Messy Depressy

News flash - your goals in life is actually not the interesting. Only because the most interesting about you is YOU. Don’t define your identity based on your goals, but instead define your goals based on who you are. Today we chat about separating your personal identity from your goals, and why hot girls are able to have a secure attachment not just with others, but who you are to your core. You a...

Apparently, complaining is illegal now. There’s a difference between talking through your problems and building a permanent residence in them, and society loves to blur that line. We’ll get into why people are so quick to label any negative emotion as “playing the victim,” how that actually keeps people from processing their lives in a healthy way, and what it really looks like to take responsibil...

I don’t know who told me to have goals… but I’d like a word. Because why is it that the second you start wanting more for your life, you also sign up for constant overthinking, pressure, and persistent stress. In this episode, I’m just having a very honest conversation about ambition—what it feels like to care about your life, to want more, and to feel overwhelmed by your own expectations at the s...

If your life feels like a “before” picture that’s taking a little too long… welcome. In this episode, we get into the uncomfortable truth that you can’t build a better life while actively hating the one you have. Acceptance isn’t settling—it’s strategy. Because once you stop resisting where you are, you can finally figure out how to move forward… instead of just emotionally pacing back and forth.

Breaking news: wanting something really badly is not a strategy. In this episode, we confront the uncomfortable gap between “I deserve this” and “I should be handed this.” From unrealistic expectations to chronic disappointment, we dig into why life keeps not delivering—and why that might not be a personal attack. It’s a little existential, a hard pill to swallow, and unfortunately… completely nec...

You know those people who say, “Everything always works out in the end”? This episode is not for them. Welcome to an honest conversation about the quiet frustration of doing everything you’re supposed to do—working hard, trying to be a good person, staying hopeful—only to watch things fall apart anyway. The almost opportunities. The bad timing. The plans that looked so certain until they weren’t....

This week we explore the Circle of Influence — and how this relates to weddings. How you may ask? Weddings are the ultimate social experiment: the moment you make one decision, everyone reveals who they truly are. So how do you manage relationships when people start treating your exciting life event as if it is the most inconvenient moment to ever occur in their life? Spoiler: you can’t control th...

The idea of happiness marketing. Truly a space that the "self-help" community has mastered. But what if I told you that finding true "happiness" is impossible. Well, kinda. Today we will be chatting about why self-help books are a load of bs... and why overly positive advice is toxic.

nothing more... and nothing less. (ew rhyming disgusting I know) Anyway... welcome to Messy Depressy! The place where I (Jess) will yap on and on about all things life. The Messy the Depressy, and possibly the Good?? (when it comes). After all, life is messy... and a lil bit depressy. So let's chat about all that life has to throw at us :)