Meno moms after the pause

Somewhere along the way, many women became the default carrier of everything. The planner. The rememberer. The emotional regulator. The one who notices what’s running low, what’s falling apart, who needs help, what everyone forgot, and what still has to get done. And somehow… most of that work remains invisible. This week on Meno Moms: After the Pause , we’re talking about the exhaustion women car...

Welcome back to Meno Moms: After the Pause. This is Chapter 2 — Unbecoming. The chapter where we start peeling back the layers of who we thought we were supposed to be… and get honest about what’s actually been driving us. And today? We’re talking about comparison. The invisible scorecard so many women have been carrying around for decades without even realizing it. Who looks younger. Whose marria...

Welcome back to Meno Moms: After the Pause — the podcast where we talk honestly about midlife, menopause, identity shifts, relationships, reinvention… and everything they forgot to warn women about. We’re your hosts, Alyson and Susie, and today we’re diving into something so many women have spent decades carrying without even realizing it: Perfection. The pressure to hold it all together. To be th...

It’s live. At some point, parenting quietly shifts. No milestone. No conversation. No clear line. Just a slow realization that the role you’ve lived in for decades… no longer fits the same way. And yet—letting go isn’t simple. As Esther Perel says: “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.” So what happens when the relationship with your children… changes? In this epis...

Before you press play… just sit with this for a second: When was the last time you actually asked yourself— “Is this relationship still working for the woman I am now?” Not the version of you from 10 years ago. Not the mom-in-the-thick-of-it version. The woman you are today. This is the conversation so many are thinking about— and so few are saying out loud. It’s the same space Esther Perel has sp...

We’ve been told we’re supposed to love our bodies. Fully. Confidently. Unapologetically. But what if… that doesn’t feel true?” There’s this quiet pressure—especially in midlife— to arrive at some place of total body love. Like one day you just wake up, look in the mirror, and feel nothing but gratitude and admiration. And to be fair… there’s been a powerful movement pushing that idea forward. Bran...

Chapter 2: Unbecoming Episode 1: Grieving Younger Versions of Ourselves “For most of our lives, we are taught to become something… But midlife asks a different question— What if the real work now is unbecoming?” This week, we’re talking about the part of midlife no one prepares you for… the quiet grief of letting go of who you used to be The young woman with endless possibility The version of you...

Welcome back to Meno Moms – After the Pause , the podcast where we talk honestly about midlife, identity shifts, and what happens when women begin reclaiming their lives. This is Chapter 1: The Great Reclamation , and today’s episode is called “The Grief We Don’t Talk About — Loss, Identity, and Reclaiming Yourself in Midlife.” When people hear the word grief, they often think only about death. Bu...

There comes a moment in midlife when the performance stops working. Not because you’re angry. Not because you’ve stopped caring. But because somewhere along the way you realize you’ve been carrying the emotional weight of keeping everyone comfortable. For many women, being “nice” was never really a personality — it was a strategy. A way to keep the peace. To stay accepted. To make relationships wo...

Ever look at the life you built and think why doesn’t this fit anymore? Midlife isn’t a breakdown it’s a reconstruction. The roles shift. The house gets quiet. The old identity feels inherited instead of chosen. We talk expired roles, guilt when women choose themselves, leaving what no longer aligns, and why that restless feeling isn’t selfish ITS AWAKENING! *We did our duty. Now we choose ourselv...

Welcome to the transition no one warns couples about. Retirement doesn’t ruin relationships… 👉 Unspoken expectations do. In this episode, we talk about: *Ways you can prepare * How to prepare for the marriage tension nobody admits * How emotionally smart couples prepare early Because after 50… Peace is non-negotiable. Episode 12: Retirement Isn’t a Date—It’s a Transition (And It Starts Early) is...

We spend decades being needed — managing schedules, holding emotional weight, feeding everyone, remembering everything. Then one day-the house quiets. And no one prepares you for the question that follows: Who am I now? In this deeply honest episode of MenoMoms: After the Pause , we talk about the side of empty nesting no one warns you about — the grief that can coexist with pride, the relief tang...

Birth Order & Breaking the Roles Birth order may have shaped us… but menopause gives us permission to renegotiate the contract. If you’ve always been:     •    the responsible one     •    the peacekeeper     •    the fixer     •    the one who never gets to fall apart This episode is for you. Today we’re talking about how birth order quietly assigns roles we never agreed to — and how menopaus...

Welcome back to Meno Moms After The Pause Today’s episode is about something so many women feel… but rarely say out loud: The pressure to be the “hot mom.” Not just healthy. Not just confident. But HOT polished, thin, youthful, energetic, desirable and always “put together.” And it’s exhausting. Because for a lot of us in midlife, our bodies are changing, our hormones are shifting, our priorities...

AWE After the Pause Midlife has a way of stripping things down. Roles change. Bodies change. Beliefs shift. And sometimes we lose the parts of ourselves that used to feel alive. In this episode, we talk about AWE not as a personality trait, but as a practice. A way back to presence. A way to soften. A way to breathe again when life has been loud. Awe doesn’t fix grief. It doesn’t erase hard season...

“Okay… today we’re talking about something a lot of us didn’t have words for growing up, but we FELT  it. We’re calling it the  patriarchy hangover the lingering effects of being raised in a system that taught women to be supportive, accommodating, grateful and sadly quiet. A system where leadership usually went to men, and women learned early how to shrink, smooth things over, and hold everything...

Welcome back to  Meno Moms . Today we’re talking about something that doesn’t get enough honest airtime friendships after 50 . Because somewhere along the way between raising kids, careers, caregiving, menopause, loss, and personal growth—our friendships change. Some deepen. Some fade. And some no longer fit who we’re becoming. After 50, we don’t have the same energy or tolerance for relationships...

Birth Order & Breaking the Roles Birth order may have shaped us… but menopause gives us permission to renegotiate the contract. If you’ve always been:     •    the responsible one     •    the peacekeeper     •    the fixer     •    the one who never gets to fall apart This episode is for you. Today we’re talking about how birth order quietly assigns roles we never agreed to — and how menopaus...

Midlife has a way of telling the truth — loudly. In this episode, Susie and Alyson share the five truths that social media influencer One Fit Widow shared she is taking into 2026 : self-worth, health, boundaries, time, and choosing joy on purpose. They discuss what each of those mean to them. Honest, funny, a little spicy — and exactly what every midlife woman needs to hear.

Come and listen to the conversation about setting intentions vs resolutions. We don’t have to figure it all out in January. You have worked hard all December - so give yourself a few long January naps - and permission to figure what you need from this next year one day at a time. You can find us on: FB: meno moms IG: meno_moms_after_the_pause TIKTOK: meno moms

Christmas doesn’t have to happen on December 24th or 25th. I know… that can feel like a tough shift when you’ve spent years having your kids all to yourself on those magical days. But life changes, families grow, and suddenly our adult kids are juggling spouses, in-laws, schedules, and tiny humans of their own. Here’s the good news:Christmas can be ANY day in December. And when we offer a little f...

Today we're. talking about Family and motherhood specifically : empty nesting, parenting adult children, navigating aging parents and grandparenting. Always with a healthy dose if snark! Tune in while Susie and Alyson share some of their experiences navigating these new and exciting stages in their lives.

Welcome to After the Pause—the podcast where women in all stages of menopause can talk unfiltered and unapologetically. Share 30 minutes with Susie and Alyson as they introduce themselves and talk about their new podcast as it relates to midlife and all things we’ve collected over the decades and we aren’t staying bottled up anymore.