Mary's Cup of Tea: the Self Love Podcast for Women

Let’s dive into some unconscious ways us women tend to sabotage our self-love—especially in times of collective stress, societal pressure, and emotional overwhelm. In a world that constantly demands more from women—more productivity, more perfection, more performance—it’s no wonder we struggle to stay connected to our own self-worth. If you’ve ever felt reactive, rushed, or stuck in regret, this c...

Ruthie Lindsey joins us for a powerful and tender conversation about healing, self-compassion, and what it truly means to love yourself. As a speaker and author, Ruthie shares her journey of navigating chronic pain, deep grief, and religious trauma. Her story reminds us that even in the most painful chapters of life, there is beauty to be found—and that healing is possible when we learn to come ho...

This is a “reverse interview” where Jessi Jean interviews Mary about the aftermath of ED recovery. Let’s unpack a feeling many of us know all too well—feeling lost, lonely, and realizing that making friends as an adult is HARD. We chat about how healing your relationship with food and body image can throw you into an existential crisis. You might have also asked yourself, "WTF just happened?" or "...

A personal solo episode where I (Mary) share my “small joys” i.e. little acts of self-care that have made a big difference. Each one has become a gentle anchor, a little nudge to remember who I am and what I need. And through them, I’m realizing how the act of keeping promises to myself—no matter how small—has become a declaration of self-worth. You will hear about...  6 teeny tiny self-care pract...

Let’s talk about SEX, baby! Shan Boodram, a renowned sexologist and relationship educator, joins our self-love podcast to share powerful insights on how to feel sexy and confident in a long-term relationship. We explore the nuances of body-image insecurities and relationship dynamics, as Shan delivers her no-nonsense advice on how to feel sexy. You will learn how to... navigate body-image insecuri...

What if a little bit of delusion might be exactly what you need to boost your confidence? As the kids these days say: “being delulu is the solulu!” Mary shares 4 mindset shifts– that some might consider “delusional”– but will do wonders for your confidence.  You will learn how to...  - lie to yourself in an empowering way lol  - stop comparing yourself to others with one very simple mindset shift ...

Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your to‑do list? This episode is truly the best productivity advice you'll ever receive because it's built on a foundation of self-compassion. It's  Oliver Burkeman exposes why mainstream time management hacks fail and how accepting your human finitude liberates you to be meaningfully productive. You will learn how to... redefine productivity beyond endless to‑do...

Feeling stuck in a rut? Like you've lost your spark? You’re not alone. Many women experience moments where motivation seems to slip through their fingers, leaving them questioning their worth and purpose. Using a balance of mindset shifts and practical advice, Mary will guide you to reigniting your sense of self-worth. Tune in to hear small self-love shifts will help you get your spark back. You w...

If you’ve ever felt “out of control” around food—whether it’s binge eating and/ or constantly feeling guilty when you eat—this episode will help you release any residual shame you might be carrying. Mary sits down with therapist + nutritionist Ryann Nicole to unpack why binge eating recovery is less about food and more about how we relate to it. You will learn...  - a mantra for releasing food gui...

If you want to stop binge eating or recover from bulimia, then we must address the deeper emotional roots of disordered eating. Mary sits down for a Part 2 with eating disorder psychologist, Dr. Anita Johnston, author of  Eating in the Light of the Moon. In Part 1, we talked about the spiritual side of eating disorder recovery. Now in part 2, we zoom into the emotional layer beneath bulimia and bi...

This episode is my honest reflection on a  breakup that happened 7 years ago —long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. As women, it's hard to choose self-love in the midst romantic love. I’ve shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I’m telling you m...

Let’s talk about body positivity in children i.e. how to help kids build a healthy relationship with food and their bodies. Whether they’re your own kids or perhaps your siblings/ nieces/ nephews/ students, then I’m sure you want them to have healthy body-image. But raising body positive kids can be hard, especially when it means confronting your own fat phobia. Psychotherapist Zoë Bisbing, MSW, L...

Four years ago,  The Gift of Self-Love  was officially published—a journey that started with a little ebook and the sweetest surprise from someone who believed in me. In this episode, I’m sharing the full-circle story of how this went from being a one-day dream to a best-selling self-love book. Plus life lessons on healthy relationships, mutual support, and long-term growth. If you are a woman who...

A special in-person conversation with Victoria Hutchins, a beloved poet, yoga teacher, and now author. CW: eating disorders and brief allusion to suicidal feelings.  Victoria and Mary talk about…  - A Little Life, a novel by Hanya Yanagihara - privilege, hustle culture, and mental health  - mutual struggles with bulimia  - thoughts on weight loss, Ozempic, and bariatric surgery  - how nuance is di...

This episode is for my eating disorder recovery warriors or any woman who has struggled with disordered eating, body image, undiagnosed bulimia, or diet culture in general. Mary shares her lessons learned in eating disorder recovery and how this journey is a gateway to deeper self awareness and of course, self love. You will learn...  - Mary’s favorite mantras for getting through ED recovery and a...

Have you ever looked back at an old photo or memory and suddenly felt a pang of jealousy for your past self? Maybe you used to be more motivated, more social, more confident—or at least, that’s the story your brain is telling you. Comparing yourself will destroy your self esteem. Let's unpack why we romanticize the past and compare ourselves to who we used to be. You will learn...  - the different...

WOW!!! This episode is a must-listen, especially for those in eating disorder recovery or dealing with any kind of disordered eating. In just one hour, Dr. Anita will enlighten you with her wisdom, humor, and helpful tools for healing your relationship with food.  You will learn...  - how disordered eating can be healed through spiritual stories and metaphors  - why an eating disorder is a unique...

Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages s...

If you’ve gone through a break-up recently, this episode is for you. We're talking with  breakup coach Kendra Allen to learn... how to cope with a situationship ending why going “no contact” is beneficial to a break-up ways that break-ups are similar to addiction recovery Kendra Allen is a breakup coach, host of the Heal Your Heartbreak Podcast, author of The Breakup Workbook, and founder of Break...

For her 27th birthday episode, Mary shares 7 lessons she’s taking into her late-20s. Tune in for learnings on self-acceptance, self-awareness, confidence, joy and self-love as a whole. Hopefully these lessons will change your perspective on what it means to love yourself. You will learn about... the dual nature of self-love the surprising secret to discovering your strengths a powerful mindset shi...

If making friends feels hard, then this episode is for you. You will learn... why making friends as an adult feels hard exactly WHERE you’ll find your people how to make friends who live close to you actionable tips to help you find, keep, and strengthen your friendships Our guest, Kat Vellos , is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating meaningful friendships. She’s a speaker and author of th...

(Trigger Warning: Talk of EDs & Fatphobia) Dear Mary, How do I navigate friendship with a very fatphobic and generally-judgmental friend? She is someone I met when I had anorexia. A lot of what we bonded over was the understanding of restrictive eating, because she had struggled with that as well. She is former military and has a lot of military influences to the way she views health and fitness,...

I went to Cuba knowing it wouldn’t be a typical vacation, but I wasn’t prepared for just how profoundly it would move me. To every question I asked my tour guide, the answer was almost always, “It’s complicated.” They say you will leave Cuba with less answers and more questions— here are some of mine: How can something be equal parts heartbreaking and heartwarming? Where is the boundary between su...

Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead. Tune in to learn... Why you might be feeling de-motivated A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…) Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE Remember: You don’t n...

“My new years resolution is to get louder, more annoying, bitchier, and overall a bigger problem that previously thought.” ~@julesandthevibe on TikTok This is not a soft self-love episode. This is an audacious one. Because 2025 is the year of audacity. It’s time to stop apologizing for taking up space, to say the weird thing, and to bet on yourself—even when it feels clunky, messy, or downright sc...