My Person Died Too

What are limiting beliefs? Where do they come from? How do they stop me from doing what I'd really love to do? How do they impact my grief? How can I change them? We answer all these questions and more in this insightful episode about how limiting beliefs and old wounds can shape our lives and also our grief. Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers&q...

How would you feel if your loss and grief wasn't openly acknowledged, and you were forced to grieve in private without the support that other grievers receive? In this episode, we introduce you to Ally, who has been living with disenfranchised grief since her boyfriend died in 2020. We felt it was important to shed some light on this type of grief to help others have a better understanding of...

This week we have a very important conversation around returning to work after the loss of someone you love. We discuss the ridiculous amount of bereavement leave that most workplaces offer, how you may feel emotionally, and the expectations you may put on yourself. We share our own personal experiences, as well as those of some of our listeners, and suggest some things that you and your workplace...

In this episode we introduce you to a truly amazing woman. Joan Price calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She is an award-winning writer and internationally popular sex educator specializing in sex and aging. Her books include Sex after Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality after Losing Your Beloved and Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex . Her blog has been offering senior...

When someone we love dies, it can really change the way we view the world. Whereas once we may have been somewhat naive, we now know that bad stuff CAN and DOES happen... and that your entire world can change in the blink of an eye. It's therefore understandable that grief can come with a heightened sense of anxiety, a state of hypervigilance where you are always on red alert waiting for somet...

A lot of people will resist setting boundaries because it's too uncomfortable and they don't want to let others down. But what if you're letting yourself down and are neglecting your own self-care? If you don't set healthy boundaries, you may constantly find yourself doing things others want you to do, rather than what you want to do, or putting up with things that don't sit ri...

It's a question that will sometimes cross your mind when you're widowed and might be starting to consider dating again... "But if I re-partner, who will I be with in heaven?" In this episode, John and Carolyn discuss their own personal thoughts on this topic, and how this question has affected some of their clients' decisions on whether to date after loss. Please note that we...

This week we introduce you to a very special guest, who is also one of our My Person Died Too Facebook Community members. Connor Cogan was happily married to his beautiful wife Kate, with whom he shares three amazing kids. Life was going great, until it wasn't. Connor shares his heartfelt stories of loss, grief, solo parenting, and learning to live again without his beloved Kate by his side. C...

We are back with the first episode of 2024. This week we talk about what it feels like carrying grief into a new year. This can be one of those sneaky times when grief unexpectedly hits hard. We both share some of the ways our grief has changed over the years, with the recent 8 year anniversary of John's wife Michelle's passing, and as Carolyn approaches the 7 year anniversary of her husba...

Post-Traumatic Growth is best described as the positive psychological changes that some individuals experience in the aftermath of a challenging or traumatic event. In this episode we discuss the answers to the following questions and share some our our own personal experiences. What is Post-Traumatic Growth? Does everyone experience Post-Traumatic Growth? What are the personality traits of those...

Grief can cause you to do some really weird shit... things that you probably never imagined yourself doing. But now, as you're doing these things, they don't feel weird at all. In this episode, John and Carolyn share some of their own personal experiences, plus others from some of our grief community. We've come to the conclusion that nothing is weird in grief, because EVERYTHING is we...

This week we have two very special guests, Dani and her son Brandon from Season 2 of the hit tv show, My Mum Your Dad Australia. Dani tells us about the beautiful love story she shared with her late husband, dual Olympian and Ninja Warrior star, Paul Lyons, and what it was like grieving when you're in the public eye. Dani and Brandon share details of their recent experiences in My Mum Your Dad...

In the time that we've both been widowed, we sure have learnt a lot of grief truths! It would take us an entire week to share them all, so we've hand selected a few (or 30) to discuss this week. Don't forget to check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your country below to order: US: ⁠⁠⁠The Stu...

This was one of our most popular earlier episodes, so we thought we would share it with you again. We talk about one of our very favorite topics, signs from our loved ones. We take a look at: The ways we receive signs How to know if it's a sign or a coincidence The best time to receive signs Why you may not be noticing signs If our loved ones can see everything we do We also share examples of...

This week we asked for your questions, rants, observations or anything you wanted to share that you've experienced during your grief. Everything is anonymous, so nothing was out of bounds. And you sure did deliver! We chose a cross selection of your responses so that we could share a few of the topics that come up regularly with our coaching clients, but may not often be spoken about openly. W...

Grieving during the holiday season can be especially hard. At a time when everyone else is having fun and enjoying the festivities with their families, it can really magnify the absence of your person. In this episode, John and Carolyn share how they navigated the first holiday season after their spouses died, and how it has changed for them since then. There's also plenty of tips and strategi...

If you were given the chance to relive one day with your person, which day would it be? This is the question we asked some of our listeners, and we loved sharing their beautiful stories. We also shared details of the day we would relive with our late spouses. Check out our book "The Stupid Shit People Say To Grievers". It's available worldwide via Amazon. Click on the link for your c...

Grief brain... What is it? Why does it happen? How long does it last? Has it damaged my brain? What can help? We answer all of these questions and more in this episode. We also share our own personal experiences, as well as some of our listeners. Don't forget to rate and review our podcast, and spread the word so that more people know it exists. We'd love to help as many grievers as possib...

October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month, and in this episode we have a very special conversation with Brianne Edwards. Bri talks about the unexpected loss of her son and the depths of grief that followed as part of her mission to bring connection, comfort, and hope to other grieving families. Bri is a wife, mother of six, and founder of Lach's Legacy, a nonprofit created in memo...

In the early days of grief, it's normal to want to make big decisions regarding your future, decisions that you feel are permanent. It might be deciding to never sell the home you lived in with your loved one who died, or a widowed person might decide they never want to re-partner. These decisions are real and are how you feel at that time. While it's completely fine to stick with these de...

It's been 7 months since our last episode and we are so excited to be back!!! In this episode we share just what we've both been up to in this past 7 months. Carolyn tells us about the flesh-eating bacteria that took her by surprise back in March and almost killed her; what has kept her going through this latest challenge; how she has dealt with it without her beloved Tony by her side, and...

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An Update on Our Podcast

"When is the right time to go through my person's stuff & what the hell do I do with it?" These are common questions from grievers after their loved one dies. In this episode we share some of our own personal experiences and helpful tips, as well as some of our client's stories to help you find what feels right for you if you find yourself in this situation. Our brand new book, "The Stupid Shi...

Our very special guest this week is Michele Neff-Hernandez. Michele is the founder and Chief Executive Officer of Soaring Spirits International, a non-profit organization providing peer support programming for widowed people worldwide. Michele is the author of Different After You: Rediscovering Yourself and Healing after Grief or Trauma published by New World Library in February of 2022. Her passi...