Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships

As with many other things, approaching domestic violence and intimate partner violence within polyamorous relationships can sometimes require different approaches than is traditional. This week we're joined with Christy Croft, a violence prevention trainer who has over ten years of experience as a crisis hotline advocate, support group leader, and more. They have partnered with us this week to bri...

Relationships such as triads and quads which contain more than two people are largely disputed, discussed, and sometimes practiced in polyamory. Many people have had bad experiences with them while others love them, so this episode is going over some common conflicts people run into with three-person (or more) relationships as well as some challenges that may be a little more prevalent than in two...

Part 2 of our series on going to therapy covers how to choose a therapist, some special considerations to think about when deciding on the type of therapy, and some non-traditional outlets for therapy, such as different apps. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video dis...

If you're asking if you should go to therapy, the answer is probably yes, but in this episode, we're laying out some common questions people might ask regarding therapy, as well as some different types of therapy that professionals offer and what might be best for your particular situation. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so...

We're joined by Jessica Fern, author of the upcoming book Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Non-monogamy. She is also a psychotherapist, public speaker, and relationship and trauma specialist, and this week she's talking with us about trauma and attachment theories, as well as strategies for gaining more secure attachments. Learn more about Jessica and her work at www.jessicafern.com,...

This week's guest is Laurie Penny, an author, journalist, and screenwriter from the UK and has joined us to discuss polyamory and feminism and how they intersect. Laurie is the author of seven books which can be found online. Find them on Twitter at @pennyred and check out their Patreon here: https://www.patreon.com/lauriepenny Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. W...

This episode is all about breakups and de-coupling with intention! We're sharing some important steps to take when transitioning a relationship out of a romantic one and how this transition might affect your other relationships and different aspects of your life. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get acces...

It's time to go back for repairs again for a bit...instead of talking about fallout after a fight, however, this episode covers ways to get your fights with partners back on track. When your fights start to get out of hand, it's important to recognize what's happening and implement ways to de-escalate further issues. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sli...

What does it even mean to "get closure?" It's a phrase used a lot for a lot of different situations, but what does it actually mean? When is it necessary? When is it NOT necessary? Take a dive with us into closure and the psychology around it! Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episode...

Ghosting has become quite a common way to end a relationship or prevent one from starting these days. On this episode, we're exploring why people ghost, the positives and negatives of ghosting, how to react if you've been ghosted, and how to fight the urge to ghost others. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also...

Join us and our guest, Marie Thouin, as she tells us about her qualitative research on compersion, as well as her own opinions and experiences with ethical non-monogamy. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Multiamory...

Part of being a human is learning how to recalibrate your mind when transitioning from one situation to another. This can be especially difficult for polyamorous people changing from one partner to another, so this episode helps outline some ways to make the switch mentally when engaging in different tasks or social situations. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. W...

Language is a highly nuanced tool that we all use, and so today we're examining how it can affect relationships, reclamation of certain words for different communities, and more. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussions, and our amazing Discord community. Mu...

This week is part 2 of our series on shame, which covers shame specifically around nontraditional and polyamorous relationships, healthy vs. unhealthy shame (not to be confused with healthy shaming), and countershaming. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussio...

This week we're kicking off a two-part series on shame in relationships: where it comes from, why we feel it, how it can affect our relationships (especially nontraditional ones), and ways to deal with feeling it to counteract its effects. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, g...

Giving and receiving apologies can be a lot harder than it sounds; there's more nuance than a simple "I'm sorry." This week, we're discussing how to properly receive and offer apologies, as well as briefly covering boundaries, empathy, and unburdening guilt. In addition, we're sharing some advice from Dr. Karina Schumann, a psychology professor at the University of Pittsburgh who studies conflict...

What do you struggle with in your relationships? What is your greatest strength? Inspired by some questions our friend and author Kevin Patterson asked, we're exploring why it's important for us to be familiar with each other's strengths and weaknesses in relationships, and identifying them, both in ourselves and in our partners. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com....

Being criticized is difficult, especially when it's a friend, partner, or family member providing the criticism. Today we're covering how to handle receiving criticism gracefully and learning how to improve yourself, be a better communicator, and bring people together instead of pushing them apart. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscrip...

Gloria Jackson-Nefertiti is a public speaker, poet, panelist, art model, sex-positive, autistic, bisexual, polyamorous cancer survivor. She joined us today to discuss shame, how it relates to identity as well as other emotions, and her well-known workshop Transcending Shame. You can view a flyer of resources and four different ways to transcend shame here. Gloria's website can be found here, and s...

This week, let's examine some of the dynamics that we fall in to when we cohabit with one or more partner(s) wherein sometimes there's an unfair division of household labor. We'll have some tips about how to break out of the patterns that contribute to this unfair labor division and make your relationship more equal. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sli...

This week we're taking a look at EFT creator Sue Johnson's concept of "demon dialogues," or the choreography we tend to fall in to when fighting or arguing with a partner. We'll cover some common dialogues, as well as methods on how to break out of the choreographic cycle and communicate better. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptio...

This episode, we're taking a dive into compassion: what it is, why the world needs it, why it's important to practice both with loved ones and strangers, and how to actually do it so you can give the world more of what it needs. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video...

This week we're joined by Hadassah Damien to talk about money and finances! Hadassah is the founder of Ride Free Fearless Money, a finance consulting firm that helps empower people's relationship to money. During this episode, she gives some valuable insight and tips for non-monogamous people struggling to deal with money, especially when discussing it with partner(s). Visit Hadassah's website, ri...

This week our guest is Mia Schachter, an intimacy coordinator for film and television, as well as an educator, writer, and podcaster. Mia has graciously joined us today to talk about consent, both in sexual and non-sexual situations, the importance of having people in her line of work, and how consent and power dynamics relate. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. W...

Why is it so hard to say no sometimes? During this episode we'll explore why some of us have such trouble saying no, why the word "no" is so powerful, and some ways to help you get better at both giving and receiving it. Join our amazing community of listeners at multiamory.supercast.com. We offer sliding scale subscriptions so everyone can also get access to ad-free episodes, group video discussi...