Mum As You Are

Between you and me, my brain feels like syrup lately. Emails take longer to answer, writing blogs or sections of texts are taking multiple attempts and I’m finding that I’m walking away from podcast interviews feelings like I didn’t hit my points very well. Sometimes I need reminding of the ‘draw down’ period. As in, post lockdown I need to avoid the temptation to “get back into it” and instead pu...

This week I chat about rethinking how we talk to ourselves and our kids about what “work” is. When I started switching the word “work” for other verbs describing what I’m doing it’s helped with two things: 1. Creating a boundary for myself (do I have to do this right now?) and 2. Teaching my kids that what I do is valuable

One of my favourite forms of finding rest as a mum and a psychologist is permission not to be useful. To not force gratitude or look for silver linings when things get rough (as they are now with lockdown #5). To allow an idea from interpersonal therapy called “the limited sick role”. For me this means giving myself compassion to do what I need to do - binge watching TV, just not all the time. Acc...

Shadow Comforts. What are they?  Where does the term come from?  How do we tell the difference between numbing and relaxation. 

My plan is to create something very unfancy and unpolished here. I will rock up and just talk really – no script, no major editing. You might hear me in my car sometimes the goal is for me to be perfectly imperfect and set the tone for that being ok for you as well. I want to explore ways to work with parental burnout and depletion and isolation and guilt that are really practical, focussed on rad...