Mostly Dating

Welcome back! Today we're opening with a brief catch-up and update on my New Year's resolutions. Next, we dive into 5 listener questions: A divorced listener who is new to dating and doesn't know how to define the relationship A 29-year-old male listener whose girlfriend takes +24 hours to respond to texts A single woman in her late 30s who is dating someone new and doesn't know if...

Welcome back! Today's episode is twofold. First we're diving into tangible tips for how to get more of the things you want in 2026, with some blunt advice about what might be holding you back. Next, we talk about dating trends in 2025 and what I expect to see more of in 2026. Read the Substack post I mentioned here . As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome back! Today we’re going deep into the results of my recent poll about the most important qualities to look for in a partner/relationship.  I dive into some of the most common themes and then unpack one that came up a lot: emotional availability. We go into how to spot whether someone is emotionally available, questions to ask, and conversations to have. Here's my post on questions to a...

Welcome back! Today we're talking all about moving in with your partner: things you should know, conversations to have, and tips to make the experience as smooth as possible. We wrap things up with a few rapid fire listener questions about how to ask for someone's last name on a dating app, what to know before defining the relationship, and how to be ok with the person you're dating se...

Welcome back! Today we're opening by chatting about Thanksgiving and the holidays, and then getting into conversations every couple should have in the first year of dating. The second half of the episode is all listener questions: what to do when you're dating someone new and they're not introducing you to any of their friends, what to do when you have a weird feeling about your friend...

Welcome back! Today's episode is a bit of a different format than our typical listener write-ins. Instead, I'm taking you through an "about me" with a brief background on how/why I started this podcast, my career path, and my dating history. I'll walk you through the lessons I learned from my past relationships and the actual changes I made to improve my dating life and meet...

Welcome back! Today's listener questions cover a wide range: a friend going out on a date with someone you have a crush on, a guy whose apartment is way too messy, a guy who is being very secretive about his phone, a groundhog's day dating experience, and how to get to know someone better without just asking questions. We wrap up with a question from a male listener whose girlfriend won&#3...

Welcome back! Today we're answering questions from listeners about moving to a city and trying to find your groove, cutting off a relationship with your ex's mom, sharing Spotify playlists with your ex, and how to handle it when your boyfriend is obsessed with his job. As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome back! Today we kick it off with a story about the "bird test" in my relationship. Next we dive into listener questions about how to cut off communication with an ex, overcoming dating app burnout, feeling stagnant in a long term relationship, and whether or not you should accept a setup from a family member. As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

Welcome back! Today we're kicking off with a question from a woman who went on a great date with a guy who then said he needs to wait three months until they go out again because he's taking a break from dating. Next, we chat about keeping photos of your ex framed in your apartment, addressing the future with a new partner, and whether you should be annoyed that your partner is still talki...

Welcome back! Today we're kicking off with my weekly "what I'm loving" rundown, which this week is the Evvy at-home Vaginal Microbiome test. Next, I share my list of subtle signs they see a future with you (both for early dating and for people in a relationship thinking about the long term future). Our listener questions are from a woman who is frustrated that the guy she is dati...

Welcome back! Today we're kicking off talking about my thoughts on The Life Of A Showgirl (obviously) and a new product launch I'm super excited about. Our listener questions are from a man who isn't sure about whether he wants to propose to his girlfriend, another listener who isn't sure if she's in a rebound relationship, and a woman who is sick of being the planner in her re...

Welcome back! Today’s episode starts with a rundown on signs a relationship isn’t right even if nothing is “wrong.” Next, I share my tips on how to flirt and build chemistry on early dates. Our listener questions are from a woman who feels like her boyfriend isn’t fully letting her into his world (or posting her on social media). We also discuss staying independent while in a relationship, navigat...

Welcome back! Today's solo dives into situationships, being single and feeling like you're no one's top priority, what to do about your partner's financial debt, and more. As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ . And if you're enjoying the pod, please leave a rating & rev...

Welcome back! Today's episode starts with a rundown of what's been new with me, plus what I'm loving right now (these Shokz headphones for running). Listener questions start at 25:25. The first question is from a woman who isn't sure if she should have the DTR talk or wait things out. Next, we hear from a woman whose boyfriend keeps getting texts from his ex. We wrap things up with...

Welcome back!! After a brief and unexpected break, we're back with a solo episode. Today we're chatting about how to stop overthinking things in the early stages of dating someone new (+ how to keep the momentum going when you can't be together), key conversations for long distance relationships, hot and cold behavior in dating, and balancing different levels of ambition in a relations...

Welcome back! Today we’re talking about timelines for saying “I love you” and signs they're falling in love with you . Next, we dissect a longer question from a 31-year-old male who found out his girlfriend of two months hadn’t deleted her dating apps.  We wrap up with rapid fire questions about the guidelines for asking “permission” to propose and how to decide if you should keep going on dates w...

Welcome back! Today we’re diving into listener questions about what to do when you’re losing hope in your dating life, how to stay independent and get alone time when in a relationship , relocating for a boyfriend two years into a relationship, conversations couples should have two years into dating , and how to know if you’re spotting red flags or if you’re just holding onto trauma from past rela...

Welcome back! Today we're starting off by chatting about how to meet people IRL and how to be more approachable. Next, we discuss a listener question about what to do when you feel like you're growing a lot in your relationship and your partner isn't Our next listener question is from a woman who works from home from the same apartment as her boyfriend and is feeling overstimulated. La...

Welcome back! Today we're starting off by chatting about signs your relationship needs better communication and how to have better communication early on in a relationship . Next, we discuss a listener question about how to handle different communication styles in a relationship, specifically in arguments. Our next listener question is from a woman who has been dating a guy for three months and re...

Welcome back! Today we're joined by Lara Mahler, NYC-based wedding planner and founder of The Privilege Is Mine. Lara shares her journey from dance teacher to wedding planner and then we dive into common wedding planning stressors and how to stay calm during the process. Laura offers tips on setting boundaries with family, deciding on wedding priorities, and incorporating personal touches. We...

Welcome back! In today’s solo episode, Carleigh vents about her recent eyebrow disaster, shares about one of the best instant-results facials she recently had in NYC, and a first date suggestion she’s rethinking.  We then dive into listener questions about: How to tell if someone is genuine on early dates What to do when you’re constantly messaging but there’s no date planned How should you feel 1...

Welcome back! In today's solo episode, we're chatting about what to do when someone who ghosted you comes back, how to end a situationship once and for all, feeling like "too much," navigating wedding party invitations from distant friends, and more.  As always, find me on Instagram ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@mostlydating⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and @mostlyda...

Welcome back! Today we're joined by returning guest, Amy Nobile Messing, a holistic dating coach with a shocking success rate. Amy shares her journey from a successful career in PR and writing to becoming a holistic dating coach after her own life-changing experiences with divorce and dating in New York City. We delve into Amy's unique approach that combines practical dating advice with intuitive...

Welcome back! Today we're joined by sexologist, relationship scientist, and head of relationship research at Arya , Nicholas Velotta . what we talk about: why (and how) every couple should use Arya⁠ the 4 sexual personas and how to learn which one you are misaligned sex drives in relationships the problem with the 5 love languages the orgasm gap how to feel more sexy and confident why we crave...