Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD

Consistency is not a requirement for success, even though a lot of people will tell you otherwise.  You are not them. You're a mom with ADHD.   You have tiny humans that are not predictable. You have hormones and a cyclical nature.  Perhaps your gift is persistence. What can you do with that? A whole lot. Let's talk about being successful with ADHD in ways that do NOT require consistency.  Discove...

Ever follow a friend's advice only to realize that it was never gonna work for you? They meant well, but all you got was frustration and heartache. Who do you look to for guidance on your ADHD? When you want to learn how to swim, you choose a swim instructor who knows what it's like to be in the water.   Are you looking for someone on dry land to give you swim instructions? When you have ADHD, com...

It only took me 41 years, but I finally found a type of time that ADHD is not only compatible with, but excels at. What else are we great at?  What are the strengths of ADHD? There's a long list.  AND you can feel like having ADHD makes your life really difficult at the same time.  Both can be true.  But is ADHD a superpower? Is it the thing that makes you amazing, superhuman, and destined for gre...

When you don't realize that you're frustrated until after you're yelling at your entire family… When you don't notice you have to pee until it's an emergency… When you don't catch that you've been thirsty for hours… It's embarrassing, frustrating, or both when you don't feel like you're in control of your own body. Struggling with your interoception is an everyday occurrence for people with ADHD....

When you live on the water, you need different things: Sturdier, waterproof supplies. Hurricane-proof windows. Lots of rope to tie down your things. Life at sea is rough on the merchandise. Are you prepared for the storms? Are you ready for the incoming tide? Or are you drowning while everyone around you asks why don't you just write yourself a to-do list? It's time to take lessons from a sea-worn...

For a long time, body doubling made me want to cringe. I prided myself on being a self-starter. I didn't need help. And I certainly didn't want anyone watching me do stuff.  Eep! Perfectionist alert! Was I totally wrong about body doubling? Could it be a way for ADHD brains to get more done? To feel accomplished?  To stay motivated and finish tasks? Have I found a way to make this work for me or d...

Having someone on your side who understands makes everything easier. Especially when you're learning how to navigate parenting your neurodivergent child.  As a child psychologist, Dr. Carrie Jackson coaches parents on how to work in harmony with their ADHD child. As someone who also has ADHD herself, she helps parents with novel strategies that fit with their own, as well as their child's neurodiv...

I hate goal trackers. They are sticker charts for grownups. (I also despise sticker charts.) I'm not a New Year's resolution person. I never stick with them.  I'm annoyed by the New Year, New You messaging in January. Barf. I am, however, big into Growth. Goals. Being the best version of you.  Goal setting is difficult for ADHD so I'm offering 3 questions to ask yourself as you wrap up the year an...

We're in the thick of the holidays and perhaps your sanity is already wavering.  School performances, shopping, baking, less sleep, unusual schedules, no routines, more asks… yikes! We still have 2 more weeks to go! In today's episode, I'm sharing 4 ways to lower your stress and make the holidays enjoyable for both you and your family. Free resources mentioned in today's episode: 3 Steps for Prepa...

What's the difference between an IEP and a 504 plan? While many kids with ADHD do well in school, a much greater percentage struggle to excel.  The system is complicated and confusing. The first step is understanding what your options are. In public schools in the US, there are both 504 plans and IEPs (Individualized Education Programs) to help students with disabilities struggle less. Today I'm i...

Thank you, sweet mama! In the US, it's Thanksgiving today and I'm so thankful for you and this community. And to say thank you, I'm sharing my Black Friday specials today. You can grab them through Cyber Monday with the coupon codes on my website . If you've been thinking of joining me for a course, community, or coaching in 2023, this weekend is the best time to do it! You can join Successful Mam...

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don't do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I'm sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I'm not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You've heard all that before. We're talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Episodes...

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don't do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I'm sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I'm not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You've heard all that before. We're talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Today is...

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don't do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I'm sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I'm not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You've heard all that before. We're talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Today is...

When you have ADHD, you often know what you should do and why you should do it. And yet, you still don't do it. Ugh. This week on the podcast, I'm sharing a mini-series on Goal Setting with ADHD. But I'm not talking about the usual advice about consistency and breaking it down into steps. You've heard all that before. We're talking about how to make Goal Setting an ADHD-friendly process. Today is...

We've officially entered the marathon of the holiday season!  How can we prepare for the holidays so that our sanity is still intact come January?   Maybe you want to start some holiday traditions instead of zipping through in a blur by the skin of your teeth? Maybe you want to enjoy the season instead of drowning in overwhelm after 17 special events, 16 extra desserts, 15 late bedtimes and a neur...

When a thought pops in your head, do you feel like you need to do something with it right away or else you'll forget? That whack-a-mole thinking is a stressful way to live. Not everything we think of is both urgent and important. Actually, most things are not important and very few are urgent. But how do we determine what really matters? Prioritizing is really difficult when you have ADHD! Meet Tr...

Maybe you're not as terrible as you think. Do you often explain away your achievements? You got that new job by sheer luck… Not sure how you won that award…Must have been a fluke! See how everyone else is brilliant and accomplishes their dreams… and you're just sucking at regular life? STOP. Give yourself some credit, mama! What if Imposter Syndrome is the thing that steals your joy over and over...

How many times a day do you get stuck spinning in circles because you have no idea what to do next? You know you have a lot to do, but you're not sure what to do next. So your anxiety goes up, making it harder to figure out. Maybe you panic about how much you need to do (and nothing gets done during a panic attack.) Maybe you disassociate to escape the overwhelm (and nothing gets done when you fre...

You wake up in the morning and think, "Dang it! I wasn't gonna drink last night." Now you feel like crap and don't want to get out of bed. A lot of us live in the middle ground: you wouldn't consider yourself an alcoholic, but you also aren't exactly happy with your relationship with alcohol. It's an awkward place to be. …Maybe you're making up rules for yourself like you'll only drink on weekends...

As we enter ADHD Awareness Month, our theme is "Do Less to Lower Your Stress."  You have an overflowing plate as a mom with ADHD. How do you take things off your plate? *panic ensues* Good question! I'm giving you permission to scrap some stuff and make your life easier today.  Tell me what you did to lighten your load, Successful Mama! Free resources & sign up for courses: motherhoodinadhd.com

What do you do when your ADHD child is always making you late? How do you deal with an ADHD kid who takes a hundred years to get ready in the morning or at bedtime (or all the time!)?  Jaymi asks this question about what to do when her ADHD daughter is not moving in our free Facebook community .  Not only is it stressful and frustrating, it creates a domino effect of problems for the rest of the f...

I recently got rejected from something that mattered to me. And it stunk. RSD (rejection sensitivity dysphoria) and trauma response all rolled into one giant ball of suck. One of the hardest parts of parenting is talking to our kids about hard things, like rejection, sadness, and disappointment especially when we don't feel like we are good at those skills ourselves. When disappointment strikes, h...

We went to the Johnson Space Center during the last week of summer and got to sit in Mission Control for the Apollo 13 mission. At Mission Control, they monitor everything from the fuel level, oxygen level, the trajectory, and even the poo.  Guess who is Mission Control for your entire family? Yup, you. No wonder you're exhausted before you even get out of bed! Two things that exhaust me a lot are...

"Is this an ADHD thing?" This question comes up a lot! It's hard to say because there is a wide spectrum on how ADHD symptoms present in your day to day activities. At the same time, there is so much value in knowing you aren't the only one struggling with something.  In today's episode, I'm sharing the themes that I see in the symptoms of ADHD in women that I work with so that you can feel comfor...