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We all know we are supposed to give, but sometimes it seems like forgiving someone is letting them get away with what they did. Michelle discusses what forgiveness really is and discusses how forgiving someone doesn't require forgetting the truth about what they've done to you. She also gives insight into how forgiveness can help you transcend endless conflicts and power struggles, so you can live...

While on a healing journey, it's normal to wrestle with doubt. But did you know that doubt is NOT the opposite of faith? That you can doubt well? Alisa Childers gives a deeper understanding of how doubt factors into the growth of faith and explains the differences between doubt vs. deconstruction. She also explains spiritual warfare as a battle of ideas, and shares how honest questioning leads to...

The word co-dependency is often used in ways that suggest a person is to blame for being mistreated and abused (which is NOT the case). Michelle discusses what co-dependency really is, and discusses why patterns of people-pleasing often result in relationships that are one-sided and unsafe. She shares what the Bible says about mutuality in our relationships, and how to learn to say no to situation...

You've done all you know to do to heal mentally and emotionally from trauma. Maybe you've been in therapy, you use deep-breathing techniques, or you try to be mindful of your thoughts. But when you hit a wall in your healing, you may wonder- "Is this as good as it's going to get?" While all of these approaches are beneficial to understanding and treating suffering, Michelle shares the reason why t...

Shame is that nagging little voice that continually tells you that you're not good enough, that you need to try harder to be loved. So how do we tell it to shut up? Michelle shares her journey of discovering hidden shame through the impact it was having on her relationships. She discusses how Jesus' example of facing down shame can help us live above the lies and find freedom from shame in our own...

It seems there's always something that will try to steal your hope, to get you to give up on the idea that things can ever be better. But does it have to be this way? Is there a way to take our hope back? It all starts with realizing hope is not a feeling but rather a perspective – a viewpoint that can help us set our sights above what our thoughts, feelings, and circumstances are telling us. Mich...

In dry times, the Bible has much encouragement for us- but we often miss much of it when we don't understand the Bible's Middle Eastern context. Ashley Wilkerson offers new insight into Psalm 23 and discusses how an awareness of Middle Eastern shepherding culture gives us a clearer view of God's heart for us in our personal wilderness seasons. She also exposes misunderstandings of several of the t...

For some of us, year-after-year-after-year the Christmas season has been such a let down. It can be so annoying/depressing/frustrating when everyone else is celebrating and you're feeling anything but joyful.  Michelle shares her "worst Christmas ever" story and reveals what it taught her about manufactured joy, disappointment, and experiencing true goodness at the holidays. Purchase the NEW  Igni...

It's human nature to want control. But when we face circumstances beyond our influence, we have to deal with the fact that it's not all up to us. When things seem out of control, we have to answer the question- "Can I trust God to be in control?" Lauren & Michael McAfee share their journey through infertility, adoption, cancer, and loss, and how they've had to come to terms with believing in the g...

Mentorship is a HUGE component of a healing process, but finding one can be awkward and uncomfortable. Michelle and her mentee, Nina, share how God brought them together to begin a mentorship relationship and they discuss how to deal with the discomfort of seeking out a mentor. They also share the benefits of mentorship that therapy doesn't always offer, and provide practical steps for discerning...

Ugh, anxiety – the feeling like the other shoe is always about to drop. Anxiety can be debilitating because it feels endless, like something you'll never beat. However, it is possible to turn the tide and find yourself on the winning side. Michelle shares her lifelong struggles with anxiety (unhealthy coping, medications, and all) and discusses one small change that can make a huge difference in y...

If you've experienced church hurt or spiritual abuse, it has probably caused you to question what you've believed about God and your relationship to Him. Natalie Runion speaks on the necessity of wandering after experiencing harm, and how disentangling our faith from human rules & constructs helps us discover who Jesus really is. Michelle and Natalie also discuss the damage done to survivors when...

Do you resent having to be "The Strong One?" You may love the fact that people can count on you, while secretly loathing it at the same time. Michelle shares how "being strong" backfires on us, resulting in anxiety, joylessness, and the sinking sense that you've lost yourself. She discusses how to see strength differently, and shares how one shift can get you on a new path, thriving as God intends...

Many Christians find the Bible hard to read, and even harder to understand. Alex Goodwin shares how the typical, academic approach to Scripture gives us an incomplete experience with the Bible (and prevents us from receiving the comfort and hope it is meant to provide). He discusses how adjusting the way that we intake Scripture can open us up to a world of wonder as begin to see the Kingdom of Go...

"God is mad at me. He's trying to teach me a lesson." Ever had these thoughts before? In this episode, Michelle talks about the reasons why you may think of God as demanding, distant, or disinterested. She shares how these thoughts are connected to the adults who raised us, and reveals how you can begin to rediscover God as He truly is. Christian Counseling on the go? Click here for 10% off your f...

Do you feel taken advantage of or overlooked in your relationships? When you don't get back what you pour in, you're likely to feel confused, angry, or rejected. Dr. Morgan Cutlip shares why you may have the tendency to put your needs in the back seat when it comes to relationships, and what you can do to experience more satisfaction in your connections with yourself and others. Get copy of Dr. Mo...

Do you ever feel like you know too much? When you can't unsee the truth, it can be frightening when you hold all the pieces of your past but don't know what to do with them. In this episode, Michelle shares why knowing too much at once can stall your healing, and discusses how one simple practice can lead to the breakthrough you're looking for. Christian Counseling on the go? Click here for 10% of...

Some of us have experienced trauma and don't even know it, while for others of us the word trauma is all too familiar. In this first episode of The Truth & Our Trauma, Michelle explains how a car accident led to an awareness of the spiritual aspects of recovering from trauma and why it matters for all of us, whether we think we've experienced trauma or not. Christian Counseling on the go? Click he...

Does your ex keep putting your kids in the middle? As if co-parenting wasn't hard enough, it's even worse when the other parent is badmouthing you or providing your kids with information they shouldn't have. You may want to defend yourself or tell your kids your side of the story, but Michelle discusses why that often is not the best move. Michelle shares what you can do to take your kids out of t...

Is someone in your life spreading lies about you? Whether it's an ex or others around you spreading false information and gossip, it's natural that you'd want to share your side and set the record straight. But what do you do when everything you attempt seems to make the situation worse? What  if they're getting away with saying things that are not true - how can you defend yourself? Michelle shar...

What are you waiting for? Maybe it's a new home, a godly husband, or healing in a relationship with your child. As single moms we rely on God for a lot, and waiting for Him to move can cause us to wonder if He's doing anything at all. Michelle discusses where God is in seasons of waiting and how you can actually begin see what He still may be up to. She also shares what to do (and not do) when it...

When your ex gets a new girlfriend, a new house, or a new life, you may be left feeling rejected, jealous, and frustrated- especially if you're the one left picking up all the pieces. He may be presenting a picture that looks like his life is bigger and better without you in it, and he may even be doing this with your kids. But when you know you can't compete (or don't want to) how do you deal wit...

Situationships, ghosting, & catfishing- oh my. If you've had these disappointing dating experiences, you know that sometimes it can feel like there are just no good guys to date out there. Michelle discusses why what you're doing might not be working for you when it comes to dating, and how to align yourself to meet a great, godly match.  What's Your Loneliness Type?  Take the Quiz Sign up for our...

Christian women who are being abused stay with their abusers 2.5 years longer than non-Christian women, and one major reason is the distortion of Scripture. Turn the other cheek? Love is patient, love is kind? Michelle talks about commonly misquoted Scriptures that are used to compel abuse victims to stay in abusive relationships and submit to abusive husbands. She discusses why these Scriptures d...

Becoming a single mom can cause us to question everything we think we know about God. And when other people don't seem to be okay with us, it can be hard to know if God is. We may feel forgotten about and rejected, and feel like there's nothing more that God can do with our lives. Michelle discusses where God is in the midst of a life story that didn't go as planned, and what He desires us to know...