My Therapist Said

Hi! Content warning: This episode includes conversations about grief, addiction recovery, and a past overdose. Some days Stef wonders if self-awareness has gone a little too far. This week, Stef talks about why she doesn't want to go to therapy either, what it feels like to stop agreeing with the person you used to be, and how grief can quietly shape the way we show up in our relationships. As...

This week, Stef reflects on the strange vulnerability that can come after telling your own story. From navigating Father’s Day and the complicated feelings that come with talking openly about her childhood, to wondering whether she is the only person who feels slightly outside of the traditions everyone else seems to understand, this episode explores the difference between feeling like an isolated...

Hi! Content warning: drug overdose, suicidal ideation, and cancer. This week, Stef sits in the uncomfortable space between the highs and lows—the place where you can be proud of how far you’ve come and still feel completely untethered. A conversation about anxiety, uncertainty, identity, and what it means to keep showing up when life doesn’t look the way you thought it would. From redefining what...

For the 100th episode of My Therapist Said, Stef reflects on the moments that quietly change the direction of our lives. From the loss of both her parents to a conversation about addiction, this episode explores what it means to look back with compassion, make peace with uncertainty, and recognize that growth is often happening long before we realize it. As Stef looks back on the journey of My The...

What if we're all just working with the tools we were given? This week, Stef reflects on generational trauma, mental health, addiction, and the growing divide between older and younger generations. From a coffee conversation about therapy and resilience to a vulnerable discussion about her generational struggles with alcoholism, she explores what it means to meet people where they're at wi...

What if the problem isn't that you don't have the answer yet... it's that you're just asking yourself the question too often? This week, Stef reflects on self-trust, uncertainty, and the exhausting habit of demanding answers from yourself before you're ready to have them. Through stories about yoga, journaling, and healing, she explores what happens when you stop forcing clarit...

This week, Stef reflects on anger, grief, and the uncomfortable conversations many people don't have. What starts as an unexpected reminder of both of her parents turns into a deeper exploration of loss, guilt, and the complicated reality of how the people we love continue to shape us long after they're gone. Along the way, she shares thoughts on therapist burnout, insurance clawbacks, and...

This week, Stef reflects on what happens when you stop letting other people define who you’re supposed to be. From crying on the mic as a therapist to questioning the boxes we put ourselves and others into, this episode explores identity, authenticity, and the freedom that comes from being a full human instead of a job title. Along the way, she shares why sometimes the answer isn’t to quiet an ove...

Stef is back on this Friday episode reflecting on a sleepless night, a much-needed therapy session, and what happens when you stop treating every difficult feeling like something that needs to be fixed. Part therapy reflection, part existential spiral, and part stream-of-consciousness comedy special, Stef shares thoughts on journaling, burnout, emotional processing, addiction, OCD, and why sometim...

The boundaries are in hell this week. Stef talks about grief, vulnerability, and the strange emotional whiplash that happens when you’re trying to separate your identity from expectations that have consumed you for years. What starts with an embarrassing moment at yoga turns into a bigger conversation about exhaustion, attachment, and learning how to stay calm with a nervous system that’s doing th...

Stef is back on this Friday episode to riff on the worldly impacts of mental health provider burnout, emotional exhaustion, and the strange pressure to keep functioning inside systems that clearly aren’t working. Somewhere between unpacking Bravo relationship dynamics, grieving roadkill on the side of the road, and passionately defending the importance of a structured hoodie, this episode turns in...

We are back baby!! This week Stef talks about losing her mom, transitions, vulnerability, and the strange pressure humans put on themselves to constantly have answers for everything. What starts as a conversation about grieving slowly unfolds into a deeper reflection on therapy, dating, creativity, healing, and the quiet emotional currents that sit underneath everyday life. Inspired in part by com...

Stef sits down with "party coach" Evan Cudworth for a conversation about connection, addiction, loneliness, identity, and what it means to actually have fun again. What starts as a conversation about partying turns into a deeper discussion around isolation vs. solitude, nostalgia, social anxiety, conscious partying, and learning how to reconnect with yourself and others in a world that f...

Life is feeling a little... horror-movie-coded this week. Stef talks about closing her private practice, burnout, risk tolerance, grief, embarrassment, and the strange identity crisis that happens when the thing you worked so hard to build suddenly ends. What starts as a conversation about therapist pay and insurance companies turns into a much bigger conversation about uncertainty, ambition, emot...

Hi! Content warning : this episode includes discussion of stalking and nonconsensual sharing of intimate content. If you’re experiencing something similar, please seek legal support if it feels safe to do so. Take what you need and skip ahead if it’s not for you today. What starts as a conversation about dating turns into one of the most honest episodes Stef has recorded yet. Stef talks about crea...

Some episodes feel more like a conversation than a podcast, and this is one of those. Stef gets honest about mental health, shame spirals, addiction, and the strange experience of trying to find balance while still being very human. This episode dives into the consequences of avoidance, the pressure to “have it together,” and what it feels like to navigate addiction in the gray area instead of thr...

This week Stef is talking pent-up vibes, poor communication, and the very real urge to absolutely lose your mind instead of just… sending the text. From a wild dressage documentary that somehow turns into attempted murder (yes, really), to the subtle art of dodging accountability in addiction conversations, to Stef crying on a hike because she had to tell a man she wasn’t into him—this episode is...

Hi! Content warning: this episode includes discussion of teenage drug use, specific substances, and overdose. Take what you need and skip ahead if it’s not for you today. Stef dives in this week talking about what happens when you step outside your comfort zone… and immediately want to go back to your old routine. From switching up yoga classes to having a full-blown circus mindset at 5 a.m., this...

Welcome back to the circus 🎪 This week we’re talking relationships, mental health, and the very real experience of falling in love with a man you met for 7 minutes…twice. Stef gets into how her brain works in dating (hi OCD, hi grief), why she tends to glamorize the unavailable, and what actually sits underneath all of that when you strip the jokes away. We also have a full Kaiser pharmacy moment...

This week, Stef spirals (lovingly) through a few things that aren’t sitting right—starting with turning 34 and realizing people have a lot to say about it. From why being young isn’t something to be sought after, to the very real habit of placing unfair expectations on people (and then wondering why it hurts), this episode is equal parts chaotic, honest, and self-aware. Also: Bubs is acting like h...

A very Friday episode. We’re talking trash TV (including Trust Me on Netflix), cult documentaries, life feeling like it’s either falling apart or falling into place (who knows), and how to remind yourself you’re still doing okay in the middle of it. Also… a childhood story that truly didn’t need to happen to me, but did. New episodes every Wednesday and Friday. Follow along on IG & TikTok: @my...

This week, Stef unpacks the shame and stigma that still surround addiction—and why healing has never been as simple as just “turning it off.” From a yoga class moment that left her feeling unexpectedly seen to the impossible task of explaining pest control to a pit bull determined to sunbathe. This episode is funny, honest, and a little all over the place in the best way. It’s about growth, feelin...

This week, Stef is back in her Friday energy. After coming off a heavier episode, she checks in with herself—and you—before diving into a realization she wasn’t expecting: she might be getting… softer ? From reacting to a brutal true crime show in a completely different way, to spiraling over a lit candle mid-hair appointment (and the absolute MVP friend who saved the day), this episode is equal p...

Stef talks navigating addiction, to behaviors she's not proud of, unpacking what it means to feel loved only when you’re doing things “right”—this is a real-time conversation about being human. Two things can be true; acknowledging behavior you don’t love, while still choosing to love yourself anyway. Follow along on IG & TikTok: ⁠@mytherapistsaidpod⁠ — New episodes every Wednesday and Fri...

Content warning: This episode includes discussions of suicide and addiction. Please listen with care. This week, Stef sits down with comedian Joe Klocek for a conversation about the evolution of comedy—and what it means to be vulnerable on stage. Stef & Joe explore how humor can act as a tool for healing, and how laughter becomes a connector through shared human experiences. Joe shares his per...