Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

A special in-person recording where Mary has a heart-to-heart with her best friend Dahli! You can watch the video version on Spotify or YouTube. Tune in to hear… retreat reflections from Sedona to Portugal Dahli’s mental health journey exploring ADHD and autism our goals for 2025 Remember: live, laugh, love!!! Connect with Dahli on IG: @imdahlidurley Hire Dahli as a photographer or web designer: d...

In some ways, women are known as being the connectors, the party hosts, the drivers of relationships. A byproduct of spending centuries constrained to child-rearing and home-making is that many of us have this bio-cultural skill of building community. Why is it then that many of us feel intimidated by other women, lacking in our female friendships, and worrying if our friends truly like us? And as...

In this week’s episode, Mary discusses the importance of self-trust and how it plays a role in developing a deeper, more authentic relationship with yourself. She shares how trusting yourself means letting go of control over outcomes and embracing the process, especially when things don’t go as planned. Remember: Trust the process, release the result. If you enjoyed this episode, share and tag @ma...

Dear Mary, I would love some of your wisdom in relation to my ex. Things fell apart for reasons that are complicated and awful. But we tried to remain friends. I feel I made an effort, I kept messaging, I asked him about his life, I organized a catch up. I still had lots of feelings to process but I put them aside because I wanted to maintain a friendship. I backed off a bit while he was on holida...

This was supposed to be a well-thought-out, polished interview with artist and author Carissa Potter, better known as @peopleiveloved on Instagram. Instead, this turned out to be a vulnerable conversation about parents, religion, narcissism, and overall, our human-ness. Our guest today, or perhaps more accurately our co-host Carissa has over 800,000 followers on social media but the first sentence...

If you’re going through a difficult time, here are 5 reminders to ground you in self-love. You will learn... Where mantras originate from and why they’re helpful How to work with your mindset to gain greater perspective What to tell yourself when you’re going through a hard time Which one of these affirmations resonated with you the most? Or do you have your own mantra that you love? Let me know b...

If you have a chronic health condition, then you know how extra difficult it is to navigate food and body-image struggles. Between wellness culture telling you to cut out this or that food and lose weight for “health reasons,” it can be triggering to manage your symptoms without slipping back into a restrictive mindset. And the worst part is, even medical professionals prescribe dietary restrictio...

The common misconception is that feeling your feelings means sitting, sulking, and staying where you are until you feel good enough to move forward. But there’s a much more effective way to process your feelings. Tune in to learn how + hear how Mary is applying this technique to her own life. Remember: emotions need motion! If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social...

I feel two paths diverging in my life and I feel drawn to one, but it’s more practical and potentially easier and less expensive to do the other, yet, my heart years for more. How do I know if I’m on the right path? Tune in to hear Mary’s advice on choosing the right path for you. Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.com Get Mary’s self-love books: The Gift of Self-Love , an interactive workbo...

My whole life I have strived to be a “good girl.” But after this conversation with Elise Loehnen, I no longer want to be. You will learn... the history behind the 7 deadly sins and how they’ve been weaponized by the patriarchy who Mary Magdalene really was and how she got mislabeled as a prostitute why thinness is the dominant beauty ideal in our current culture the connection between PRIDE and EN...

Let’s explore what it really means to trust yourself, why it’s essential for your well-being, and how it impacts your decisions and relationships. I also share a personal story about my past relationships and how a lack of self-trust played a role. You will learn... 3 big ways to think about self-trust How to discern between fear and intuition 3 small ways to build self-trust daily Plus, I give yo...

After burning out on exercise during my ED days, 7 years later, I’ve been able to find a much better balance with movement. So let’s talk about HOW I’ve been able to maintain this healthy relationship with exercise– what might help you, what might hurt you, and mindset shifts to make. You will learn... how to stay active in a way that’s sustainable, enjoyable, and free of toxic thoughts. what toxi...

It’s common for wedding vows to mention how one’s partner is their “best friend.” But what does that say about our best friends who we’re not married to? And does this put too much pressure on one person to be everything for you? Back in 2020, journalist Rhaina Cohen wrote an article for the Atlantic titled “What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?” Not only did this piece go v...

We are starting a new series on Mary’s Cup of Tea! “Dear Mary” is your new self-love advice column where Mary answers YOUR questions. Question: “I’ve been second guessing myself so much and feeling my confidence and self-belief waver. How do I come back to feeling in my full power?” Answer: tune in to hear Mary’s advice on how to get your confidence back. Submit your questions: pod@maryscupoftea.c...

The biggest mistake people make with self-love is explained this episode. We talk about how a scarcity mindset is emblematic of low self-worth and why we must be PROACTIVE when it comes to self-love. You will learn how to... Identify scarcity thinking in your daily life Understand the societal roots of scarcity mentality Practice proactive self-care to avoid burnout Remember: Take care of yourself...

You are extraordinary– here’s why. Mary talks about… the dual meaning behind the world “extraordinary” why we should stop trying to be extraordinary how to be a more interesting person If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! Sign up for Mary’s newsletter for more self-love musings: https://maryscupoftea.myflodesk.com/emails And make sure to get Mary’s book...

Mary’s hot take on why “being happy” is not that great of a goal. Chasing happiness can leave you feeling empty because happiness is a fleeting state. You will learn about... why searching for happiness is NOT good for body-image how hedonic adaptation gets in the way of our happiness, no matter how much we achieve or accomplish in life what to focus on instead of “being happy” Remember: Happiness...

This is a wide-ranging conversation with my friend Jessi Jean, a binge eating and mindset coach. You will hear about... how to navigate health concerns without diet culture what to do if you want kids, but feel anxious about pregnancy/ birth how motherhood can change you for the better tips for creating a vision board and setting intentions the key to creating lasting behavior change and achieving...

People-pleasing is engrained into so many of us. In attempts to be nice, we neglect our own needs, trading authenticity for approval. You will learn how to... be honest with other people how people-pleasing relates to self-trust tips for aligning with your authentic self before making decisions Remember: don’t trade short-term approval for long-term authenticity. If you enjoyed this episode, scree...

Negative self-talk is a form of lying to yourself. Let’s explore the power of honesty as a gateway to self-love. You will learn how to... embody a mindset of radical honesty conquer fears by being truthful stop absorbing other people’s opinions as facts Remember: You must be real with how you feel so that you can heal. If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social medi...

Our culture is OBSESSED with female bodies and their appearance making us all “beauty sick.” From constricting clothes to anti-aging skincare products, beauty culture eats up our precious time, money, and energy. This is an eye-opening and deeply-relatable discussion with Dr. Renee Engeln about “beauty sickness,” the disease that plagues so many women (to no fault of their own). You will learn abo...

What would you pursue regardless of the result? Let’s reflect on how being results-oriented removes the joy of the process. Though sometimes results do come, maybe we’d be happier if we were more immersed in the process itself. You will learn how to... Trust your unique process and let go of the need for immediate results Embrace activities that bring joy without a focus on outcome Shift your mind...

When you find yourself hitting the wall of EXHAUSTION, you could be experiencing burnout. What most people don’t know is that our biological stress cycle is not equipped to deal with our modern-day demands. Luckily, there is a cure for burnout and Amelia Nagoski is here to share it with us. You will learn... what causes burnout (and the only CURE for it) how to actually “listen to your body” how t...

Feeling conflicted can be overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to hold you back. Let’s explore how to cope with conflicting thoughts and emotions across different areas of life, from body image to career decisions, and even current events. You will learn how to... navigate conflicting thoughts and feelings make decisions more confidently make peace with all the different parts of you Remember: ”The w...

Women are put into all sorts of boxes i.e. sexist roles and expectations on who we “should” be. Life coach Kara Loewentheil is back to talk some sense into us and teach us how to break these internalized thought patterns. You will learn... what “thought work” is and how it can help your mindset how to break out of the “virgin/whore” + “maiden/mother/crone” paradigms why “positive thinking” usually...