Modern Gays

In this Halloween-themed episode, Daniel and Garet dive into the season of spookiness and villains, exploring the idea of embracing your inner “villain” as a way of living authentically. With the season of costumes and haunted houses setting the tone, they ask: Why do we sometimes feel like villains for simply being ourselves? As they discuss everything from favorite Halloween characters to how vi...

In this episode of Modern Gays , Daniel and Garet open up about insecurities, plastic surgery, and how unsolicited advice can derail our self-confidence. From Garet’s experience with a recent surgical procedure to Daniel’s vulnerability about thinning hair, they explore the weight of personal insecurities and the judgment we often feel from others. Why do we care so much about what people think? T...

In this heartfelt episode of Modern Gays, hosts Daniel and Garet chat with Joey Guzman Kuffel, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in LGBTQ+ fertility and mental health. Joey dives into his personal and professional journey, exploring the unique challenges and emotions queer people face when building families, particularly through surrogacy and IVF. The conversation covers vital...

Dive into the curious world of “gooning,” a term that’s swept both the queer subculture and mainstream conversations. Daniel and Garet break down its roots as a kink-focused term used to describe a trance-like euphoric state, and discuss how it’s now become a playful way to express intense excitement. From pop icon obsession to reality TV indulgence, the hosts unpack why gooning isn’t just for sex...

In this insightful episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Dan Harry, star of I Kissed a Boy and a powerful voice in HIV and sexual health advocacy. Dan opens up about his experience on the UK’s first gay dating show, shedding light on the pressures of on-screen dating and the vulnerability that comes with reality TV. Beyond the entertainment world, Dan is making a significant impact in the LGBTQ+...

In this episode, Daniel and Garet unpack the complex role of the messenger, using Selling Sunset’s latest drama as a case study. From holding onto secrets to dealing with backlash, the hosts explore the fine line between being helpful and being perceived as stirring the pot. Is it ever okay to share private information if you think you’re protecting a friend? Or does the blame always fall on the o...

In this heartfelt episode, Daniel and Garet sit down with Jake and Sean from DaddiestoThree to explore the dynamic and sometimes unpredictable world of gay parenthood. From their initial desire to start a family to the unexpected news of triplets, Jake and Sean share the intimate details of their surrogacy journey, including the emotional impact of miscarriage and the joy of finally welcoming thre...

Daniel and Garet dive into the concept of “short and sweet,” discussing how brevity can enhance various aspects of life, from storytelling to relationships. They explore the balance between keeping things concise while still conveying depth and meaning, touching on personal anecdotes and larger cultural phenomena like the upcoming Gay Games in Melbourne. The hosts challenge the notion that longer...

Daniel and Garet are joined by the legendary acting coach Margie Haber , who has helped shaped the careers of Hollywood stars like Halle Berry and Brad Pitt. Inspired by Margie’s book F*ck Your Comfort Zone , the trio dives deep into the paralyzing grip of fear and how to break free from it. Margie shares her journey of self-discovery and the importance of embracing discomfort to grow, offering po...

From the timeless romance of Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor to the unique dynamic between RuPaul and George LeBar, these couples teach us that love is not one-size-fits-all. The discussion spans across monogamous, open, and polyamorous relationships, highlighting the importance of mutual respect, admiration, and staying true to your authentic self. How do these relationships thrive despite socie...

In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the ever-evolving landscape of modern dating, exploring new trends that are shaping how we connect and build relationships in 2024. They discuss the phenomenon of “beard fishing,” where profile pictures with misleading beard lengths cause confusion and disappointment in real-life encounters. The hosts also share insights on the rise of “s...

Who's in your "close friends"? Daniel and Garet dive deep into the intriguing world of Instagram’s Close Friends feature, discussing how it reshapes online intimacy and the dynamics within the gay community. From personal anecdotes about provocative posts to the broader implications of creating micro-communities, they explore the various ways people use (and sometimes misuse) this green-circled sp...

In this episode of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet dive deep into the realities of facing hate and criticism as members of the LGBTQ+ community. Inspired by a recent episode of RuPaul's Drag Race Canada vs. the World, they discuss the pervasive issue of haters, both online and offline, and the unique challenges queer individuals face in today's political climate. The conversation touches on personal...

From recounting personal stories of sweaty encounters to debating whether socks should stay on or come off during sex, Daniel and Garet provide a humorous yet insightful look at what constitutes good manners in intimate situations. They also explore the rules and excitement of cruising, the rise of Sniffies as a mainstream hookup app, and the essential etiquette tips everyone should know to ensure...

Hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the concept of playersexuality in video games. They share nostalgic gaming experiences and discuss how modern games like The Sims have evolved to include diverse sexual identities. The conversation highlights the importance of inclusive representation in gaming, particularly for the LGBTQ+ community. The hosts analyze both the positive and negative aspects of 'pla...

Join Daniel and Garet as they explore the concept of "sadfishing," where individuals post overly emotional content online to seek validation. They delve into the reasons behind this behavior and its impact on relationships and social media interactions. Moving away from the digital realm, they highlight the growing trend of matchmaking, sharing personal anecdotes and the value of human connection...

In this episode of Modern Gays, we sit down with TheeAlexanderJ, a dynamic influencer known for his vibrant fashion and confident demeanor. We delve into his background, discussing the origins of his confidence and the motivation behind his viral content. Alexander shares experiences growing up, highlighting the challenges and triumphs that shaped his journey. He emphasizes the importance of self-...

Let's talk about "Delulu," a term that started as a playful social media jab but has evolved into a powerful mindset for achieving your wildest dreams. Daniel and Garet discuss how embracing a bit of delusion can lead to setting and achieving audacious goals. Through personal anecdotes, celebrity examples, and practical tips, they explore the transformative power of believing in your dreams, visua...

Daniel and Garet are joined by love and relationship expert Trevor Kuhn from Love Daddy Trev . Together, they address common questions facing single gay men, such as why they might still be single, how to find the right partner, and navigating the complexities of dating in close-knit gay communities. The discussion also touches on the impact of Pride events on finding love, the competitive nature...

In this Pride edition of Modern Gays, Daniel and Garet delve into the deeper meaning of pride beyond the celebrations. They discuss how truly owning and expressing your gay pride every day can lead to incredible personal and societal transformations. From the importance of visibility and acceptance to the ongoing fight for equality and the resilience needed to face challenges, this episode is a he...

Kevin Kasir, a gay mindset coach, shares his journey into self-development, emphasizing the importance of a positive mindset and self-love. The conversation covers recognizing negative thought patterns, the significance of taking small actionable steps towards self-improvement, and the impact of deep, supportive friendships. Kevin offers practical advice on overcoming laziness, the role of friends...

Daniel and Garet are joined by psychotherapist Brian Spitulnik to explore the complex interplay between identity, sex, and the influence of porn in the LGBTQ community. Brian, known for his authentic and relatable advice on Instagram and TikTok, shares his expertise on how being gay can shape personal choices and relationships. Together, they dive into the core issues of shame, the importance of c...

In this lively and intimate episode of "Modern Gays," hosts Daniel and Garet delve into the complexities of dating across significant age differences within the LGBTQIA+ community. They discuss everything from the cultural concepts of "daddies" to the emotional and social dynamics that come with large age gaps in relationships. Episode Highlights: Topic of age differences in relationships, setting...

Explore the nuances of LGBTQ+ travel with Stefan Arestis from Nomadic Boys, who along with his partner Sebastien Chaneac, has turned their passion for travel into a powerful platform for advocacy and visibility. This episode covers everything from the safest places for gay travelers, navigating cultural challenges, to the power of supporting local LGBTQ+ communities in conservative countries. In-D...

Get into the nuanced world of modern dating and relationships in this eye-opening episode of Modern Gays. Daniel and Garet chat about the intricacies of flirting, the importance of setting healthy boundaries, and the crucial role of self-worth in forming meaningful connections. Whether discussing the controversial takes of RuPaul on monogamy or the timeless dilemma of revealing too much too soon,...