Master Your Marriage

What does it mean when we become 'flooded' during a stressful conversation with our spouse? Last week Robert and Sharla unpacked our emotional 'triggers,' which could lead to 'flooding' – the theme of this week's scientifically strategic episode. It turns out that taking a break during an argument with a loved one can be healthy. It doesn't always make sense to push through a tough conversation ju...

I'm triggered! We hear those words more and more these days, but what does it actually mean? And more importantly, how can we get better at managing our own triggers? In today's episode of Master Your Marriage, hosts Robert and Sharla are providing us with the tools we need to better navigate conflict in our own relationship. This starts with a clear definition of what a trigger is and continues w...

How do we go about creating change on an unconscious level? Perhaps you haven't quite harnessed the power of your unconscious mind and are curious to know what it is capable of achieving. What could harnessing that power bring to your relationship? Call it what you like – the subconscious, unconscious, or even preconscious mind – Sharla and Robert are sharing how that part of ourselves simply want...

Are you looking to bring more peace and harmony into your relationship? A State Of The Union needn't just be a presidential wartime address. In another wonderfully impactful episode of Master Your Marriage, Robert and Sharla are offering us their version of a 'State Of The Union.' There are five key steps involved in having an effective weekly check-in with your partner that will no doubt prove to...

Is it possible to prioritize your marriage without sacrificing your children's needs? Robert and Sharla believe so, and in this episode, they're demonstrating exactly how you can put your children's needs first while also prioritizing your marriage. There's a biological maternal imperative that kicks in when a child is born. Left to linger for too long (consider a child sleeping in the parent's be...

Are you ready to roll up your sleeves and process a past fight ? Fear not. Today, Robert and Sharla are providing you with a tool for effective repair conversations .  And to show you how it's done, this masterfully married couple will be processing one of their past fights (they prefer to call them 'regrettable incidents' ), and showing you how to let go of stubborn resentments, deal with pa...

Is there something you had that you didn't know how good it was until you lost it? Don't wait until your relationship is over, poisoned by resentment , to start practicing gratitude .  Gratitude is a conscious practice where we actively go looking for things to appreciate in our spouse and in our relationship. Practicing gratitude can not only dissolve our resentments , but it can also shift...

Is there a disagreement with your partner that you are still hanging onto? Is the lingering resentment getting in the way of your love? Today Robert and Sharla are talking about resentment – and providing you with three simple steps to overcome it.  Just like the pile of junk in your basement that starts to build up as your clutter gets pushed out of sight for convenience's sake, so too does...

What is the minimum commitment level you need to achieve if you don't want things to deteriorate in your relationship? How many dates are enough ? And how much time should you spend talking to each other?  Human connection is a basic human need. Today we are addressing intimacy – how to improve it, how to feel 'seen' by our partner, and how to experience greater empathy as a result. There are...

What can you do to stop a fight from escalating ? Surely there’s a better way to argue ? If you feel like your communication with your partner sometimes takes a disrespectful turn, then today’s episode is for you.  Robert and Sharla are sharing one of their favorite interventions in couples coaching: it’s a tool to stop couples from letting negativity spiral out of control .  Understandi...

Have you ever felt put down , mocked , belittled , shamed , or called names in what you thought was a 'loving' relationship? Or have you perhaps been guilty of sarcasm , eye-rolling , and passive-aggressive communication that has slowly poisoned a relationship that you didn't mean to? Sharla and Robert are discussing the number one predictor for a divorce : contempt . Once this poison sets in, div...

Saying 'I need help with the dishes' to your spouse is far better than saying 'you are so lazy.' Asking 'why are you always on your phone at dinner?' is not as helpful as expressing that you miss the connection that being with your partner brings when they don't bring their phone to the dinner table. Today, Robert and Sharla are sharing a three-step formula for reducing marital conflict by giving...

Is marital conflict normal ? How about natura l? Could it even be necessary ? Sharla and Robert are here to prove to you that it's a resounding 'yes' to all three questions – and that after this episode, you'll never look at conflict the same way again.  Robert has a sexy radio voice from a late flight and he's also brought back with him a 30,000 feet-high point of view with regard to respect...

How do we keep that early, ‘in love ’ feeling alive ? If the r omance has started to taper off in your relationship, fear not! Robert and Sharla are here to breathe life into your relationship with an inspirational visualization technique to help you fire up your love strategy .  If you’ve been buying your partner gifts, treating them to fancy dinners, and leaving thoughtful, romantic notes —...

If trust is the cornerstone of a healthy relationship , how do we get it back when it starts getting eroded? Robert and Sharla are playing with a delicious paradox today: the idea that trust requires us to be vulnerable — and yet being vulnerable requires trust .  Through personal, relatable examples as a couple , plus some Brené Brown insights, this power relationship couple proves that vuln...

Do you really need another person in your life to be happy, healthy, and reach your greatest potential ? When viewed like this, is codependency such a bad word ? Sharla and Robert aren't sitting on the fence on this one. In fact, they are challenging the stigmas around the word codependency and the way society teaches us to apply that label indiscriminately — and oftentimes detrimentally. Their re...

How do we create a shared, purposeful, and meaningful life together while still appreciating our differences ? This is the question Robert and Sharla Snow set out to answer in this poignant and impactful episode of Master Your Marriage.  The answer lies in our understanding of rituals . Or perhaps more specifically, connection rituals as they apply to couples that may find themselves ‘flying...

Complacency in marriage is the hot topic in this inaugural episode of Master Your Marriage. Robert and Sharla Snow are sharing the techniques and tips that they've acquired in over 31 years of marriage together.  They are bringing value not only by dropping knowledge from scientific-based ideologies such as neurolinguistic programming and the Gottman Method – but by providing actionable steps...

The average couple waits 6 years to get help in their marriage. That's 6 years of pain, hurt, frustration and lost opportunity.  This podcast is designed to help you NOT become a part of that statistic. Hosted by Dr. Robert and Sharla Snow — themselves married for 31 years — The Master Your Marriage show is here with straight-talking guidance on how to fill your marriage with fun, friendship...