Married After Kids

Are these 4 marriage killers lurking in your relationship? Discover the key pitfalls that predict divorce and learn how to address them to safeguard and strengthen your relationship. Don’t wait—tune in now to turn things around before it’s too late!   In this episode, you’ll hear: What types of negativity are undermining your marriage The difference between complaints and criticisms The letha...

How do you start a conversation so that your spouse truly listens? And what should you do if their response isn’t what you hoped for? Here’s a hint: the WAY you have these conversations is more crucial than WHAT you actually say (a kind and loving tone makes all the difference!).   Tune in to discover: The significance of waiting to have the conversation if you can't approach it kindly What y...

If you aren’t doing what I discuss in this episode, you definitely won’t get your needs met by your spouse. This is the second episode in our mini-series on how to get your needs met by your spouse. I’m focusing on what we often do (or don’t do) that unintentionally gets in the way.   Tune in to discover: The two things I focus on when clients feel their needs aren't being met by their spouse...

We all have needs. Whether you already know what those needs are but struggle to express them to your spouse, or you're unsure about what needs require fulfillment right now, this episode is for you. This is the first in a mini-series dedicated to helping you get your needs met. Let’s start with the FIRST STEP to take when your needs aren't being fulfilled by your spouse. Ready?   Tune in to...

Energy is a precious commodity for a busy parent like you!   Raising kids, managing a household, and juggling everything else requires energy! When you’re running on empty, EVERYTHING becomes more challenging. So, how can you show up in your marriage and life when you have no energy left? Let’s get into it!   In this episode, you’ll hear: Key questions to ask yourself about your current...

Have you heard of default parent gatekeeping? Likely not.   It’s a crucial issue that could be affecting your marriage in significant ways, leading to extreme resentment, relationship conflict, and parental alienation. Let’s talk about this topic to prevent - or repair - the impact on your relationship with your spouse.   Tune in to discover: What parental gatekeeping is and why it happe...

Are you feeling overwhelmed by a never-ending to-do list while trying to maintain a happy marriage?   In this episode, we explore the challenges of balancing household tasks and childcare responsibilities within a marriage and how imbalances can lead to feelings of exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection.    Figuring out how to do this together will literally make you happier, str...

If you’re not as happy as you want to be in your marriage, this episode is a must-listen. Let’s explore the critical lesson of what we make acceptable and what we don’t in our relationships, and how it shapes our happiness.   Tune in to discover: The essential element that determines the success of marriage counseling or support The hidden trap behind thinking “things will change” on their ow...

Let’s talk about how intimacy goes deeper than the bedroom. In today’s episode, we’re joined by Dr. Elsbeth Meuth and Freddy Zental Weaver from TantraNova Institute. Discover how true intimacy is about connecting hearts and energy, and not just about sex.   Tune in to discover: How to redefine intimacy in your marriage, even if you only have three minutes to spare Which couples are actually h...

How were arguments modeled for you growing up? We don’t want perfection, but how do we fight less and make repairs when we do? Let’s talk about the art of constructive marital conflict - fighting well, making genuine changes, and fostering love and respect throughout. It’s never too late to transform your approach to conflict. Which approach will you adopt today to benefit both you and your childr...

Ever feel like your spouse has all the fun, and you’re left wondering if you’ll ever get the same carefree moments too? It’s a common issue that increases exponentially once you have kids. In this episode, we tackle this issue head-on, offering proactive strategies to spark productive conversations with your spouse.   Tune in to discover: The surprising normalcy of feeling envious of your spo...

Feeling comfortable and confident in your own skin can significantly impact your marital happiness. In this episode, we explore the complexities of body image post-baby, offering insights that resonate whether you're a parent or simply navigating life's changes.   Tune in to discover: The hidden insecurities that can affect how you feel about yourself Navigating the challenges when negative b...

This Mother’s Day, let’s ensure you get the celebration you deserve. Ditch the disappointment for a day that fulfills your true desires and needs this year. And guess what? You can apply the same approach to any aspect of your marriage!   Tune in to discover: How to visualize your ideal Mother’s Day (or any celebration) Strategies to identify your needs and effectively communicate them to you...

Want to get on the same page as your spouse now that you have children? Let’s talk about how to approach these hard conversations (no matter what age your kids are!) to help you feel like a team again.    In this episode, my guest Ashley Chitty shares openly and honestly about the hurdles parenthood threw at her marriage and how they faced these challenges head on while keeping their rel...

Feeling loved is one of the most crucial aspects of a thriving marriage. In this episode, I share practical strategies to ensure that you and your partner feel loved and appreciated on a regular basis.   Tune in to discover: Challenging the validity of our thoughts about our spouse: are these perceptions actually true? One key component to showing love that often gets overlooked, especially f...

The average time it takes couples from recognizing there’s a serious problem in their marriage to seeking counselling is SIX YEARS. I want you to feel loved and supported in your marriage NOW - so let’s face it head-on in this episode!   Tune in to discover: What marriage shutdown looks like, with real-life examples Why simply loving someone isn't enough for a strong marriage, especially with...

Get ready for a deep dive into some fascinating research findings that are going to revolutionize your marriage! I've sifted through the data to bring you insights that are going to be crazy useful in making your relationship the best it can be. Because in the realm of marriage, it's often the little things that make the biggest impact. Those everyday gestures of kindness, the heartfelt words of l...

Ever feel like you're stuck in a loop with your spouse, replaying the same conversations over and over again? Or perhaps you leave discussions feeling more misunderstood and alone than before? Maybe you've even stopped having conversations altogether, knowing that nothing will ever change.   If any of these scenarios sound familiar, this episode is a must-listen. Because deep down, you long t...

Have you heard the term default parent before? It’s something that impacts every household, yet not everyone is talking about it openly to create better relationship dynamics. Join me on this episode as I share more about what it means to be the default parent and how it affects your marriage.    Tune in to discover: What it really means to be the default parent Who usually ends up as th...

Even when something as devastating as infidelity occurs, there is still hope that you can work towards the best marriage you’ve ever had. In this episode, I share a client’s experience of infidelity, and what we did in the very beginning and throughout this (admittedly messy) process. Prepare for goosebumps as we dive into a heartwarming follow-up over a year later - they're now stronger than ever...

Let’s unravel the mysteries of healthy relationships in our society. Because no one taught us how to have a healthy relationship (or marriage), so it makes sense that so many of us are struggling. Join us as we challenge common misconceptions and uncover the secrets to fostering deeper connections and greater happiness in your marriage.   Tune in to discover: The surprising truths about what...

“I don’t know what my needs are in my marriage after having kids, I just know they’re not being met.” Sound familiar?   In this eye-opening episode, I share the (not often talked about) challenges we face after welcoming children into our lives and the profound impact they have on our overall happiness and marital bliss.    Join me as I explore the hurdles of parenthood and share ac...

Welcome to the rollercoaster ride that was our life after welcoming our second child - it was simultaneously easier and more challenging than the first go-round.   Join me in this episode as I share the highs and lows of navigating parenthood round two with an international move and my spouse's deployment thrown into the mix. Find out what worked wonders in our marriage, what didn't quite hit...

Want the inside scoop on what went down in my marriage after the birth of our first daughter?   In this episode, I’m sharing what we did well in our marriage (which wasn’t much!), what did not go well, and how things changed for me - which contributed to the challenges I experienced in our relationship.    Even with all the preparations we made and intentional conversations we had p...

Welcome to Married After Kids! I’m kicking things off by sharing personally about the early days of my own marriage, giving you an inside look at what it was like BEFORE kids entered the scene!   We're diving deep into my past relationships, unpacking the nitty-gritty of our marriage pre-kids – the highs, the hurdles, and the heartwarming moments. Get ready to share a laugh over the things we...