Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

Kim is going to take a short pause on releasing Masks Off podcasts as she is preparing for a new launch. Kim is working on pivoting and creating a new business and she is aligning this business with Masks Off. She is taking some time to prepare so that her podcast and message is cohesive and coherent. When she relaunches she will have amazing guests. She is super grateful and appreciative to have...

In this episode Kim and Tia announce their decision to pivot. Tia has decided to focus on her coaching business as well as potentially move into some new endeavors of her own. Kim is working on launching a new business and more details about that will follow. For now, Kim is continuing the Masks Off Podcast on her own. Episodes will still be released weekly. This was an amicable decision and like...

If you are a new mom or even if you had your kids a while ago, do you or do you remember suffering with anxiety? Have you ever heard of postpartum anxiety? While we may know what postpartum depression is, many are unaware of what postpartum anxiety is and how it manifests for new moms. In this episode you will hear from Allison Lieberman, who has first hand experience with this as well as being an...

In this episode Kim and Tia share different life experiences where they have felt bittersweet. Having that bittersweet feeling can show up in a multitude of ways including watching your kids grow up, having your child move out or go off to college, losing a loved one, returning from a vacation or leaving a job. This feeling or emotion of bittersweet is such a good representation of what life is re...

Do you struggle to speak up and speak your truth with others or maybe even certain people in your life? Do you remember as a child being told that you were wrong or “bad” for thinking, believing or speaking what felt true for you, and thus, did not speak your truth? Are you afraid that if you speak up and “rock the boat” with others that you might be rejected or feel another’s disappointment or di...

Do you have a felt sense or belief that you are “broken”? Do you have an inner dialogue that tells you there is something wrong with you or inherently bad about you? We have been conditioned and shamed by our caregivers that we are “broken.” In order to embrace our wholeness we must learn to embrace all parts of ourselves and integrate both the light and the dark. This path is about growing and he...

Do you find it hard to say yes to yourself? Do you notice that you say no when you really want to say yes? This is a very common pattern for those that tend to wear the people pleaser mask and for those that are conditioned to put other peoples’ needs ahead of their own. This conditioning can run very deep and all the way back to childhood. Kim and Tia share how this has shown up for them in their...

In today’s episode Kim and Tia step outside their comfort zone by doing a little promotion for their signature I AM WHOLE course as well as their Connect and Grow Summer Series. If you are interested in hearing more about these two FREE opportunities take a listen. We would love for you to join us in the Summer Series and receive support and guidance as we connect and grow. The links for I AM WHOL...

Have you noticed yourself “playing it small” in life? Do you find yourself being afraid to step into courage and would rather be safe and comfortable? Many of us can be courageous in some parts of our lives and other parts we hide behind the mask of comfortability and safety. The problem with doing this is that we are not in alignment with our authentic self when we do this and it can cause much p...

Wow!!! In this episode Kim and Tia really take off their masks and show how they overparented in the past and lost their identities as a person. Wearing the mask of motherhood can overtake who we are as individuals. Culture as well as ourselves can put so much pressure and expectations for us to show up in certain ways which can lead to wearing the perfection mask as well as the mask of motherhood...

Taking personal responsibility in relationships is so hard. Most of the time we just want to blame the other and point out what the other person is doing wrong all the time. Certainly whenever we feel attacked or blamed by another, we are going to most likely attack back. Here is the problem with this dynamic, it is often too difficult to have a healthy and thriving relationship. If we can’t own o...

Do you ever feel like you just need to run away and get away from life and the people in your life? This is a very common pattern for most people. Rather than taking a “conscious timeout,” we often just run away. In this episode, Kim talks about how she learned this pattern as a child and how it showed up for her time and time again. She learned later in life after doing her inner work that there...

Do you ever feel so overwhelmed with life and other people that you just want to “hit the easy button” and have everything be easy.  Do you blame others and circumstances when you are feeling activated? It can be very challenging being around other people especially when it is your family of origin and it is normal to lose your balance and not take care of yourself especially if you have the...

Are you ready to laugh? This was such a fun and yet, important conversation that Tia and Kim had with Megan. Megan is trying to bring more fun, play and laughter into the world but in particular to the workplace. After working for years in “Corporate America,”  she knew that she had a purpose in life and that she had to take that chance and jump off the proverbial cliff in order to be who she...

What do you do whenever people don’t agree with you? What do you do when you are faced with a situation that activates you and you can’t control the situation or the other person? How likely are you to turn inward and put the microscope on yourself? It has been said over and over that we can not control people or situations. We can only control ourselves and our reactions. Kim and Tia talk about t...

How often have you said or done something to someone and instantly regretted saying or doing that thing?  If you have a conflict or an argument with another, do you go back and do a repair or do you just “sweep it under the rug” and move on? Kim and Tia talk about the importance of doing a “do over” or a repair to help keep the integrity of a relationship. Kim shares an example of where she s...

This conversation with guest speaker Dara Kurtz covered many topics including how to cultivate healthy relationships, dealing with grief and loss, as well as surviving cancer.  Dara was very vulnerable and shared the pain that she went through when she lost her mom at the age of 29 and then later shared the pain that she and her daughters endured when she got cancer at the age of 42.  It...

How often do you use food, work, caretaking, alcohol or any other numbing activity to avoid your feelings and to avoid being vulnerable with another? Do you constantly notice that you are trying to avoid being vulnerable either because it feels too scary to be so or you feel that being vulnerable is a sign of weakness? Brene Brown states that when we choose to outrun and outsmart vulnerability and...

Did you know that avoidance is a strategy for dealing with anxiety or worry? Have you ever noticed that you go into avoidance mode whenever you feel anxious or worried? According to Brene Brown’s newest book “Atlas of the Heart,” avoidance is not benign. It can hurt us, hurt other people, and lead to increased and mounting anxiety.  If this all sounds too familiar to you then you will want to...

Robert Astwood, our guest on this episode, has an amazing and infectious, inspiring energy. Robert has such a vision for rethinking the way we school our youth and we have no doubt that his ideas and vision for changing the system will have a positive impact in the world. He is an advocate for cultivating the whole child and for providing the student with a voice in his/her education. Rather than...

In this episode Kim and Tia have a fun conversation about comparison.  They used Brene Brown’s newest book “Atlas of the Heart” as a springboard for a conversation about what researchers call upward and downward comparison.  Both Kim and Tia take off their masks and share how comparison has shown up in their lives.  As Brene Brown writes, comparison is something that just happens to...

How many times have you told yourself that you were going to start eating healthier, start exercising, start organizing your house or reach out and meet new people and you just can’t seem to do it? It doesn’t matter what habit or circumstance it is that you try to change, you just seem to stick with what is old and familiar. Why does this happen? This is a complex and complicated topic and Kim and...

Robin Arzon, a popular Peloton instructor, often states that pain is your power. This can be true and pain can be a powerful portal to healing and growth if you let it. However, the key is learning to become aware that your pain is an opportunity for you to learn and grow. Many people allow themselves to remain in the victim role and thus get swallowed up by their pain. Let it be said that it is n...

Do you ever wonder why an event or behavior can trigger one person and that same event or behavior has absolutely no impact on another? Do you find that whenever you are activated, reactive or upset that you tend to blame another person or circumstance? The reality is that the reason we get triggered is that there is some emotional wound within us that is getting activated. Have you ever noticed t...

How easy is it for you to let others “see into” your heart.  Do you consider yourself to be guarded when it comes to allowing others to see your true self? In this episode Kim and Tia have a deep conversation about being vulnerable. We live in a culture where it is more the norm to be strong and put together. We live in a culture where vulnerability is viewed as weakness. As a result of these...