Married After Kids

There’s one tool that shows your spouse you care about how they feel, helps rebuild trust, and creates the kind of emotional safety every strong relationship needs. And yet, it’s one of the most misunderstood (and misused) tools in marriage. I’m talking about apology . Not the kind that shuts a conversation down or smooths things over quickly, but the kind that actually brings you closer. Whether...

Sometimes the biggest shift in your marriage starts with getting crystal clear on what you actually need—and saying it out loud. In this special episode, I’m joined by the incredible Elizabeth Newcamp, military spouse, mom of three, and co-host of Slate’s Care and Feeding podcast, for a real, tender, and honest conversation about resentment, default parenting, emotional labor, and what it means to...

You’ve heard the advice: “Never go to bed angry,” “Happy wife, happy life,” “If it’s hard, you married the wrong person.” But what if I told you that a lot of the messages we’ve been fed about healthy marriages are just plain wrong? In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the real reasons so many couples feel disconnected or overwhelmed after kids and how these common myths are setting yo...

Do you ever feel like sharing your feelings with your spouse only leads to defensiveness, frustration, or being completely misunderstood? Like you’re trying to express something real and vulnerable, but instead you end up managing their reaction or feeling more alone than before? You're not broken (and neither is your marriage) but this episode explains exactly what’s getting in the way of the emo...

Real talk: Marriage after kids can feel like one more thing you don’t have time or energy for. Between work, parenting, logistics, and exhaustion, even the thought of improving your marriage can feel overwhelming. But here’s the truth: your marriage doesn’t need more time or money—it needs intention, consistency, and the right tools (even just a few minutes a day can make a huge difference). In th...

You know I always keep it real with you, and this episode is no different—my marriage is in a rut. Not in crisis, not in shutdown, but just… off. More bickering, more distance, less connection. And if I’m being honest, it’s been really hard. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on what’s going on, why I think we got here, and what we’re doing to climb out of it. Because ruts are part of e...

Ever find yourself planning a celebration (like Father’s Day) while quietly thinking, “But I’m the one doing everything”? When it feels like your involvement in the family is mandatory and your partner’s is optional , that disconnect can lead to resentment, disconnection, and burnout. In this episode, I’m getting real about this dynamic so many moms face—and sharing what you can actually do about...

Even in the healthiest marriages, disappointment is inevitable—especially after kids. Maybe your spouse forgets something important, doesn't show up how you hoped, or just doesn’t respond the way you needed in that moment. It’s frustrating, lonely, and can stir up a lot of resentment if it isn’t dealt with well. In this episode, I’m walking you through how I personally deal with those moments of d...

Whether you're in the early days of parenting or years into raising kids, this conversation is going to speak to your heart. Dr. Joanna Parga-Belinkie, neonatologist, pediatrician, and mom of three, joins me to talk about what babies really need from us (hint: it’s not perfection), how those early moments of connection matter more than we realize, and why the same emotional tools that build strong...

Have you ever found yourself prepping everything before you leave the house—or swooping in to “just fix it” when your partner handles a parenting moment differently than you would? It might feel helpful or necessary in the moment, but over time, it can quietly erode your partnership and leave you feeling more like a manager than a teammate. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden cost of ste...

Do you sometimes feel like, even after years of marriage, your partner still doesn’t know how to love you in the way you truly need? In this episode, I’m opening up about a pivotal shift in my own relationship—one that completely changed the way I felt seen, loved, and supported in my marriage.   If you’ve ever found yourself wishing your partner could understand your needs without you having...

Mother’s Day is supposed to be a celebration of moms—but for many of us, it just ends up highlighting how much we’re carrying, how little help we’re getting, and how unseen we feel most of the time. While the cards and flowers are sweet, they don’t solve the deeper issue of the mental load so many moms are buried under. In this episode, I’m getting real about what’s really going on beneath the sur...

Do you find yourself spiraling after a single comment, text message, or weird tone from your spouse—wondering what it meant, why it happened, and if your marriage is okay? If you’ve ever found yourself overanalyzing or panicking that you’ll never feel truly loved or happy again, this episode is for you. I’m sharing exactly how I stopped freaking out about my marriage (yes, even when things feel ha...

You know something feels off in your marriage—but where do you even begin? When you’re not fighting, but also not feeling close… when you’re carrying the load and still feeling unseen… it can feel overwhelming to figure out what to do next. This episode answers one of the most common questions I hear: “Where do I start if I want things to change?” I’m breaking down where to focus your energy (espe...

You’ve probably heard of attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure — and maybe you’ve even taken a quiz to figure out your own. But what happens after that? Does knowing your attachment style actually help your marriage… or can it do more harm than good? In this episode, we’re unpacking what attachment theory really means in real life and whether it can be the key to a stronger relationship —...

Setting boundaries in marriage should help you feel more respected, connected, and secure—but what if they just lead to more frustration instead? If you’ve ever tried to set a boundary with your spouse, only to have it ignored, misunderstood, or make things worse, you’re not alone. In this episode, I’m breaking down why so many boundaries fail and what to do differently so they actually work. &nbs...

You know that moment when you look at your spouse and wonder, Are we even connected anymore? Maybe you’re not fighting, but you’re not exactly feeling close either. If your marriage feels more like a business partnership than a loving relationship, you might be experiencing marriage shutdown : a slow, sneaky disconnection that erodes intimacy and leaves you feeling unseen, unappreciated, and alone...

Social media has us believe that a great marriage means feeling like newlyweds forever, with constant passion, weekly date nights, and never-ending butterflies. But that’s not real life. And when we compare our relationships to those unrealistic expectations, it’s easy to feel like something is missing.    In this episode, I’m breaking down what a truly strong, healthy marriage looks lik...

Being sick is hard enough, but have you ever noticed how it also stirs up tension in your marriage? Maybe it highlights just how uneven the mental load is or leaves you feeling uncared for when you need support the most. If getting sick has ever made you feel resentful, disconnected, or just plain exhausted in more ways than one—this episode is for you.   Tune in to discover: Why sickness can...

What if the biggest thing keeping you disconnected from your spouse isn’t about spending more time together or even putting in more effort? So many couples focus on what’s missing in their marriage, but what if the real secret to reconnecting is something completely different? In this episode, I’ll help you shift your mindset and show you a powerful way to start feeling closer to your spouse again...

Something sneaky is quietly eroding connection in so many marriages, and chances are, it’s happening in yours too. It’s not just the big fights or major betrayals. There’s something else that builds up over time, leaving you feeling frustrated, unseen, and disconnected. But here’s the good news—once you recognize it, you can clear it out and finally feel like you’re in this together again.  ...

What does it take to build a marriage that not only lasts but thrives for 78 years? After witnessing my grandparents’ incredible love story, I’m sharing the key lessons from their decades together—lessons that can help you strengthen your own marriage today. These aren’t just old-school values; they are the foundations of a happy, connected, and resilient partnership.   Tune in to discover: T...

The little things in your marriage matter more than you realize. Those tiny, everyday moments—how you respond, the words you choose, the way you show up—are either strengthening your connection or quietly pulling you apart. But with just a few intentional shifts, you can start feeling more loved, supported, and connected in your marriage!   Tune in to discover: The hidden habit that leads to...

Ever feel like your marriage is the problem? Like your spouse isn’t meeting your needs, follows through on nothing, or always gets defensive? While those things do need to change, there’s something bigger at play that makes everything feel so much harder—and it’s not just your relationship. In this episode, I’m breaking down the hidden stressor that’s quietly making marriage after kids so challeng...

Parenting disagreements can feel so personal—like you’re being judged by your spouse or anyone watching from the sidelines. But when you and your partner don’t see eye-to-eye on how to raise your kids, it can lead to fights that leave you both feeling disconnected. In this episode, I’ll show you how to navigate these differences and create a parenting partnership that works for both of you.  ...