Motherhood in ADHD – Parenting with ADHD, Productivity Tips, Brain based Science, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Education to Help Moms with Adult ADHD

"How do I reduce the number of doom boxes, doom drawers, and doom cupboards in my life?" –Mama T asks. Doom piles are the junk spots for things you don't know how to categorize or put away, so the junk just lives in the pile for months or years, as you shuffle it from one area to another until you get fed up! If your doom drawers, doom boxes, and mystery piles are quietly multiplying around the ho...

Have you ever made a mistake and immediately spiraled into shame? Like, "What is wrong with me!?!" Because, same. Except… this time was different. In this episode, I'm sharing a very real (and slightly painful) story about accidentally taking my stimulant medication before bed. Yup, that was rough. But instead of going down the usual shame and guilt spiral, something surprising happened – I gave m...

Have you ever pushed so hard to finish something… only to realize you're not actually at the finish line? In this episode, I'm catching you up on life lately, from wrapping up my book to what the last several months have really looked like behind the scenes. Writing over 100,000 words, navigating intense editing, and learning how my brain works best stretched me in ways I didn't expect. And honest...

Ever wonder why so many women with ADHD end up in relationships that drain them? You're not alone -- and it's not a coincidence. After hosting another magical ADHD moms' retreat, I couldn't shake the conversations we had around partners -- some amazing, others... deeply painful. In this episode, I'm sharing the patterns I've seen over and over: women with ADHD stuck in emotionally abusive relation...

Do you ever second guess every decision until you freeze? Same here for the first few years I ran my business. In this episode, I answer Jacki Hayes' question from her podcast, Here's What I've Learned: How have you evolved as a business owner over the years? The funny thing is, my response wasn't really a "business" answer. My hard won wisdom fits most situations when ADHD folks are trying someth...

Are you running late before you even start getting ready? That's time blindness at work, mama. And wow, does it make everyday life harder! In this episode, I'm sharing the real talk from conversations with two different coaching clients this week about how ADHD brains process time—and why "it's time to go" means something totally different for us than it does for people who are naturally on time....

Meet my friend Crystal Haitsma, host of the Parenting Coach Podcast. In this episode, Crystal and I dive into an honest conversation about balancing motherhood, parenting, and constant to-do lists with a neurodiverse brain. Crystal, The Parenting Coach, is a Certified Life Coach and Canadian homeschooling mama who just got back from travelling the world with her family of 6. She combines her backg...

Have you ever wondered if you're doing enough to support your ADHD child? Or maybe you've questioned if what you're trying is even working. You're not the only one. When I saw that last year's most downloaded episode was about supporting your ADHD child, I knew I wanted to share this conversation from 2022 with you! In this episode, I'm sharing a Q&A session from when I was a guest expert in the M...

Do you feel like you're already running on fumes – and it's barely breakfast time? You're not alone. In this conversation from the Happy Mom Summit, I talk with JoAnn Crohn of the No Guilt Mom Podcast about what really drains our energy as ADHD moms – and how to recharge in realistic, doable ways. Spoiler alert: it's not about naps and bubble baths (unless you love those). It's about understanding...

You start the day with good intentions. "This afternoon, I'm going to drop off this return real quick." But then you can't find the box. Or the tape. And now your printer is out of ink. Suddenly, the whole day's gone, and the box is still sitting by the door. Sound familiar? In this episode—recorded from my car in full chauffeur-mom mode—I'm breaking down why your ADHD brain struggles to finish si...

Watching your child struggle is pretty much the worst. Not knowing what to do about it is more than icing on the doo-doo cake. I've got your back, mama! In this episode of Motherhood in ADHD, I dive into the rollercoaster of emotions and challenges of parenting a struggling child. When your child needs help, but you don't know where to begin, this episode is for you. From dealing with overwhelming...

Ever feel like if you say no to a good opportunity, you'll regret it forever? Like the next big thing is right around the corner... and you'll miss it if you stop moving? I've been there. Saying no is hard, especially when your ADHD brain loves chasing shiny new ideas. In this episode, I'm sharing a clip from my friend Jacki Hayes' podcast where I answered, "What's the biggest business lesson you'...

Do you ever feel like an emotional sponge, absorbing the feelings of others around you? Especially when you're with someone you care about? Especially when you're in certain parts of your cycle? Extra especially when they are agitated, frustrated, angry, or anxious?   In this episode, we dive deep into understanding emotional regulation, stress management, and the unique challenges faced by moms w...

Ten weeks. Fifty-five thousand words to go. One big, messy dream.  I'm officially writing a book, and I'm on a serious countdown. But let's be real, life isn't made up of word counts and deadlines. This season is stretching me in ways I didn't expect, and I'm reminded (again) how hard it is for me to ask for help. So I'm uncomfortably practicing that skill. In this episode, I'm sharing the behind-...

What "should" you have done already?   Finish your degree?  Pass your driver's license test?  Make that doctor's appt?  Left the house for school pickup? If you're constantly thinking "I'm behind!", this episode is for you. Often it's literal, as in, "I'm 20 minutes late to my appointment!" But it's also in the big things, like you "should" have more kids by now or gotten that promotion.  You're n...

But I want to do everything ... well. Ever find yourself trying so hard to get it just right …  only to realize that you're missing the whole point?!? This week, I'm sharing some very real behind-the-scenes of my life right now: juggling the end-of-school chaos, trying to write a book I've dreamed about for years, and realizing (once again) that perfectionism is still sneaking into the driver's se...

How do moms do ALL.THE.THINGS in a methodical, consistent manner?  My client asked me this earlier this month. She wanted to see how someone else "does it all" in order to get a better grasp on what it looks like. Plus she asked for an example of a weekly schedule where somebody meal plans, cooks, takes care of their kids, and works part time. "Doing it all" is an overwhelming challenge that so ma...

Today's episode is inspired by a friend's surprise at how many ADHD-friendly hacks I use on a daily basis throughout my home.   You have enough to do as a mom. You don't need to reinvent the wheel on problems you've already solved in the past. Let's reuse what you've already done! Here are some of my favorite lather, rinse, repeat systems that make life as an ADHD mom a little bit easier.  Whether...

Ever feel like you're "just too much"—too scattered, too loud, too mistake-prone, too ditzy, just…too all over the place? Maybe you dropped your phone in the ocean and screamed "noooo" until you cried? (Raising my hand slowly…) If so, you're in the right place. This last couple of weeks has been tough – a sinus infection, perimenopause brain fog, sunburned kids, lost phones, scraped bumpers, too-m...

How can you ask for help?   When you have ADHD, you may not ask for help. Maybe you feel like you have to figure it out on your own. You may not want others to know you're struggling or working this hard to keep up. Or maybe you don't want to look weak or incompetent.   But humans aren't meant to function entirely solo.   Mamas Nicole & Rebecca both submitted the question of how to ask for help. H...

What if everyone hates me? What if no one reads my book? No one told me that writing a book came with an existential crisis. Wrestling with how to write the book that moms need, while also showing up fully as myself, and writing words I can stand by for decades to come… this has been a lot more weighty than I expected. I thought I was going to be updating you on logistics, timelines, and contracts...

HOT TAKE: I don't believe people with ADHD are lazy. There is a reason that they don't want to or can't do the thing, and when you untangle that obstacle, voila! It's easier to get things done. How do you know the difference between procrastinating and prioritizing for later? There are some things in life we can't avoid, so how do you deal with them? How do you know when it truly is not the time f...

Ditch the quest for Pinterest perfection and actually get stuff done. In this episode, I'm getting real about how my book proposal is going amidst juggling the whirlwind of parenting and work projects. The highs and lows of writing are kicking in already. Do I need to write multiple books because there's just too much to say? Slow your roll, Patricia! One step at a time! I still have to balance wo...

When you're hiding in the bathroom in a puddle of tears on the floor, what do you do next?   When you've yelled at your family and said things you regret during a grownup temper tantrum and wish you could hide under a rock forever, what do you do next?   When the shame and guilt and overwhelm feel like too much to bear, what do you do now? It's so common for those of us with ADHD to get overwhelme...

You chose this person for a reason. You love them. Aaaaand relationships are complicated. Sometimes you may not LIKE your partner as much as you love them. Adding ADHD in the mix is more than another layer of complexity to your relationship, whether it affects you, your partner, or both. As Valentine's Day approaches, here's a clip from Successful Mama Meetups during our month theme "I love you, b...