Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

Today we're joined by Michael Kaye, head of communications at OKCupid! We're thrilled to have Michael join us to discuss online dating, how it has changed over the years and over the course of the pandemic, give some specific online dating advice and insight about dating trends, and answer some questions from our listeners about non-monogamous dating on OkCupid. Find more of Michael at @MichaelKay...

Part 2 of 50 Way to Handle Jealousy is here! Today's episode covers the final 24 out of the 50 tools we're discussing this series. Last week we discussed tools for your brain and tools for your body, and today the tools we're going over fall into the categories of tools for your relationships, and tools for your heart and soul. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We off...

Everyone in a consensually non-monogamous relationship gets asked the question, "How do you deal with the jealousy?" Even people who have practiced non-monogamy for years or who never expected to experience jealousy do experience it, so it's worth building a toolkit for yourself to break into when you need it. In today's episode we're discussing it by going over 26 different tools that can be used...

It's time for another Q&A style episode! We're discussing some of our Patreon supporters' questions concerning polysaturation, communicating about availability, feeling homesick for an existing partner when on a date with a new one, friends with benefits, and more! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access t...

We have another episode about stress to share with you! Today's episode is a discussion on what stress is and how it can affect your partnerships, particularly if there is a disproportionate amount of it between partners. At the end of the episode, we will go over some ways to alleviate stress and promote healthier partnerships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We of...

Today we're talking about love addiction! Love addiction is a bit of a controversial term to begin with, so today we're going to go over what addiction even is, how addictive behaviors can manifest in relationships, and the differences between healthy polyamory and love addiction. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can a...

Today we're joined by Jessica Levity Daylover, elder millennial, polyamorous parent, entertainer, author, and more. Jessica has a BA in Philosophy and Sociology, and a certificate in LGBT/Gender Studies from the University of Wisconsin–Madison. After moving to Reno in 2008, she launched Homeslice Productions, which is the umbrella production company through which she produces all the pieces of her...

We're back with another Q&A episode, and this time Libby Sinback is joining us to give her perspective as a queer, polyamorous mom. She is also the host of the podcast Making Polyamory Work and a coach for people who want extraordinary relationships while choosing to live and love outside the status quo. She is certified in Relational Life Therapy, and has coached hundreds of people in breaking th...

Today brings us to part 2 in our series on our discussion about self-worth and comparison, with this part focusing more on the comparison aspect. We'll be covering how comparison can affect your relationships with not only significant others and peers, but also with yourself. We'll talk about some research done on comparison, and end things with some ways to stop comparing yourself to others and a...

Today we're kicking off part 1 of 2 in our series on self-worth and comparison and its impact, both positive and negative, on relationships. During this part of the series we're discussing self-worth and its relationship impact, reviewing some studies done about it, and sharing some steps you can take to gain a better sense of positive self-worth! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiam...

Today we're joined by Drs. Marie Thouin and Sharon Flicker to discuss compersion and the research they have conducted about it. Dr. Marie Thouin was last on the podcast on episode 285 to discuss her compersion research that was not fully completed yet, so we are excited to have both her and Dr. Sharon Flicker here to go over their collaborative findings and discuss whether or not compersion is nec...

This week we're looking at conflict in relationships, what you can do to make sure conflict isn't negatively affecting your relationship, some research on it and some ways we can apply these lessons to our everyday lives, whether that's in a romantic relationship or another type of relationship. We'll be looking at some common patterns of unhealthy conflict, some specific research studies on it, a...

Today we're joined by Emma and Fin from the podcast Normalizing Non-Monogamy! We're doing another Q&A style episode where we answer some of our Patreon questions while also hearing perspective from both Emma and Fin. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and...

This week's research roundup is covering recent studies about ethical non-monogamy and mental health, sexual health, and the health of children and adults in non-monogamous families. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Mul...

Welcome to part 1 of our non-monogamy research roundup! Today's episode features some interesting research about non-monogamy: who practices non-monogamy, what studies have found motivates people to pursue it, and how healthy non-monogamous relationships are in general. Stay tuned for part 2 coming next week! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale su...

Today we're interviewing William Winters, who is on the board of directors for OPEN (Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy). William Winters is a seasoned digital campaign strategist for progressive organizations and causes, and a leader in the Bay Area’s polyamorous and sex-positive communities. He is also the founder of Bonobo Network, a sex-positive, consent-focused, power-aware c...

Today we're joined by movie director Sophie Hyde to talk about their new sex-positive and sex-work affirming film, Good Luck, Leo Grande. Sophie Hyde is an award-winning filmmaker of both narrative and documentary films. She is a founding member of film collective Closer Productions. She lives and works on the lands of the Kaurna people in South Australia and makes provocative and intimate films a...

We talk a lot about prioritizing not only romantic and sexual relationships, but also friendships. Today's episode is digging into some of the research and techniques about fostering healthy friendships. In turn, these ideas can help you improve romantic relationships as well by building a better foundation of communication with your partner(s).Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory...

Today, Lola Phoenix rejoins us to discuss their new book, "The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy," which was published June 21st, 2022. Lola Phoenix is an American born writer living in Stockholm, working within digital marketing while trying to find an agent to represent their science fiction work. The last time they were on the show was in 2019 for episode 225.Join our amazing community of...

Today's episode is another Q&A where we answer some more listener questions, including some about beginners in polyamory, setting healthy boundaries, and ethical hierarchy. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory wa...

Sometimes, we carry over trauma from a bad relationship into a good one, and this can make it difficult to have a fulfilling and happy relationship, even if it's with a good person. This episode discusses how PTSD and past baggage can show up in current relationships, how otherwise healthy behavior can be unsettling or confusing if you’re used to a toxic relationship, and as always, some actionabl...

Today is all about building and maintaining trust in relationships. We're discussing what it means to trust your partner, the process of establishing that trust, and if trust is breached, what you can do to make sure it is reestablished, and more on today's episode. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access...

We've done episodes about de-escalating relationships or decoupling them, but this week we're talking about the opposite! We're discussing what it looks like when a relationship becomes more entangled, like going from friends to lovers, from friends with benefits to more romantic partners, etc., as well as the emotional, social, and logistical aspects of increasing our levels of entanglement with...

We're back with another Q&A episode! This week we'll be answering some of our patrons' questions with Kate Loree, one of our friends who co-hosts the sex-positive podcast Open Deeply with Sunny Megatron. Kate Loree is also a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Build...

This week, we're discussing the differences between needs, wants, expectations, boundaries, rules, agreements, and how these terms tend to be often used interchangeably, as well as how these terms affect our communication in relationships. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.com/join. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group...