Midlife Butterfly: Stop Self-Abandoning & People Pleasing by Healing Your Nervous System — Feel Alive Again

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip. Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it. Feel alive again! Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly   💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everythi...

Ever wonder why the same kind of person keeps showing up in your life — just wearing a different face? In this episode, we’re unpacking why “toxic relationships” might not be about anyone being toxic at all — and what your triggers, patterns, and hardest goodbyes are really trying to show you. 🦋 You’ll Discover: Why the relationships you call “toxic” might actually be self-abandonment wearing a r...

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip. Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it. Feel alive again! Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly   💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everythi...

  How many parts of yourself have you left behind just to be liked? In this episode, we explore why you're not broken — you're fragmented — and how calling those rejected parts of yourself back to the table is the real path to feeling whole again. 🦋 You'll Discover: What being fragmented instead of broken actually means — and why the parts of you you left behind still matter. How w...

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip. Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it. Feel alive again! Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly 💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything...

Have you ever wondered why you're supposed to suffer for love? What if the love you keep looking for outside yourself was your responsibility all along? In this episode, we explore why suffering for love is a program — not a requirement — and why learning to love every part of you, including the parts you've hidden away, is the most unselfish thing you'll ever do. 🦋 You'll Dis...

What if the emotions you've spent your whole life hiding... are actually the ones trying to guide you home? Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip. Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. That's it. Feel alive again! Share your...

You've done everything right. And somehow that's exactly the problem. This episode is for the woman who has built a beautiful life by overriding herself — and is finally ready to stop. 🦋 You'll Discover: Why overriding your intuition isn't a failure of self-trust — it's a nervous system strategy that once kept you safe What's really happening when you say yes and mea...

Butterfly Practice Fridays are short, intimate episodes designed to land in your body, not just your head. Consider this your weekly permission slip. Every Friday, a simple practice to help you come home to yourself. Press play. Do the thing. And Feel alive again! Share your experience with me on Instagram @midlifebutterfly 💜 I created Coming HOME for the woman who has done everything right and s...

Is there a friend you keep meaning to call — and you haven't? Is there a life you keep meaning to start living — and you're still waiting? This is one of those episodes that came from real life, raw and unfiltered. This week, Kena lost a dear friend. And in the weight of that loss, she returned to the question that changed her life after losing her father — and she's asking it now,...

Are you moving through your days efficiently — but feeling strangely empty inside? What if the life you've built looks fine from the outside, but something underneath has gone quiet? This episode is an invitation to stop, feel, and ask the question most women never give themselves permission to ask: what does it actually mean to feel alive — not just functional, not just grateful, but genuine...

Have you ever felt completely disconnected from your own body — like pleasure was something that happened to other women, not you? What if the shame you carry around sex isn't a personal failing — but a pattern you were never meant to carry in the first place? In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with Dr. Trina Read — a women's sexual health expert with over 25 years of experie...

You didn't lose yourself all at once. It happened one small yes at a time. In this episode, we trace it back — to the exact moment the slow fade begins, and why most women can't pinpoint when they stopped being themselves. People-pleasing isn't a bad habit or a character flaw. It's a survival response your nervous system learned a long time ago to keep you safe, loved, and acce...

Many high-achieving women think they’re exhausted because they’re doing too much. But beneath the over-functioning, caregiving, people-pleasing, and constant responsibility, there’s often something deeper happening: self-abandonment. In this episode of Midlife Butterfly , Kena Siu explores the emotional exhaustion that builds when women spend years disconnecting from their own needs, emotions, des...

Have you ever finished eating something and immediately felt worse — not from the food, but from the story you told yourself about it? What if there was nothing wrong with you — and the only thing missing was understanding how your brain and body actually work? In this conversation, Kena sits down with Lizzie Merritt — certified life coach, bestselling author, and former science teacher — to unpac...

What if the disconnection you feel from your body isn't a problem to fix — but a doorway leading you back home to yourself?  This episode is for the woman who's been doing everything right and still feels like something's off. In Part 2 of A Doorway to Home, Kena goes deeper into why midlife isn't a crisis — it's your soul calling you back. We explore the invisible weight...

What if the reason you can't seem to change isn't a lack of knowledge — but that the body hasn't been part of the conversation yet?  This is the episode for the woman who has done everything right — the courses, the therapy, the journaling — and still feels like something is missing. In Part 1 of A Doorway to Home, Kena introduces neuroepigenetic breathing and explores the three cen...

Is there a trip — or a dream — that you've been saying "someday" to for so long it almost doesn't feel real anymore? What if the guilt you feel about choosing yourself isn't the truth — but just a story you were handed, and never thought to question?   In this rich, grounded conversation, Kena sits down with Maria Kamau — Kenyan-born travel writer, ICF certified coach, and...

You've read the books, hired the coaches, been to the retreats — so why do you keep coming back to the same patterns, the same reactions, the same stuck places? What if the transformation you've been seeking isn't missing — it just hasn't landed in your body yet? In this solo episode, Kena speaks directly to the woman who has done everything right on the inside — and still wond...

Have you noticed that the things that used to work — the way you ate, the way you exercised, the way you managed yourself — just don't work anymore? Your body is changing… and no one really prepared you for this.  In this conversation, I sit with Dr. Heather Awad to explore what’s truly happening in women's bodies during the menopause transition — from hormonal shifts and weight gain to...

Have you ever been somewhere beautiful — a holiday, a gathering, a perfect moment — and still felt strangely off? This is a Reflection Bomb — short, honest, and straight from real life. Kena shares what happened on a morning when she noticed something quietly wrong beneath the surface: a flicker of anger she hadn't even recognized as anger. Instead of pushing through and filling her schedule,...

Have you ever caught yourself telling the same story about your life — the one where you stayed too long, gave too much, and kept waiting for things to change?   In Part 2 of this rich conversation, Kena and Kimber Hardick go into the layers of self-abandonment most women never name: the stories we carry like gospel, the desires we’ve quietly buried, and what it really means to choose yourself — n...

Have you ever caught yourself in the middle of an old pattern — reactive, shrinking, or going silent — and thought, I thought I’d worked through this?   What if the frustration isn’t a sign you’re failing — but proof that something in you is finally awake enough to notice?  In this first part of a rich two-part conversation, Kena and Kimber Hardick explore what it really means to come home to your...

Have you ever stayed quiet in a conversation — swallowed what you really felt — and then spent hours replaying what you wish you’d said? In this solo episode, Kena explores the connection most women never see: that the intimacy we long for — in relationships, in friendships, even within ourselves — doesn’t collapse because love runs out. It collapses the moment we stop trusting our own inner signa...

You survived it. You built the life. And somehow you're still carrying it — that secret, that shame, that version of you, you haven't let anyone fully see. In this raw and honest conversation with Candi Rose, we explore why so many high-achieving women still feel trapped beneath everything they've built — and what it actually takes to step into freedom in midlife.   🦋 You'll D...