapy to work on you? Are you aware of your problems but struggling to make moves towards actionable change? THIS is the episode for you! In this episode of My Therapist Said, Stefanie tackles the struggle of being emotionally intelligent in therapy while getting lost in labels and diagnoses. Question is, are you actually emotionally attuned or is this your analytic...

Sometimes, it's not all about you. We all have shit going on. It's important to remember that when you get wrapped up in worrying about others choices and decisions. Having the ability to discern and then self-sooth by labeling emotions... That's what tomorrow's episode is all about. Tune in!! (You'll also hear a story about me crying on the interstate so that's fun.)

Burnt out? Overwhelmed? Same. In this New Year’s Eve episode of My Therapist Said, I, Stef, your host and a (very human) therapist, take you through the chaos of holiday meltdown, Christmas disasters (spoiler: I started a fire in my house), and the art of saying “no.” Sometimes, the plans you made feel all wrong, and trust me, it’s okay to change your mind—even at the last minute. We’re diving int...

Welcome to episode one of the Thoughts of Therapists series! Stefanie brings on her friend, Leanne (AKA "the cussing therapist") to chit-chat about her work as a therapist. With over 15 years of experience, she has stories for days! From Pimps & Hoes parties to mansplaining nightmares, Stefanie & Leanne are breaking down boundaries and getting real about what it's like to be a therapist while bala...

In this episode of My Therapist Said, Stef introduces an exciting new series called "Therapist Thoughts," where she will chat with fellow mental health professionals to explore the overlooked aspects of working in therapy. More specifically, she shares what she wishes she knew before becoming a therapist. Fuck fitting into a mold. Extra big fuck you to imposter syndrome. Stefanie shares her own ex...

In Episode 7 Stefanie covers how the bar is in literal hell when it comes to working with insurance companies as a therapist. Stefanie also talks about the concept of "holding space" and what this looks like (or doesn't) in real life. Tune in for a rollercoaster of ranting and rolling!

In this episode of My Therapist Said, Stef gets real about gratitude. It's Thanksgiving and the number one question you better have an answer prepped for at the dinner table is "what are you grateful for?" Forget the usual clichés, let's challenge ourselves to dig a little bit deeper. It can be hard when you are in a mental health dip to really express gratitude beyond the obvious... of course I'm...

Ever hit a brick wall in therapy where you are just over it? Therapy burnout is a real experience that many clients experience. In today's episode, Stefanie talks about what to do when you don’t know what to say in therapy and why it’s still worth showing up, even when it's the last thing you feel like doing. Stefanie opens up about her own experiences in therapy that led to her feeling burnt out...

What to say when you don't know what to say... In this episode of "My Therapist Said," host Stefanie gets real about the awkwardness of navigating tough conversations. Kicking things off with a cheeky check-in—complete with her alien sweater —Stefanie dives right into the messy reality of supporting someone through grief and loss. Forget the scripted responses; Stefanie lays it out: sometimes, you...