Masks Off: Inner Freedom For People-Pleasers and Perfectionists

Do you let your life experiences define who you are or do you look at your life experiences as an opportunity to grow and evolve? In this episode Kim and Deborah Corbin talk about the importance of taking every experience in life and growing from them rather than being a victim to circumstances. If you truly want to create the life that you desire, then one of the important steps is to take radica...

In this episode Kim and guest, Petra Brunnbaurer, talk about the importance of cultivating practices that help your mental, physical and emotional well-being. There is so much pressure in society to live a certain way and to be a certain way and most of us lose our sense of who we really are. Most of us lose our connection to our true essence. In this episode you can hear about the importance of r...

Are you living your life according to what other people expect of you? Do you say yes to people because you are afraid to say no? Do you live in fear of being rejected or abandoned so you just do what others expect of you? Do you try to perform or perfect so that you will receive validation from others? If you answered yes to any or all of these questions then you probably struggle with the people...

In this episode Kim talks with Natasha, a licensed mental health counselor about how trauma can start in childhood and then play out patterns in our adult lives. Oftentimes our nervous system gets triggered from an event that brings about a response to something that happened in the past. We have a choice to decide whether we want to live our lives from a pattern or live a life. The inner work is...

In this episode Kim talks with Ameerah Baker about what it is like to go from Scars to Power. Ameerah shares her powerful story about how she got a large scar from a chemical burn on her chest. She spent years feeling insecure about herself and was not connected to her light within. Kim and Ameerah talk about the importance of doing the inner healing work as well as changing our negative belief sy...

This was a great conversation with Beverly Price. She was so open and honest about her journey from feeling unworthy and not enough to being in a place where she is empowered and loves herself. In addition, Kim and Beverly talk about what it was like to play small in relationships and what it felt like to not speak up and use your voice. If you want some valuable tips and tools to feel more empowe...

Do you feel like you are stuck in your life? Does everyday just feel like you are on the hamster wheel of life? If so, Debra and Kim talk about little tiny steps that you can take to step outside your comfort zone and have a more expansive perspective. Debra talks about how to hire a coach or a mentor who can hold space for you to be your true self and to help guide you in a direction of doing som...

Do you constantly look to the outside for validation? Are you a people pleaser or a perfectionist? Well if you are not sure, listen to this episode with Kim and Katherine. They both share their personal experiences with wearing the people pleaser and perfectionist mask. In addition Katherine wrote “Slay Like a Mother.”  In this book, Katherine talks about how to “slay your dragon” which is ba...

Do you ever struggle with how to relate or show up with your children? If you are a parent and you feel that your relationship with your kids is not what you want it to be, Kim Muench has some great suggestions. She is a parent coach and a mom of 5 young adult children and she has some great advice especially around how to show up for your kids when they are struggling. She talks about how she hol...

Erin shares her incredible story of losing one hundred and thirty pounds without going on a diet. She did this all through changing her mindset. She also helps her clients to lose weight, deal with stress or even just coping with relationships all through changing their mindsets. Kim and Erin talked about the importance of learning the skill and practice of recognizing that you are not your emotio...

In this conversation Kim talks with Natalie Bedard about the importance of healing past trauma. The trauma from our pasts can keep us stuck and from creating the life that we desire. It can feel overwhelming and daunting at times to confront our pain and trauma and if you are willing to take ownership for healing your past, there is such a paradise waiting on the other side. You may need to enlist...

Almost all of humanity has baggage that is generational or as a result of societal conditioning. This is how we develop patterns and limiting beliefs that can wreak havoc on our lives if we are not mindful and intentional about changing them. In this conversation Kim and Robin Hopkins have a serious heart to heart about how these patterns show up in their lives and play out in their parenting and...

Do you let your life experiences define who you are or do you look at your life experiences as an opportunity to grow and evolve? In this episode Kim and Deborah Corbin talk about the importance of taking every experience in life and growing from them rather than being a victim to circumstances. If you truly want to create the life that you desire, then one of the important steps is to take radica...

Do you struggle to trust your intuition? Do you often second guess yourself? Do you stay stuck in relationships or jobs because you are too afraid to step outside your comfort zone and to follow your heart's desire? We have one life to live and this life is not a dress rehearsal. If you are wanting to avoid having deathbed regrets, then tune in and listen to David as he shares his process on how t...

Kim talks with Margot Zaher about the mask of overwhelm and how claiming that we are overwhelmed is just a way to really avoid our responsibilities. Why do we avoid certain things in life? Oftentimes, if we really dig deep we may notice that the real issue is that we feel inadequate. In this episode Kim and Margot talk about the importance of being aware of those limiting beliefs and how they can...

In this episode Kim talks about how we are so conditioned by society as well as our loved ones that success should be measured a certain way. Whether we are starting a new relationship, a new job, career, business or work out plan, we measure the outcomes. It is not that outcomes are not important because they are. It is not helpful when it is the only thing we focus on and we start putting pressu...

In this episode Kim talks with Kim Coffin about how many different masks show up in the bedroom. We can wear the people pleaser mask for sure. It can be particularly difficult for many women to assert themselves and ask for what they want and need when having sex. Women are conditioned to please their partners and also that the purpose of sex is to procreate. This can lead to a very unfulfilling s...

In this episode Kim talks about what a weight perfectionism can be on us. Most of us created this mask when we were young in order to protect ourselves. It may have served a purpose at the time, but now that mask/pattern is just causing us unnecessary suffering. The problem is most of us don’t know that we are wearing this mask and furthermore we don’t know what to do about it. We don’t realize th...

Do you find yourself judging others? Do you have strong aversions to things that other people say or do? Have you ever considered that those things that you are judging about others may also be things that you judge about yourself but you just are not aware of it? This is what shadow work is about. Shadow work is about including or integrating the parts of ourselves that we deny or cut off from an...

What a fun and uplifting conversation with Debbie. She is the host a great podcast, How to Live Fully. In this podcast Deborah gave such great ideas and tips for how to live life more fully. If we truly want to live in abundance and freedom and joy we must practice the art of letting go. Deborah has shared her experience with grief and the work that she does with clients to help them learn to heal...

Rebecca Doring is an epitome of what is possible when you befriend your masks. This means that whenever you do the innerwork and heal those patterns from the past as well as current patterns, you can experience joy, peace and freedom.  Rebecca fully experienced what it was like to wear the people-pleaser mask as a little girl and later the perfection mask while at culinary school. She experie...

In this episode Kim and Ebony talk about the difficulties with wearing the perfection mask. Both were able to identify experiences in their childhoods that impacted the birth of the perfection mask. Sometimes the behaviors and patterns of the perfectionist can be insidious and therefore difficult to identify. To hear more about what it is like to wear the perfection mask and what the antidote is t...

In this conversation Kim talks with Ainee about how to transform one’s relationship with yourself and others through mindfulness and compassion. Ainee also talked about how she struggled with wearing the perfection mask throughout most of her life and that what really helped her was to bring compassion as well as loving kindness to herself. Although it was a process and very difficult at first to...

In this episode Kim talks with guest, Jamie Thurber, about why we start wearing masks. It is so normal to develop different masks as a way of protecting ourselves when we were young. The problem is that as we become adults the masks do not always serve us. They prevent us from growing. It can also be very frightening to take off these masks. The other issue is that we try to get rid of or ignore t...

Have you struggled to set boundaries with yourself? There is actually a positive aspect to boundary setting. Not only do we learn to identify what we don’t like and what hurts us, but we can learn to identify what feels good. We can learn to ask ourselves What do we like? What feels good for me? What brings us pleasure? Or, what makes us feel good in the morning? For so long, we have deprived ours...