Mastering Midlife with Heidi

A shocking 92% of New Year's resolutions fail every year. But, you can avoid falling into this statistic! In this episode, I’m giving you the 3 science-based reasons why it’s so difficult to make lasting changes with resolutions, and sharing the ultimate secret to create change that lasts. Tune in if you want to keep your resolutions! Join the Me First Community , where you'll learn to p...

Three years ago I went through a devastating moment that turned out to be one of the greatest gifts I could ever receive. In this episode, I’ll share how this pivotal chapter of my life led me to question my deep-seated need for external validation and reassess my self worth. I'll also share three practical steps you can use to break free from the trap of people-pleasing and discover your tru...

Do you spend so much energy keeping the peace between others and then find yourself longing for some peace of your own? Peacekeeping is an exhausting pattern that can lead to putting yourself last. In this episode, I'll share two key reasons why you're stuck in this pattern, plus a powerful strategy to break free so that you can finally have some peace too! Are you ready for an unforgett...

The holiday season brings hustle & bustle, additional spending, and additional pressure for things to be perfect and for everyone to be happy. In this episode, I'll be sharing why this can cause increased stress for those who are people pleasers and often playing the role of peacekeeper. Plus, I'll give you a 4-part method that you can use to break the unhealthy cycle of living in a...

Codependency has had such a deep impact on my life and I’m ready to explore it more deeply with you. In this episode, we’ll discuss the origins of codependent behaviors, the distinctions between codependency and people-pleasing, and the 10 questions you can ask yourself to assess if codependency might be playing a role in your life. Tune in to learn how to identify and address these behaviors so y...

There are two words that I’ve been mixing up my whole life and you might be too. In this episode, I’ll share with you the profound differences between being nice and being kind, why only one of them helps you to actually be your authentic self, and the 3 questions you can ask yourself to determine which one is directing the choices you make. Join the Me First Community , where you'll learn to...

Ever feel like you're stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing and self-doubt? In this episode, I’ll reveal three common lies that people pleasers tell themselves, and how these beliefs can keep us trapped in frustration and resentment. Join me as I share my personal experiences and valuable insights on breaking free from these limiting beliefs, so you can live a more authentic and fulfilling life...

My 92 year old mom is as sharp as a tack and as healthy as a horse. In today's episode, I'm sharing her 4 secrets to living a long and fulfilling life. The best news? They're all really simple things that you can implement in your own life! In this episode, I'm also celebrating 1000 podcast downloads - something that was just a dream only 9 months ago! I learned how to start my...

In this episode, I share a deeply personal and unexpected experience from my Labor Day weekend that forced me to reexamine how I react to life's curveballs. I discuss the importance of responding rather than reacting, being your own advocate, and adopting the mindset of "I'm willing to see this differently." Join me in exploring these valuable lessons in handling difficult situ...

What's the best way to give yourself freedom and feel amazing about your life without relying on what others think? If you experience the need for approval from external sources, you don't want to miss the answer in today's episode. I'm sharing the experience I had on my first SCUBA dive in the Caribbean and the surprising connection to external validation. Join the Me First Co...

Are you afraid of disappointing others or of being judged? Do you often do things out of a sense of loyalty or duty to avoid being seen as bad or unforgiving? Do you feel selfish for putting yourself first or for saying no? If you said yes to any of these, tune in because being in this people pleasing FOG is what we're talking about in today's episode. Join the Me First Community , where...

Many people view people-pleasing as a good thing, a positive trait. It can be, when driven by genuine love and generosity. But if your people-pleasing is coming from a fear of not being liked, conflict, being rejected, etc., there's a catch. Tune in to hear about 7 signs that might show you that you're being nice for the wrong reasons, and how to start overcoming "the disease to ple...

Stress is no fun and has many negative side effects. Yet, many of us spend a lot of time in this state and some almost wear it as a badge of honor. Do you want to stop living in survival mode? In this episode, I'm breaking down how and why our bodies and brains get addicted to stress, and what you can do to kick stress to the curb. Are you ready to create a life you don't need a vacation...

Do you look in the mirror and see someone that you deeply love as much as a dear friend? I've despised the person looking back at me, for reasons deeper than physical appearance. In today's episode, I'm sharing how negative perceptions develop and why we end up holding onto them, even when we know they're not benefiting us. Tune in to look at your reflection in a brand new way....

What is happiness and why does it feel so elusive at times? In this episode, I'm shining a light on the connection between happiness and inner peace, and 3 things to look at so that you can live a peaceful, happy life on a daily basis. Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly workshops and uncover yo...

Are you feeling perpetually overwhelmed, drained, and teetering on the edge? Could these feelings be more closely tied to your personal boundaries than you realize? Through exploring my own experiences with burnout and boundary-setting, I'll uncover five key signs that these two might be interconnected. Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success an...

Do you say 'sorry' a lot? Most often, the situation doesn't actually warrant an apology. Over apologizing sends the message that you've done something wrong or didn't try hard enough. Tune in for ways to reframe 'sorry' so that you can improve your confidence, self-esteem, and communication skills. Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt...

Have you ever thought "when X happens, then I'll do Y"? If so, this thinking could be stealing your happiness from the present moment. Tune in to find out the circumstances in which "when-then" thinking is helpful, and those in which it is not. Plus, discover why this is a common thinking pattern and what you can do to stop it. Ready to break free from defeating patterns a...

Are you a people-pleasing, procrastinating perfectionist? If so, you're not alone! Tune in to learn about the "trifecta of Ps," how these behaviors feed off each other, and what you can do to break the patterns to live a more fulfilling life. Ready to break free from defeating patterns and toxic self-doubt to master your success and happiness? Join our live 90-minute monthly worksho...

Does your stress seem kind of like an appendage? It may feel like it's a part of you, something you can't put down. If so, you're not alone...I've been there! In the second half of this two-part series, I'll uncover even more things you're probably doing and how they unknowingly contribute to the stress that feels attached to you. Stop letting stress control your life...

Do you frequently feel like you're living in survival mode just getting through the day In the first episode of this two-part series, I'll uncover some things you're probably doing and how they may unknowingly contribute to the stress you experience in your life. These are the exact reasons why you are not getting what you want, whether in your relationships, finances, work, or heal...

Do you crave inner peace but find yourself struggling to attain it? In this episode, I'll explore the elusive concept of inner peace, uncover the reasons why we often fail to achieve it, and present a radical challenge that will help you finally discover what's holding you back. Do you want 1 on 1 support to define your goals, face your barriers, and receive tailored steps for lasting ch...

For many of us, putting others first is as automatic as putting on a seatbelt. This leads to abandoning our own needs and can prevent us from developing an essential, positive, relationship with ourselves. Today, I’m discussing why this happens, the associated costs, and some ways that you can create a relationship with yourself, no matter how old you are! Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group pr...

We're talking about self care today, but not just any self care! I call it “radical self care,” and it's vitally important to your inner peace and living your very best life. Tune in to hear about four key areas to focus on and four questions to ask yourself to evaluate how you are doing in the area of self care. Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program .  Enrollment for the sessio...

I spent 50 years addicted to people pleasing and self-sabotage. I finally overcame it, but not by changing my behaviors (surprise!). Tune in to hear the story of my “aha” moment and what finally worked to break this pattern. For more information about coaching options, please email me at Heidi@masteringmidlifewithheidi.com. Learn about the THRIVERS 10 week group program .  Enrollment for the sessi...