Midnight Mama

Learning to ask for help has somehow become a sign of weakness when it comes to motherhood.  We used to rely on our community, our supports, our villages, to help us ease into this new role and find our footing.  With the development of social media and more and more moms "flexing" about "doing it all" themselves, it has created the illusion that if we ask for help, we are incapable of being a goo...

Losing yourself and getting lost in motherhood are two different concepts, and for the most part, we tend to focus on the former.  In this episode, I share with you how that is a difficult concept for me to get behind, and I prefer to put my energy and focus into getting lost in motherhood.  It might sound silly, or like a wild concept, but taking the wrong turn has led to the most remarkable outc...

I cannot tell you how many times in the last two weeks I have heard someone say something along the lines of, "you're not even postpartum."  It had me thinking about all of the mothers who may be struggling to cope with anxiety, depression, panic attacks, etc. but are afraid to speak up about them because someone will judge them for being "out of the postpartum period."  What does that even mean? ...

I wanted to share with you the meaning behind Midnight Mama, and why I felt so called to provide moms with this space and place.  I talk openly about what midnights used to look like for me and how emotional loneliness crept its way into my life at one of the darkest hours.  I wanted to give moms and partners some suggestions as it relates to being helpful and informed about this loneliness, how t...

We have recognized that this generation of mothers is operating a bit differently than those before.  They are running businesses and their homes.  Showing up on social media and talking openly about their journeys to normalize it for the women who will come behind them.  They are showing everyone that becoming a mother can be hard, and the most amazing thing in this world at the same time.  What...

I'm back with some deep value for you today.  Join me as I talk to you about finding your frequency as it relates to how you are functioning and showing up in this world.  Developing a deeper sense of self-awareness, and insight, will allow you to operate at a high frequency where you will see and experience things in a much different light.  The only thing you need to do...is change.  I know how...

Have you ever heard of "mom guilt?" It's an amazing phenomenon that we experience countless times in motherhood, and when you stop and really think about it, you are the ONLY one bothered by it.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is acknowledge it's presence and then take a few steps to release it.  When we carry this around we cannot be fully present, therefore contributing to the guilt.  Tune i...

One area that we need to focus on more in the maternal mental health space is the simultaneous birth of the mother during childbirth.  We focus our intentions on bringing the baby into the world in the least traumatic way, but somehow thrust our mothers into chaos and havoc in the process.  In this episode, I break down the process of birthing the mother and share what I am doing to assist in this...

In this episode, I talk about where I was and what I was doing last week instead of recording an episode for YOU.  This episode is near and dear to my heart because it is all about learning to mother yourself, regulate your emotions, and feed those raw emotions with what they are craving.  So many times we are caught in the middle of a storm, or tidal wave, and just keep going under, and no one co...

Sometimes we overpack when we go on vacation, an overnight trip, or somewhere else, and that is ok, if we realize WHY we are doing it.  I like to be prepared, but sometimes that preparation can be debilitating to my growth and ability to fit into spaces I want to go.  Take a listen as I process what this looks like, why we do it, and the theoretical component associated with carrying extra things...

We continue to overcomplicate aspects of motherhood because they are hard, when in reality its a series of steps we follow every single day that sometimes yield a different outcome.  Everytime you make eggs do you get the same finished product?  Probably not.  You might add seasoning, burn your eggs, or scramble them up.  When we shift our perspective and look at the monotony of motherhood it can...

It's so easy for us to get caught up in the little storms that present themselves in our lives from time to time.  As moms, we find ourselves pulled into the storms of our spouses, children, friends, and more, and it can create instability within us that leads to self-sabotage and negative experiences.  I talk about my recent storms and how necessary it is to evaluate the residual damage from them...

There is so much power in the ability to reflect on your past and use it as motivation for continuous improvement in your life.  We are all afforded opportunities to recreate, or reinvent ourselves yet so little of the population recognizes those moments, and even less know what skills are necessary to begin this transformation.  Sometimes, it is someone else's journey that prompts us to make thes...

A moms there are many topics we shy away from, and another one of my favorites to discuss is resentment.  I talk about my experience with resentment and how I decided to heal from it and grow through this experience enhancing my family and adding more value to my life.

Coming down off the highs of our girl's trip, mother's day celebrations and busy life smacked me right in the mouth this weekend.  I pride myself on structure and routine in order to survive motherhood and this week I was reminded of what it feels like to neglect spending time with myself.  I typically practice what I preach because if I didn't, then how would anyone think it was wise to listen to...

I couldn't find the right word to explain how I felt recently with routines and bedtime especially.  SUFFOCATED seemed to sum it up fairly well, and I know I am not alone.  More importantly, learn what I did once I recognized it, and why that strategy is going to be effective for a long time to come.   As always, if you are looking to be coached by me, sign up for my email list here and get a free...

May is Maternal Mental Health Month and I am here for it!! I have created a new, FREE offer that is available for anyone on my email list, so join here https://www.kumitraininganddevelopment.com/   Also, the physician I reference in this podcast is Dr. Stephanie Staples-Hack, OBGYN

Are you keeping score in your house?  If you're not doing it then who is?  What are you keeping score of?  Join me here as I chat about the negative impact this behavior has on our marriages, relationships, and overall self-efficacy and how to reduce this "desire" to do so.

Social media has glorified the idea that being a "struggling" mom who doesn't shower, eat, or care for herself is the epitome of motherhood.  It has also encouraged us to not show who we TRULY are, and glorify the moms who bounce back and jump right back to work after giving birth without so much of a hiccup.  Join me in the conversation about why this is damaging to YOU and other moms, and why be...

We need to recognize that the symptoms are not always the problem when it comes to our experiences in motherhood.  We tend to overcomplicate motherhood and that prevents us from being present in our children's lives.  Join me in the discussion about reducing the complications by working on ONE area that will indirectly benefit every other area of your life. Daily Checklist Linked: https://www.kumi...

We've all bullshitted ourselves about not having the time or drive to take care of ourselves but will quicky drop everything and do something for our kids or our spouse.  I am calling you out on your bullshit here and reminding you that when you take care of yourself and find time for yourself, it allows you to give 100% to everyone else that needs you.  You will walk away from this episode with a...

Yep, I'm talking about burnout.  It's one thing to get burned out, and it's another thing to learn how to identify the early onset and how to effectively recover from it.  Join me here and listen how burnout recently knocked me out, and how I chose to get up from the blow.   As always, if you are looking to implement some new strategies or coping mechanisms let's connect. https://calendly.com/nicb...

As mothers, one thing we can't seem to get enough of (other than sleep) is a community of helpful and willing moms.  I know the struggle I faced when looking outside of my immediate family and support network for those individuals who were walking the same path as me, so I went ahead and created that community. I'm inviting you to join me, wherever you are in your journey as a mother, and help bui...

One could assume with the onset of motherhood you would sacrifice some level of privacy.  However, getting that privacy back will take far more work than you may have anticipated, or are prepared to do.  How are other mothers having this conversation?  Are you having it, do you even care anymore, or are you fighting the good fight?  I am on the struggle bus currently and looking for some feedback....

After becoming a mother I lost a lot of control over things in my life and was ready for some of them, but not all.  The hardest thing for me to come to terms with was the loss of my personal space, and my body belongs to me.  From breastfeeding to sex, to kids touching all over me, I feel as though nothing belongs to me.  Join me as I share my experience and normalize this for so many others.   h...