Mastering Midlife with Heidi

Do you ever find yourself saying yes when your gut is screaming no? If you struggle with people-pleasing, this habit can rob you of your time, energy, and self-worth. In this episode, you'll learn: The seven sneaky people-pleasing behaviors that are holding you back Why striving for perfection and over-apologizing are toxic to your confidence Practical steps to stop tolerating the intolerable...

It took me over five decades to realize that being "nice" was actually damaging my self esteem and confidence. Today, I'm revealing 8 eye-opening behaviors that were keeping me trapped in this cycle, plus sharing how you can break free from this people pleasing cycle. In this episode, you’ll learn: The hidden ways people pleasing depletes your confidence and self-esteem Practical ex...

Have you ever felt obligated to say yes just to avoid disappointing someone? This common people pleasing dilemma can often leave us feeling overwhelmed and resentful. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why a reluctant yes is more harmful than an honest no for both you and the other person The hidden costs and ripple effects of always saying yes when you want to say no Five simple strategies to break f...

Do you ever catch yourself asking, "what if they don't like me?" If you're a people pleaser, this question can end up running, and even ruining your life. In this episode, you’ll learn: What causes us to people-please and seek validation from others The physical and mental toll people pleasing can take on us  A simple question you can ask yourself to shift your mindset, build a...

If you've ever hesitated to ask for help, felt trapped by your commitments, or lost touch with your true self, this is your wake-up call. In this episode, you’ll learn: The three lessons that shattered my people-pleasing, perfectionist mindset Why asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness The liberating truth about changing your mind - even in major life decisions If you'd like...

After 15 years of practicing hot yoga, I’ve learned quite a few lessons that go way beyond the mat. But don’t worry, YOU don't have to know a thing about yoga or bend yourself into a pretzel to learn these lessons too. In this episode you’ll learn: The 10 surprising life lessons I picked up in hot yoga The everyday struggles we face when we don't set boundaries or value ourselves enough...

Setting boundaries is one thing, but enforcing them can sometimes leave you feeling guilty and rude. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why we might feel like we’re being rude when setting or enforcing boundaries How to enforce boundaries without feeling “rude” Three simple strategies you can use to know your limits, communicate your needs, and build healthy relationships Get on the waitlist for Your...

Have you been avoiding certain situations or conversations in order to maintain your sense of control? In this episode, you’ll learn: Four reasons we put limits on ourselves  Real life examples of things we avoid in order to not feel discomfort or not disappoint others How this pattern of avoidance results in a diminished version of ourselves and what we can do to address it "Avoidance Guide&...

Are you always trying to be everything to everyone and repeatedly make exceptions for the boundaries you’ve set? In this episode, you’ll learn: What leaky boundaries are and seven ways to gauge if you have holes in your boundary bucket Four ways that leaky boundaries negatively impact you and add unnecessary stress to your life A simple exercise to help you start taking back control and ease some...

Do you find yourself apologizing too much, even for things you don’t need to be sorry for? In this episode, you’ll learn: The five reasons we feel the need to apologize so much How over-apologizing impacts our relationships and our self worth Two things you can do today to start breaking this devastating habit If you'd like to know more about what coaching with me looks like, please email me...

Constant feelings of guilt and selfishness can be devastating to your self-esteem, making you feel uncomfortable talking about yourself, worried about being seen as self-centered, and afraid to say no or express your true feelings.  In this episode, you’ll learn: The three reasons why so many of us feel guilty and selfish so often The way these feelings can negatively impact our lives  Three quick...

Do you struggle with saying no, justifying negative behavior, changing yourself to fit others' expectations, or feeling resentful when your kindness isn't reciprocated? Setting and upholding healthy boundaries is a common struggle for many women I talk to. In this episode you’ll learn: The aha moment that made me realize that my unhealthy or nonexistent boundaries had attracted and gotte...

I’m doing something a little different this week and answering a powerful question from a listener about learning how to trust our own decision-making. In this episode, you’ll learn: How we become trained to doubt ourselves from a young age What it really means to be selfish and how it affects our people-pleasing behaviors A powerful exercise you can use to shift any situation that's causing...

Does your people pleasing behavior have you feeling like you don’t even know who you are anymore? In this episode, you’ll learn: Why you can’t depend on others for your happiness and what problems arise when you do Three steps you can take to break free from the trap of people-pleasing and start listening to your own voice A powerful exercise you can do today to reclaim your happiness, silence you...

Perfectionism is a thief of happiness, joy, feeling successful, calm, content, fulfilled, or any feeling we'd like to have. It's an exhausting behavior that often causes chronic stress and burnout. But, you don't have to stay stuck in the cycle! In this episode, you’ll learn: What causes us to get into perfectionism and how it manifests in our lives Reasons why we get stuck in this...

Do you find it easier to keep the promises you make to others but struggle with the ones you make to yourself?  In this episode, you’ll learn: How breaking promises to ourselves can affect our mental health The subconscious habits and beliefs that lead us to prioritize others over ourselves Practical strategies and exercises to help you uncover deep-rooted fears and motivations, enabling you to cr...

Welcome to part two of our series diving into the harmful myths that keep us trapped in the cycle of people pleasing and self-sacrifice. Tune in as we continue debunking these myths and learning how to break free from their grip. In this episode, you’ll learn: 4 more myths that perpetuate people pleasing behaviors  The importance of recognizing and challenging these myths Actionable steps you can...

The pervasive nature of people pleasing can leave us feeling stuck in roles of perfectionism and guilt, suppressing our true selves and hindering authentic connections. Let's break free from this debilitating pattern so you can live the rest of your life in the freedom of interdependent relationships instead of the constricting codependent relationships that people pleasing inevitably creates...

Is procrastination holding you back from living the life you want? Tune in for a fresh perspective on this sometimes debilitating behavior and what you can do to address it.  In this episode, you’ll learn: Common misconceptions about procrastination and what it really is The role emotions and feelings play in procrastination How you can address the underlying causes of procrastination and transfor...

Do you find yourself trapped in a cycle of worrying about what others think? It's a common struggle that affects our confidence, self-worth, and ultimately, our decisions. But why do we care so much, and more importantly, how can we break free from this cycle? In this episode, you'll learn: The biological roots of our concern for others' opinions Practical exercises to shift your pe...

Does the fear of judgment or rejection have you hesitating to speak your mind? Speaking our truths can be challenging, but withholding our authentic selves can lead to frustration, resentment, and hinder our personal growth. In this episode, I’ll share with you why many of us find it so difficult to speak our truths, the repercussions of staying silent, and the steps you can take toward reclaiming...

Realizing that I was in a toxic relationship with a man I had married just months before opened my eyes to the devastating effects that people pleasing tendencies can have. In this episode, I’m opening up about what I discovered I was doing to attract toxic relationships in my life, the 5 steps I took to heal, and what changes I made to actually begin repelling toxic people and reclaiming my self-...

Do you find yourself constantly asking "why" questions? Why did I do that? Why can't I get control of my eating? Why am I so disorganized? Then you’re definitely going to want to hear the four reasons why the “why” questions can be detrimental to your personal growth, especially for people pleasers. I’ll also share with you what you can do to shift this narrative and create positive...

In this special anniversary episode, I'm celebrating the one-year milestone of this podcast, my 61st birthday, and the podcast's top 10% global ranking. Join the festivities as I share with you the life-changing lessons I’ve learned on my journey to becoming a recovered people-pleasing procrastinating perfectionist. Plus, don’t miss your chance to win an Amazon gift card! Read the rest o...

People pleasers do what they can to keep others happy, but many times we don't realize that this is a way we maintain control. In today's episode, I'll be sharing what compels us to want to control so much in our lives, and how a single question helped me let go of my 17-year marriage.  Stay tuned to the very end because I'm also going to give you 5 things you can do to lessen...