My Therapist Said

What happens when the problem child becomes a therapist? This week on My Therapist Said , Stef gets into the lifelong experience of being the family troublemaker, why dark humor has always been her love language, and how grief and laughter can exist in the same breath. From dead-parent jokes and teenage rebellion to career setbacks, comparison, and the uncomfortable feeling that you should be furt...

What happens when you can accept your life, but you're having a really hard time digesting it? This week, Stef shows up exhausted, makeup-free (eyebrows don't count), and a little more honest than she planned. This week included: crying at work, questionable luck, and an inconvenient power outage. Stef is unpacking the difference between accepting your circumstances and actually being okay...

Hey, do you want to sit and talk about horror movies? This week, Stef is revisiting her childhood obsession with The Sixth Sense , explaining why The Ring and The Grudge still haunt her, and making the case for why psychological horror beats unnecessary gore. Not a horror movie girly? Don't worry. There's also dating, starting over, and a little existential crisis sprinkled in. And because...

What if the support you've been looking for has been surrounding you all along? This week on My Therapist Said, Stef shares an unexpectedly emotional milestone: celebrating her 500th yoga class during one of the most overwhelming weeks of her life. What started as a difficult morning became a reminder of just how powerful community can be, how much we impact the people around us, and why celeb...

What does support actually look like when you stop speaking in generalities and get specific about what you need? This week, Stef is officially recording post-work and somehow that leads us from 9:30 PM French toast and learning how to take care of yourself, to the tiny ways people make us feel loved, why mental illness and accountability can exist at the same time, and a very necessary 90 Day Fia...

What happens when you realize you’re allowed to become a different version of yourself? Stef is back with the full wedding recap: narrowly avoiding a conga line, getting pulled over in rhinestones, and realizing just how much can change when you let yourself evolve with your life. But underneath the chaos, this episode is really about friendship, grief, and what it feels like to be deeply seen by...

What happens when you realize the version of you that used to work… doesn’t really fit anymore? This week, Stef is coming off her best friend’s wedding weekend and thinking about addiction, alignment, and the power of finding people who make it easier to become who you’re trying to be. She reflects on what it means to change your relationship with substances without turning it into an all-or-nothi...

Hi! Content note: This episode includes conversations about addiction, substance use, and overdose. What if understanding addiction required the rest of us to do a little more of the work? This week, Stef gets into what it actually means to love someone with addiction—why sobriety has to belong to the person choosing it, how expectations can complicate recovery, and why understanding addiction sho...

Where’s the line between talking honestly about drug use and turning it into a moral issue? This week, Stef gets into the way society talks about addicts, why “just say no” leaves out basically all of the nuance, and what it could look like to de-moralize conversations about addiction altogether. Plus, a chicken breast analogy that somehow explains drug use better than most public health messaging...

What happens when we stop deciding we already know how everything is supposed to work? This week, Stef gets into the snap judgments we make about therapy (with a little Secret Lives of Mormon Wives along the way), why maybe we should let creative people actually… create, and an extremely necessary workshop on the current temperature of potentially problematic words. Plus, the complicated reality o...

What do aliens, cheating, and sending your partner to therapy have in common? Leave it to Stef to connect the dots. This week, Stef recaps surviving a bachelorette party without wearing a wig, talks friendship without all the pressure, gives an unsolicited PSA about trying to send your partner to therapy, and gets into the 90 Day Fiancé tell-all. Somewhere along the way, we arrive at the larger po...

What happens when the people who understand the system best, stop coming for each other and instead focus on greater issues? This week, Stef gets into reality TV nonsense, therapist-on-therapist crime, broken systems, unsolicited solutions, Bubs being deeply annoyed by the sound of her voice, and why sometimes the thing you keep brushing off as “not a big deal” actually deserves a second look. Bec...

What if having absolutely no idea what you’re doing is actually part of figuring it out? This week, Stef is thinking about what happens when the people expected to hold everyone else are struggling themselves, why better mental healthcare has to include better support for providers, and whether any of us actually know what we’re doing as much as we pretend to. Then, naturally, things spiral into d...

What happens when you realize your parents were right and your tone actually is the problem? This week, Stef scraps an entire episode, re-records on a Sunday, and discovers that self-awareness is unfortunately alive and well. Somewhere along the way, an unplanned trip to Chile turns into one of her favorite memories, grief makes the world look a little more beautiful, and crying somehow restores h...

What happens when your life feels like it’s falling apart and coming together at the same time? This week, Stef is in the messy middle—thinking about career changes, grief, identity, and what it means to keep moving when you don’t actually know where you’re going. She’s talking about the strange experience of knowing something had to change while still grieving what you left behind, and learning t...

What happens when the people supporting everyone else need support, too? This week, Stef is joined by Jeanine Russo, founder of Therapist Resource Network, to talk about what’s changed in the mental health field over the last 5–7 years, why therapist burnout can’t be solved by self-care alone, and what happens when the responsibility to fix a broken system keeps falling on clinicians. They’re also...

What happens when everyone talks about mental health, but the people actually working in it still feel overlooked? This week, Stef is wondering where the perks are — from the differences between physical and mental healthcare to who gets the microphone when we talk about therapy. She also shares her intention for My Therapist Said to uplift therapist voices and why she wants to hear from you about...

What happens when you start recognizing your own value? This week, Stef is thinking about how therapists can better advocate for themselves at work, the power of knowing your value, and why using your voice matters—whether you’re asking for more or challenging the way things have always been done. Stef is making room for the gray area. She’s talking about why addiction and recovery are deeply pers...

What if moving forward means letting the past be complicated? This week, Stef is taking chances, revisiting old possibilities, and occasionally making a move just to see what happens. Between a Sunday adventure with Bubs that goes wildly off course, Vanderpump Rules reruns, and a little career chaos, Stef reflects on the strange ways we stay connected to the people and places that shaped us. From...

What if accepting that things may not be “all better” is what finally helps us move forward? This week, Stef attempts to release years of frustration through massage knots, challenging yoga poses, and whatever else the physical body is willing to hold. Some early-morning gossip sparks a deeper look at non-attachment—from surrendering your favorite studio spot to loosening your grip on identities,...

What happens when you’re lacking zest while simuntaneously losing patience with yourself? This week, Stef returns from a much-needed break with limited answers, dwindling willpower, and several mental agonies to report. She gets honest about feeling untethered, becoming the 'sad girl' friend, and wondering how long you’re allowed to be “in transition” before you start demanding progress fr...

Ever overshare so deeply that you’re genuinely shocked everyone comes back? Well... welcome back!! This week, Stef is shook, shocked, and deeply opposed to practical jokes. She catches up on the latest 90 Day Fiancé chaos, admits she does not actually know the cool spots in South Lake Tahoe, and wonders whether therapy speak has become so overused that actual therapists are starting to quiet their...

What happens when your mind and body finally hit a wall? This week, Stef talks about therapist burnout, grief, and what it feels like when everything you've been carrying finally catches up to you. What started as a conversation about therapist advocacy quietly became an episode about grief, emotional release, and realizing what had been weighing on her all along. Follow along on IG & TikT...

Before we get into the stories, opinions, and occasional spirals... I figured I should probably introduce myself. Welcome to My Therapist Said . I'm so happy you're here!

Why are we so quick to label people instead of getting curious about their story? This week, Stef talks about 90 Day Fiancé , childhood trauma, grief, feeling out of place, and why the loudest people in the room are often the ones who spent the longest feeling unheard. Plus, Bubs discovers barking, Stef manifests a very tall garbage man, and everyone is encouraged to ask one more question before d...