Married to Addiction

Hopefully you know by now that working on our own recovery as wives of alcoholics is vitally important. It can help us get our lives back. It can help us get ourselves back. But what about the ripple effect? How does prioritizing our own personal recovery affect our other relationships, or even other parts of our lives? We will talk about all of that in this episode. Please listen. The effects are...

'I'm sorry. I love you.' We've heard it all before. Usually after a fight with our husbands about their drinking. Have you started just tuning it out? Do you feel like those words are empty at this point? Then this episode is for you. And it might just change your mind.... __________________________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentio...

Our head can be a VERY noisy place when we're the wife of an alcoholic. 'What do I do?!' 'How much has my husband had to drink today??' 'Will he be drunk when I get home?!' 'I can't take it anymore!!!' Sound familiar? In this episode we will talk about the dangers of staying stuck in a toxic thinking pattern...which might be a lot further reaching than you t...

This is something I get asked about on occasion, so I thought I would tackle it in a podcast episode. Is an intervention a good idea? Is there ever a time when it might be a bad idea? What types of things do you need to consider before staging one? I will discuss all of that in this episode. __________________________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers men...

Boundaries. It's a word we are all too familiar with as wives of alcoholics. But it also might be a word that you find really confusing. What exactly *are* boundaries? And why do we need them? We'll slice right through some of that confusion in this episode. _______________________________________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed...

This is one of those 'tough love' episodes. But I only bring you tough love topics when I know they are things that I really needed to hear (and take heed of) back when my husband was addicted. In this episode we will be talking about addiction as an idol. The Bible warns us about having idols in our lives, so this is something we need to be aware of if it's happening. I'll tell yo...

In this episode I am speaking with Dr. Higgins from 'Wired for Addiction'. Her work is both fascinating and incredibly important, so I wanted to make sure you knew about it. Dr. Higgins uses genetic data to both determine someone's pre-disposition for addiction, and also treat it in a way that will be the most effective for that specific individual. This is ground-breaking information...

Did you know that alcoholism can look a lot of different ways? What are those ways? Are some worse than others? Is there ever a time when drinking is not a concern? How does our husband's drinking compare to others? Will it change over time? I will answer ALL of those questions for you in this episode. Be sure to tune in. _______________________________________________________ PLEASE NOTE: Thi...

I remember feeling like I didn't have a life anymore. I had lost myself, along with every single one of my passions, hopes, and dreams. My life was centered around my husband's addiction, leaving me feeling powerless, hopeless, and stuck. In this episode I'll talk about getting out from under feeling 'stuck'. I'll give you some encouragement around this, plus specific ideas...

'A-ha!! I knew it! Look what I found!' And so it began....yet another fight about how my husband had hidden alcohol, and how I found it, and yadda yadda.... Does that sound familiar? Does your husband hide alcohol too? If so, this one's for you. We will talk about why it's a problem if your husband is hiding alcohol. But it might not be for the reason you think.... ________________...

Surrendering when our husband is an alcoholic honestly sounds terrifying. That's like taking your hands off the wheel when your car is about to crash, right? I get it. I used to feel the same way. But in this episode I will explain how surrendering actually makes things easier on us, not harder. We'll talk about why to do it, how to do it, and the part we still have to play in this even af...

One of the things that made the absolute biggest difference for me in my own recovery was learning what things were like for my addicted husband. It not only made me see him in a different light, but it drastically changed the things that were spinning around in my own head on the regular and making me feel crazy. If you don't yet believe that understanding more about addiction can help your s...

This is the follow-up to Episode 59: Answering Your Questions. In this episode I will be answering more of the questions that were sent in by wives of alcoholics. Pretty sure that you have asked yourself at least one of these, so you might want to give this a listen. I hope it helps you.  ________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be...

In this episode I'm speaking with Mariah Rohne, a certified drug and alcohol counselor. She has worked extensively with both addicts and alcoholics and brings to the table a valuable perspective about what things are like on the 'other side'. We discuss what wives need to know about their husband's addiciton, how wives can best help their addicted spouse, and what to do if your hus...

Raise your hand if you're a fixer. *raises hand* When my husband became addicted I swooped in to 'help'. Problem was that my 'helping' soon became fixing, and it did more harm than good....for both of us. In this episode we will talk about how fixing can be damaging, how to stop doing it, and what to do instead. ________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded...

Peace can feel SO elusive as the wife of an alcoholic.  And a new year can bring up so much anxiety about what the future might hold. In this episode I will give you five ways to experience more peace in 2023.  I'll also talk about why chasing peace is so critical...especially right now. I hope you will join me for this one.  ________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded,...

Welcome to Season 4 of the Married to Addiction podcast!  This episode is a bit different in that I am 'pulling back the curtain' on what is essentially the Life Manual for wives of alcoholics that I have created. What is it? Tune in to find out, and hear allll the details! ________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be curren...

Faith. It is vital in our lives as Christian women. But is there ever a time when faith is not enough? In this episode we will explore that question, and I will share with you how it can sometimes look when there is more for us to do than just having faith. ________________________ PLEASE NOTE: This podcast is pre-recorded, so not all offers mentioned/listed will be currently available. 👉🏻 For a...

This episode is a good ol' Q&A. I asked those on my email list what questions they had as the wife of an alcoholic and got a BUNCH of responses! This episode will cover the first ten, but I am sure there will end up being a Part Two, so stay tuned for that. In this episode I will answer questions about everything from finances to kids to drunk driving, so be sure to tune in. I bet some of...

I tried EVERYTHING.  The things I thought I should do. The things 'they' said to do.  The things that seemed right. Even some of the things that seemed wrong (I was desperate).  But nothing worked. All I ended up with was more frustration. I couldn't figure out why ! Even when I attempted to go about things the 'right' way nothing would change for the better. In this episode we...

This life as the wife of an alcoholic feels like complete madness sometimes. We stay in a state of heightened awareness, always waiting for the other shoe to drop. We're confused, we're scared, we don't know what to do next, and we feel as if we're hanging by a thread. We just want to STOP the madness! In this special episode I will tell you exactly what you need to do to stop the...

'Bondage and Torment' are terms that we commonly associate with addiction itself, but the truth is that we as wives can suffer from these things every bit as much as our husbands. In this episode we will talk about what a spirit of bondage and torment looks like, and how these things can take root in our lives. I'll also give you some practical ways that you can begin to get out from u...

There comes a time in our journey as the wife of an alcoholic when we need to sit down with ourselves and ask some questions. We get so caught up in the stress and chaos of everything that's constantly coming at us that we stay in reactive mode, never taking the time to evaluate what is happening to US. In this episode I will give you five questions that you need to ask yourself RIGHT NOW if y...

This can be a really hard line to walk sometimes. We feel like our husband needs our support through this, but we also feel like we are being mistreated because of his drinking and drinking behaviors. A lot of times women will draw a hard line in the sand on one side or the other, but that is not my stance on things. I believe you can remain compassionate (as we are called to be) without allowing...

You know I love you, right? Well I hope that we will still be friends after this episode because I'm dishing out a little bit of tough love. I learned SO many things the hard way when my husband was addicted, and I don't want that for you. That's why I'm here!! So please tune in and listen to the one thing that changed EVERYTHING for me, and is also changing things for the women I...