Mental State: Straight talk about all things mental health and more

We talk about childhood crushes and how that feeling can infiltrate the way we date as adults. Jacqueline talks about how her 14 year-old-self has a "type" and sometimes that part of her gets in the way of dating like an adult. Listen as we share some tips on how to have a relationship with that part of yourself and allow for the adult you to be in the dating driver's seat. DM or reach out for mor...

We explore the world of psychedelics and attachment. Can psychedelics help you have a better relationship with yourself? Remember psychedelics are still illegal in most states and we are not advocating the illegal use of psychedelics. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experien...

We touch on the topic of neurodivergence and attachment style. Although we are not experts on the neuro-atypical population we offer an exploration of how attachment can apply to HSP, ADHD, and BPD.  DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a...

Want to know more about attachment styles? We discuss the 4 attachment styles and how to move towards earned secure attachment. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and personalized approach to individual and coup...

We touch on some brain science and attachment. How children and caregivers interact directly affects the child’s brain formation and operation. Most affected by this relationship are parts of the brain that regulate self-control, the release of stress hormones, and the way genes are expressed. We are not even close to being neuroscientists but we are nerds! DM or reach out for more info about atta...

One of the biggest misses in dating is communication. Whether it be through talk, text, or IRL people are not really sharing what's on their minds which leads to big disappointments and missed opportunities. Learn how to communicate and lean into the uncomfortable, sharky waters of the dating world. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mar...

We discuss how women view masculinity in the dating world and how this view can shift as we become more secure in our dating experiences.  We throw a little shade on some toxic masculinity . DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassi...

We are interviewing grief and loss expert Claire Bidwell-Smith who shares her personal story of losing both of her parents by the time she turned 25 and her bumpy journey around navigating her grief. We get real about what it means to lose a parent and explore Claire's work in helping others process the loss of loved ones. Learn more about Claire at clairebidwellsmith.com or visit her on the socia...

We can all get caught up in the fantasy of dating and sometimes put the reality aside. Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to talk about their own dating fantasies and how attachment can play a big role in creating the fantasy. Learn how to take off the dating rose-colored glasses and see the person in front of you for who they really are. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working wit...

Medium Ivy Sanderji talks us through her experience of being a medium and a psychic, how to show up for a reading, and what it's like to get messages from the "other side." We explore how readings can help people with different attachment styles. Ivy gets some messages about Mary's love life and Mary agrees to do a live reading with Ivy.   Book a reading with Ivy Sunderji https://ivysunderji.wordp...

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to help her interview a listener who is new to attachment styles. Our listener Jen lost her brother at a young age. This devastating trauma as well as her struggle to find guidance through her turbulent teens influenced the way she navigated her own relationships. Jen shares how attachment theory is shedding light on the way she showed up in relationships. DM or...

Does the Law of Attraction really work when you're looking for a partner? Do you think you can manifest the perfect someone by making a vision board?  Mary invites her friend on the show to talk about the Law of Attraction and what that means about your attachment style. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @maryb...

Have you ever obsessed over your ex? Or maybe someone you're currently dating. Mary shares some of her own past obsessions and what she was going through at the time. Learn about how your attachment style may be driving your obsessions. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experi...

Gretta Perlmutter is the host of the Coping With Ghosting podcast and IG account. We interview Gretta about the ghosting epidemic and ghosting and attachment styles. Gretta shares some helpful tools for coping with ghosting. We can never get enough of ghosting!   Here's more about Gretta Perlmutter. Tons of great info and courses to help you deal with ghosting. https://www.copingwithghosting.com h...

Pets can be our greatest attachment teachers. Mary asks her friend Jacqueline to share her story of the recent loss of her dear cat Millie, her companion of 17 years. Listen to us talk about the importance of the companionship of pets, how our attachment style influences how we are with our pets, and the grief that comes with pet loss. Pets can be our ultimate attachment teachers. DM or reach out...

Are You Terrified of Ending Up Alone? We explore the fears around a future of loneliness and what you can do to move towards partnership. Mary shares how having brothers helped her feel more secure in relationships and Jacqueline talks about her own fears about ending up alone. Book Recommendation: No One Tells You This Glynnis MacNicol DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with...

Mary discusses love languages and break down how they work within the framework of attachment styles. Take the love languages quiz here : https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language Get the 5 Love Languages book: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybthe...

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to discuss codependency and attachment. In this case, attachment means becoming overly involved with a troubled, needy, or dependent person. Codependence can also mean a lack of open and direct communication, trust in one's self, and the inability to set realistic expectations. Get the low-down on what codependency looks and sounds like, where it comes from (hint...

There is a stigma around being single, especially for women of all ages. We grew up with the societal, and quite possibly familial, expectations of pairing up and reproducing before a certain age. Mary discuss singlehood through the attachment lens and what it really means to be single. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybthe...

Mary is no stranger to the world of self-help, especially when it comes to reading books and taking courses. Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to talk about her years of self-help experiences including taking the course on finding "The One." Relying on self-help can be a reflection of your attachment style and we break down how your attachment style relates to self-help and why it can over-promis...

Mary talks with her friend Jacqueline about how dating apps can play into your attachment style. They give helpful tips on how not to get stuck in the dating app trap and how to shift your energy towards a more positive dating outcome. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experie...

The dreaded dating apps - love them or leave them, they are here to stay. Mary talks with her friend Jacqueline about dating apps and how to make them work for you. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy   Mary Barbour is an experienced licensed therapist who offers a compassionate, direct, and persona...

What happens when your soulmate becomes your soul crusher?  Mary invites her friend Jaqueline on the show to talk about the feelings underneath meeting your soulmate and when the relationship turns confusing. Mary shares her own experiences with soul mates turned deadbeats. Learn how this dance can start feeling very disorganized.   DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me,...

Mary invites her friend Jacqueline to the show to help her break down their favorite attachment style - disorganized attachment style. Disorganized attachment is characterized by a lack of a consistent pattern of behavior when it comes to attachment. Individuals with disorganized attachment may seem to want to be close to others, but then become anxious, avoidant, or even fearful in certain situat...

Mary invites her friend Jaqueline to discuss avoidant attachment styles - the attachment style that Mary holds near and dear to her heart. Mary confesses an avoidant moment and Jacqueline offers up some tips for the avoidant. DM or reach out for more info about attachment, working with me, or media opportunities.  Visit Mary at marybtherapy and  @marybtherapy     Mary Barbour is an experienced lic...