My Inner Torch

Send us Fan Mail In relationships impacted by cluster B personality disorders like borderline, narcissistic, histrionic, and antisocial personality disorders, manipulative tactics are prevalent. One common strategy discussed in this week's podcast is the “shock and sell” approach, where a shocking statement or action is used to destabilize someone, followed by rationalizing it to manipulate t...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you reach the end of your line, your tolerance, your desire to remain in a relationship with your Cluster B? I explore this idea and feeling as it relates to my 23 year relationship with my Cluster B in this podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail In this week's podcast of My Inner Torch we take a "Look Back Listen" to one of my most downloaded podcasts "Emotional Sandcastles". I hope you enjoy this Look Back Listen if it is your first time hearing this podcast, or a quick re-listen. Emotional Sandcastles still resonates with me and is a chapter in a soon-to-be-finished book I am completing and hope...

Send us Fan Mail What is your coat of many colors? In this podcast I explore the concept of a “coat of many colors” as a symbol for the facade individuals wear in toxic relationships, especially with covert narcissists. It delves into the traits and behaviors of covert narcissists, emphasizing emotional distance, lack of empathy, gaslighting, and conflict-provoking tendencies. I shed light on my p...

Send us Fan Mail Hi All, Due to a massive Nor' Easter where I live this week's podcast is a throwback to October 2020. Unfortunately, this podcast remains relevant in my life today. It is a testament to our interpersonal relations with a Cluster B. At the time I believed my wife to be borderline. Now I have come to know her as a covert narcissist. Either way, the abuse and neglect remain...

Send us Fan Mail Today I explore various forms of narcissism, warning against hasty labeling and emphasizing that abusive behavior remains consistent regardless of the label.  While narcissism can manifest as a personality trait, there is only one diagnosis for it as a mental health condition. This podcast covers overt narcissism, addressing questions about behaviors and differentiating between ad...

Send us Fan Mail What does our relationship with our Cluster B say about us? In a world where love and care are often equated with sacrifice, it’s easy to find oneself entangled in a web of emotional complexities. Join me as I delve into the intricate dance of love, sacrifice, and self-discovery in this podcast where I come to terms with my participation in this relationship and how this reflects...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of My Inner Torch I explore the concept of a “Kangaroo Court of the Cluster B,” in our relationships. This is a court where we are constantly blamed and convicted for any issues or faults in the relationship. I discuss reactive abuse, where the Cluster B manipulates reactions to portray themselves as victims. I also emphasize how individuals with Cluster B personal...

Send us Fan Mail In this Podcast, I discuss the challenging experience of being in a relationship with someone exhibiting traits of Cluster B personality disorders. It warns against believing in the professed love of such individuals, highlighting their manipulation and lack of understanding of mature love. The speaker encourages recognizing the false persona created by these individuals and empha...

Send us Fan Mail Today's podcast delves into the dynamics of relationships with individuals having Cluster B personality disorders, discussing emotional sandcastles, tidal pools, and the concept of “future faking.” I reflect on the cyclical nature of these relationships, where positive moments lead to doubts about improvement, only to be followed by a return to negative behavior. I continue t...

Send us Fan Mail Today's Podcast explores the complex relationship dynamics between empaths and individuals with Cluster B personality disorders, such as narcissists, psychopaths, and borderlines. I explore reasons for the attraction between these two groups, highlighting our inclination to feel responsible for fixing their partners. How many times do we need to be reminded until we take acti...

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast of My Inner Torch I discuss the challenges of dealing with individuals exhibiting Cluster B personality disorders, emphasizing the need to recognize and stand up against abusive behavior. Do we make excuses for our partner’s actions? I highlight red flags such as feeling unreasonable when expressing needs, discomfort or fear, and inconsistency in affection. I stres...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of “My Inner Torch,” I explore the complexities of Cluster B relationships, shedding light on the often overlooked positive traits while exploring the tendency to gravitate towards negative ones. The central theme revolves around the crucial need for self-reflection and change, emphasizing the significance of recognizing and appreciating positive qualities in other...

Send us Fan Mail What part do you play in the theatre of your Cluster B? In this podcast of My Inner Torch I finally have the opportunity to explore the idea of these relationships and our part in them being like a play the "Theatre of the Cluster B". What does this piece of theatre mean in your toxic relationship?  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast of “My Inner Torch” I address five covert put-downs used by Cluster B's. I provide examples of these tactics and discuss the challenge of recognizing neglectful and dysfunctional put-downs by Cluster B's. Do you encounter these and how do you deal with these put-downs.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast of My Inner Torch I recount a personal experience of being in a relationship for 23 years and realizing it lacks fulfillment and intimacy. I delve into the challenges of being with someone who exhibits traits of a covert narcissist, discussing the psychological impact, stress, exhaustion, and disconnection from the world. I share a recent experience of a conversati...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of My Inner Torch, I explore the actor Anthony Hopkins’ recent writing about relationships. Hopkins advises letting go of those who are not ready to love or change, emphasizing the importance of stopping efforts for those who do not reciprocate. He highlights the significance of valuing one’s time and energy, advocating for creating a life with joy and commitment....

Send us Fan Mail In this podcast, I reflect on the challenges of being in a relationship with someone who has a cluster B personality disorder like narcissism or borderline personality disorder.  I draw attention to the grief and loss experienced in such relationships, emphasizing the need to rebuild one’s life and self. I draw on my personal experiences to highlight the difficulty of disentanglin...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to My Inner Torch, where I delve into the intricate dynamics of relationships and the masks that people wear. In this episode, I explore the profound impact of realizing a spouse’s facade, the jarring contrast between their public image and private truth. I share personal encounters and draw parallels from trench warfare, unveiling the distortion of communication and manip...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of “My Inner Torch,” I confront the complex dynamics of being in a relationship with partners who have Cluster B personality disorders. Delving into the intricacies of such relationships, I explore the challenges of maintaining hope for a return to the initial love bombing phase, despite mounting evidence to the contrary. Through my candid personal experience, I sh...

Send us Fan Mail I talk a lot about covert narcissists, as I suspect my wife is one. So how do you spot a covert narc? We take a closer look at some of the red flags in this week's podcast of My Inner Torch.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Can you walk away a winner from your Cluster B? I explore this idea in this week's podcast of My Inner Torch. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail With the holidays approaching, many of us are already in a state of fear as to how everything is going to play out with family and friends. I address these fears and hesitations in this weeks podcast of My Inner Torch.  Support the show

Send us Fan Mail You've heard the saying "There's no such thing as a free lunch"....well, with a Cluster B that is especially so. Everything they give comes with an emotional price tag. Support the show

Send us Fan Mail Are you living in a fog of denial? Can you accept your Cluster B for who they are and what they bring to your relationship? Listen to this week's podcast of My Inner Torch for further insight.  Support the show