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Today we’ve got: a recently out queer person who’s new partner is pressuring them to become poly for political reasons, a friend who’s gone “eyebrow blind,” a boyfriend who recently confessed to being a “deeply closeted bisexual,” a toxic ex our questioner wants to sleep with, an in-law’s mortgage gift offer gone wrong, and finally a boyfriend who eats so much junk food it’s giving our questioner...

Hey! Last week I wrote about personal and political scapegoats and the heaven/hell of having something to blame all your problems on. The original inspiration for that essay was, randomly, a recent experience I had taking a new license photo, which had me thinking about the beauty industry in a new way, as a kind of scapegoat industrial complex. In the end, I didn’t mention beauty in the essay bec...

A forbidden work crush, a boyfriend who’s taking a new hobby too seriously, an “overprotective” boyfriend, a hot guy who isn’t good in bed, a woman questioning whether to get a boob job, and a meet-cute involving rabies. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit haleynahman.substack.com/subscribe

Hey! Welcome back to Dear Danny. Today we’ve got seven questions: On an unfortunate selfie face (obviously we talk about this for like 30 minutes), an ill-conceived butt slap, a semantic in-law problem, a fear-of-authoritarianism relationship gap, a nose-picking coworker, a friend fully ignoring another friend’s pregnancy, and a married neighbor who won’t stop hitting on our question asker. Great...

Hey! Welcome back to Dear Danny. Today we chit chat for a loooong time then answer six reader questions. We discuss: * a meet-cute-gone-wrong (when she finds his Instagram) * how much a woman can expect her husband to change his lifestyle when they’re trying to get pregnant (and his semen analysis was so-so) * whether it’s gauche to invite yourself to social events * what to do when you’re several...

Ladies (gender-inclusive), It’s that time of the month! Danny’s back and we’re answering seven questions today. We have a will-they-won’t-they (on a trivia team), stoner in-laws who want to take care of the baby, a new kind of depression, a little choir drama, an annoying friend who wants to take a roadtrip, a guy who won’t help out his broke girlfriend, and someone who’s being extorted by her mai...

Hello! So happy to be back with a Voice Note, a.k.a. solo podcast, for the first time in a while. This week I’m talking about a big lesson I learned last year (in my case about childcare) that might be relevant as you think about setting goals or resolutions for 2025. Missed you,Haley This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, vi...

Hello and welcome back to Dear Danny! Today we’ll be discussing the ethical boundaries of “boys night,” who should foot the bill on a date, the complexities of addiction inside a relationship, the reason men love-bomb (from a love-bomber himself), how to handle a relative falling for a romance scam, and a bachelor trip gone sus. Reallllly good questions everyone. We love you so much. Also, if you’...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit haleynahman.substack.com Hey! It’s mid-month which means it’s time for Danny and me to answer your burning questions. So hard to choose. This round we picked six: On navigating PMS-inspired fights (when you don’t want your feelings invalidated but also know you’re being a little cuckoo), how to have a serious reckoning with some difficu...

Hi! Welcome back to Dear Danny. Today we’ve got NINE questions to answer: on “innocent” cheating, a boyfriend with a coke habit, a clingy coworker, a 12-year relationship that’s never felt exactly right, a friends-to-lovers arc, three separate questions on sex-troubled relationships, and a regretful ex-boyfriend. So much to cover so little time! Thank you as always for trusting us with your great...

Hey! Welcome back to Dear Danny. Today we’ve got: an anxious husband, a bad kisser, a two-year breakup pattern, a move-in crisis, a narcissistic brother, a boring relationship, and the mystery of love! I already published the introduction to this episode on the 3rd, so we’re going to be diving straight in. I apologize for the diarrhea story—was ultimately a non sequitur. Thanks for listening,Haley...

Hey! As a followup to my conversation with Harling and Crystal, I wanted to hone in on my most frequently asked question: What’s surprised me about motherhood? In this episode I tell you nine things about having a baby that have turned out totally different than I expected, in good ways and bad. Also curious to hear your own answers to this question, or reactions to mine! Thanks for listening,Hale...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit haleynahman.substack.com Hi!! I’m back on the sauce (listening to my own voice a sickening amount). Kicking things off with an episode about having a baby, with my friends Harling and Crystal , who also just had babies. I do want to apologize for talking about our buttholes, but certain things needed to be said. This will be a 2-part co...

Hey! Your boy is back this week for an extra long round of Dear Danny. As I mentioned this past Sunday, today we’ll be answering four written questions and two call-ins that cover what to do when a joyful relationship with food and exercise becomes haunted by the pursuit of abs, why an open relationship might seem fun in theory then feel terrifying in practice, whether cheating “hall passes” are r...

Hello! It’s time for another episode of Dear Danny. Today we’ll be answering questions about whether sexual attraction is 100% necessary at the beginning of a relationship, what to do if your friends are never on time, what to do if you see your romantic partner do something TRULY DISGUSTING (this one had us dying), how to deal with ennui about where you live, and whether it matters if you dislike...

Hello! I got a great question in my Dear Baby bank last month that felt better suited to a solo podcast than my written column , so I’ve decided to dedicate an entire episode to it. It concerns influencing, sponcon, advertising, selling out, and what constitutes a morally impactful choice in any of those realms. This episode is sort of a sequel to my answer to last month’s question about navigatin...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit haleynahman.substack.com Hey! After revealing on Sunday that Avi and I are trying to have a kid, I am finally prepared to unload the 1,000+ thoughts I have on this process, the decisions that led to it, and what I’ve learned since I started. I have neverrrrrr recorded this long of a solo podcast. I had so many things to stay I was liter...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit haleynahman.substack.com Hey! Welcome to another episode of Dear Danny, Danny’s-on-a-haunted-ranch edition. Today we’ll be answering six questions, about asymmetrical friendships, whether to rat out a lying boss, an ethical-non-monagomy-related pickle, how to trust yourself, how to deal with friends who won’t stop talking about the same...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit haleynahman.substack.com Hey! It’s Dear Danny time. This week we’re answering questions about friend envy, birthday sadness, romance on drugs, regrettable favors, body hair, and falling in love with a friend. Thanks for listening,Haley

Hi! Back with a Voice Note today about aging, and especially the cultural scripts around what happens as you do it. On Sunday I mentioned that my 30s have been more dynamic than cultural scripts indicated they would, and in this episode I talk more about what I meant by that. This is not a diatribe about what it means to be any particular age, but rather what I think it means to age (a.k.a. contin...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit haleynahman.substack.com This week I invited Avi and Harling back on the podcast to debrief on Nathan Fielder’s new show The Rehearsal and all the dramatic discourse surrounding it. Two pieces we reference are “The Cruel and Arrogant Gaze of Nathan Fielder’s The Rehearsal, ” by Richard Brody for The New Yorker and “Missed Connections: H...

Good morning, I asked my good friend Harling Ross to come back onto the podcast today to discuss Leslie Jamison’s essay “Dreaming in Broad Daylight” for Astra Mag , which we both loved. This conversation is about the piece specifically, but also about what it means to write honestly (versus “authentically” or through confession), why a lot of modern writing falls short, and in the last segment, wh...

Hi! Danny’s back and rested up like a good boy. Today we have a full ep for you answering five questions: on finding a boyfriend’s secret Twitter account, on grappling with the politics of weddings, on dreading going to weddings, on the loneliness of living alone, and how to know if it’s worth committing to a partner forever. Thank you so much as always for calling in. Your messages literally make...

You’re receiving my Tuesday podcast because you’re a  paying subscriber  of Maybe Baby. Thank you! To listen in your preferred app, click “Listen in podcast app.” Then it should automatically populate there every week. Hey! Very excited to welcome the psychologist Dr. Barry Schwartz to the podcast today. I first spoke with Barry for this piece I wrote for the Times (and loved him) , and was super...

You’re receiving my Tuesday podcast because you’re a  paying subscriber  of Maybe Baby. Thank you! To listen in your preferred app, click “Listen in podcast app.” Then it should automatically populate there every week. Hey! Welcome back to Dear Danny, my podcast version of Dear Baby wherein my friend Danny and I discuss your questions and more. Today we’ll be talking about cologne, body image, inf...